In real life, I find that sometimes we are in a dilemma, what is the best choice?

A few years ago, when I got married, I was also faced with a difficult choice, because the people around me have gradually become a reality, that is, when I get married, I have to buy a house, buy a car, etc., and sometimes I find that I really don't want to buy a house or a car, because I know that it is the pressure and shackles I give myself, and later I find out that those who buy houses and cars still have to pay off the mortgage every month. The car loan is really tiring and stressful, but later I found out that when all the people around have their own houses.

When I had their vehicles, I realized that if I kept falling behind like this, I would become the target of public criticism and the focus of others.

Although my life is not bad now, I later found out that buying a house is just a face problem, and sometimes I find that it is still very practical to not have a house, at least there is no pressure of those mortgages, at least there will be no other aspects of thinking, and I can live a more relaxed life.

When the world has become like this, we found out that some of our peers or friends around us, they have not been married until a very old age, maybe because they are insecure, so they are not married, the people around them, their conditions are very good, much better than mine, not only better than me, but also more beautiful appearance and face, but they have never found a suitable partner, has been living a single life, and one day I found that they joked that there are a few big girls in our village who have not yet found a partner, in fact, at that time I also found that they were just joking, but it makes our hearts ache faintly, we really don't know how these parents should choose, it is for the good of their children.

Parents only hope that their girls can be happy, but they are in a dilemma, everyone is asking for a house, as a result, our parents are afraid that their children to other people's lives hard, for fear of being thought by others is a very stupid person, because others want a house, and you don't want a house, this is really a very bad choice, so parents have become the biggest villain, like parents are fighting for the interests of their children, and finally found that a popular phrase in society really sounds too sad, too hurt self-esteem, that is, China's housing prices are raised by the mother-in-law, in fact, when you hear such wordsHow much does this hurt the hearts of those mothers?

They don't want their children to marry into the house, they just want to give their children some security in this era of insecurity.

But in today's society, when we really find that we have a house, a car, and a better life, we find that our life is not as beautiful as others imagine, in the eyes of many people, maybe you can only see your glamorous side, dear so-and-so somewhere bought a house, and then live a good life, and then all aspects are very good, in fact, these are only others can see these things on the outside and a few people in their hearts can see through.

Whether people can be happy or not is not the house or the car, and some people around us, because they feel that people have bought a house in the city, they feel that this person has found a good home, and they feel that this person has found a good home.

In the face of some problems in real society, some people are almost 30 years old and have not yet found a partner, some people are almost 30 years old and have never wanted to get married, and some people are very old and just want to live a single life.

But don't they want to do this? But in the end, they find out that they are escaping from reality, from life, why is this happening, when those parents face the reality of their children and say that they will not get married, how do they feel?

In fact, parents hope that their children can get married and have a stable life, at least in the future life, if the parents are not around, at least someone is taking care of her, this may be the biggest wish of parents, but later I found out that our parents gradually make concessions every time, when we tell our parents again and again, saying that we don't want to get married, they say it's good not to get married, in fact, they also understand that after getting married, there will be a lot of such and such trivial things, to take care of the children, but also to take care of the family's life, that is a very troublesome thing。

But they have all kinds of worries, afraid that their children will not live well when they go to the nursing home in the future, during that time I really have decided to go to the nursing home when I am old, and my mother also says every time that it is good to go to the nursing home, a person is carefree, and there is a salary, and there is no need to worry about so many things when you are old, but later we found out that when we also want to get married, they will say that marriage is actually good, very good, in fact, they hide their thoughts every time, but they don't want to let their children be hurt like this, so they become unassertive and get married, they also think it's good, you don't get married, they also think it's good, but later they find out that these parents are really too difficult, and gradually become the biggest villain in their children's lives, sometimes when they find that there is a problem, they will blame all the responsibility on their parents, sometimes when they are a little nervous in life, they will say that you asked to buy a house and so on and so on, but then we also found that we have all kinds of helplessness, do we really want to marry the house?

Later I found out that naked marriage is really a good option. But now there is no chance of naked marriage, because, things have become a reality, then only slowly move forward, and every time my husband says that he is short of money, I say that he will sell the house, but he is reluctant now, and sometimes he finds that if he is not reluctant, forget it, or live like this, because all the colleagues around him live like this, everyone does not feel anything bad, everyone's life is not much different, who is not much better than anyone, who is not much worse than anyone, the key is that we finally found out that it is really not easy to be parents, how to do it is not right, how to do it will fall into a dilemma, it is really too difficult。