I heard others say that husband and wife are like a seesaw, when the other party is strong, we have to show weakness, and when the other party is weak, we have to be stronger, but after a long time, I know that not only between husband and wife, but even in many relationships, are seesaws, such a one-up and one exists.

In school, the students in those classes where the teacher is very good will be a lot more honest, but when the teacher's character is weak, that is, when the teacher's character is not so strong, the students will be very chaotic, and even those students who look good on weekdays, those students who seem to be very quiet in the classroom, they will also have some impatience, which does not seem to be a very serious matter, but it is also a reality, so there are many teachers who will feel that it is much better to suppress them first when they are in contact with students, which is conducive to future management。

Not only students, but also in society, many adults are the same, they will always take advantage of loopholes, those people, some of them have taken advantage of the loopholes of the law, some have taken advantage of the loopholes of human feelings, and some have taken advantage of other people's loopholes, this is human beings, this is human nature.

A few days ago in a western restaurant, we were also bored sitting, waiting for the meal, but suddenly a man came in with a child, the child is about 3 to 4 years old, the child is crying as soon as he enters the door, but we don't know why he is crying, but this parent does not seem to want to coax the child not to cry, I think at this time, usually parents will coax the child, but he is not like this, he said some such words, just a few short words, he said, if you cry again, I will throw you out, for the child, this is nothing more than a big shock, but for this parent, I don't think he will do this, at this moment, I also deeply see that this parent is the child's biological father, I think if it is not the child's biological father, people will not yell at the child like this, I think those parents who are not biological, it is estimated that it will be a lot more restrained, their biggest thing should be to ignore the child, whatever you do, pretend not to hear, pretend not to be aware.

Hearing this conversation, I also found that the child did not stop crying in time, but it was obviously much better than before, in real life, in our lives, there are many such words, which are heard by us or other people, that is, sentences similar to how you want to be, I will be like this.

Such a sentence is obviously a kind of constraint, but at that moment, I also thought that there are such means or some so-called measures between people to restrain each other, which is the final fundamental, and you blindly retreat, is this okay?

I don't think so, it's true for adults, and even for students, they're just children, but they can also read words and looks, and they can take advantage of loopholes, are these things born with?

I don't think so, maybe it's some experience that people gradually accumulate in life, but then I also understood that life is like a seesaw, when others are high, you are low, when others are low, you are high, although it is a little simple, but the truth is very straightforward.