Yesterday, I read a text written by a colleague, and sometimes I think, what is the reason for this?

Many times we are also aware of the existence of the problem, but we can not solve the problem, can not solve it completely, this problem will still be like a cancer has been bothering us, what should we do, we are helpless, so don't be so demanding, tolerance for others is also tolerance for yourself, don't be harsh on others, that is, don't be harsh on yourself, this is my understanding.

I saw what she wrote, saying that people always give the best to others, but others don't need it much, and you don't give what others need, or you can't give it, so it causes some contradictions, others give us the best, but we don't appreciate it many times, what should we do?

In fact, when it comes to such a problem, I realized it very early, but I can't solve it, I can't even change my life, let alone anything else, I can't take good care of what I like, what about the rest?

There is no point in talking about it, in fact, in life, we are really independent, very independent of an individual, has always been like this, at such a moment, I also deeply feel, in my own heart, I like a person very much, whether it is me or other people, you may have such an experience, you like a person very much, and this person does not like you, you always try your best to be good to him, but he does not understand at all, or even ignores at all, he can not understand your hard work, this is secondary, many people live in different environments, inner thoughts and feelings are also different, but sometimes think about it, even your own relatives, people who are very close to you, people who have lived together for decades, can you say that you don't know others?

Don't others know about themselves? But there will still be sometimes, thinking about the problem and others think about the problem is different, or will not know how to pay, how to pay is meaningful, in fact, anyone is hoping that their pay can get the greatest affirmation, although they sometimes do not expect returns, but others should at least be affirmed by others, but sometimes we are not appreciative, but also feel that in such some things, we can not always think of together, sometimes their own pay will also feel that although they have done a lot, but it is also a meaningless distress, this is very boring, what can be done？

Everyone is an independent individual, even if they live together every day, their inner feelings are also different, and the same thing acts on different people, and the effect is also different.

There are so many differences, it's too big, sometimes we really don't have time to take care of it, sometimes we think about it, our daily life is so busy, we have time to figure out what other people think, to figure out what others need?

Sometimes even if you figure it out, you may not be able to guess so correctly, if you can really guess it correctly, you can do everything in place, you can let the other party remember your own efforts, let the other party be grateful, I think if everyone can understand it like this, maybe there won't be so much distress, but in many cases, often not, you do a lot, and others don't understand a lot of situations, when we encounter such a situation, we can only forget it like this, what else?

In the hearts of those children, in fact, parents should be some very special existence, but also in many times, even if the parents say how beneficial to you, how good it is to you, in fact, to treat their own children, I think no parents have other bad ideas, has always been to their children in every way of care, but in some times, it will not be understood, some children still have conflicts with their parents, run away from home, rebellion, and so on, is this difficult?

Maybe it's right, we live like this every day under a kind of happiness, although sometimes we often complain about what we want, parents can't give us, it's not that they don't want to, in fact, it's really their inability, but we still don't understand, sometimes, what do we want?

How can we feel the care and love of others? We are always judging other people's efforts with our own feelings, and others are always paying for us in the way they think is best, because everyone is very busy, I am also very busy, you are also very busy, other people are also very busy, we are not those who are very powerful, they may have a lot of time to guess what others really need, but I have no time, as I get older, I am still struggling to survive as before, it was like this before, it is still like this, what it will be like in the future, no one knows, maybe it will be the same in the future, it is also very possible。

But we still have to accept the efforts of others, accept the care and love of others, accept everything that others give us, although sometimes others give us not what we want most, but this is their greatest wish and strength, what do you want others?

In the past, I had a period of time when I was the most tired, when I was wandering around and didn't know how to continue, I also blamed my parents several times, why can't I be like others, have a good family background, have a good job, how much I look forward to it, this is what I have always looked forward to, but after a long time, I realized that although they really can't give me what I want, it's not their fault, they have worked hard to give us, what else do you want?

When everything feels so ethereal, I think back to the days before, in fact, my own extravagance is also the biggest demand for others, what others can do, there is no need for you to say this, people have the ability, but they really have no ability, this is all they have, what else do you want to ask for?

In the end, I felt that in fact, everything is not someone else's fault, what you want, create it yourself, but you don't have that kind of strength, and so one day, your relatives are also blaming yourself for not being able to do anything, we can also deeply experience the taste of it, the harshness of others is not as good as the harshness of yourself, let yourself progress faster, this is the best way, what you want to work hard, others have given you enough, are you not satisfied？

If everything is so peaceful, then everything will be so safe.