In the past, I wanted to be a good person every time, I wanted to do something good every time, and did something for others, in fact, this idea is good, but it caused a lot of trouble for myself, every time I encountered such a thing, I was also very distressed, at the beginning, although I didn't have any bad intentions, I have always been so serious to serve others, to consider others seriously.

But after a long time, you find that good people are really not good at all, sometimes you find that others don't appreciate your help at all, and sometimes you find that in fact, people don't need your help, it's just that you are just doing it yourself!

Sometimes you find that someone else asked you to help someone, but in fact, they just treat you as a doll!

In this society, especially in a unit, it is not easy to be a good person, and you must know how to reject others.

Everyone has their own work and tasks, everyone has their own things to do, in addition to their own workload, they have to help others do things, sometimes I also find that some of the requirements put forward by others, saying that they have something to do today, or they are not capable of doing it, and then I will help others to do it, but after a long time, I found that in fact, I just added a lot of trouble to myself, every day from morning to dark, but I did not get the affirmation of others, in fact, I am such a person, if I help you, I don't want your return or anything, but at least give a positive lookAfter a long time, I found out that I also paid a lot in vain, in exchange for such an indifferent environment, and then I realized that I still didn't need to pay a lot like this, and I was hurt in the end!

Sometimes you will find that some people don't know whether it's good or bad, sometimes you're obviously helping him, but after time you still don't appreciate it, and some people will quarrel with you for some things in the interest, and then I also found that my classmates said it very correctly, in the unit, as long as people don't quarrel with you, don't have conflicts with you, it's very good, you still want people to dig out your heart and lungs, is it easy?

Later, I found out that my classmates said very correctly, this is really not easy, in the unit can not be too close to colleagues, after all, everyone is colleagues, because of the work relationship to go together, and there is no other relationship, although we see each other every day for a long time, morning to dark, sometimes to work overtime, there will be a longer time, every day is like this, work time together, sometimes will find that they joke when they will say, longer than their husbands together, in fact, although there is a little exaggeration, but colleagues also get along with each other for a long timeLife is also very well understood, but it is still necessary to keep an appropriate distance.

The best thing between people is to have their own space, have some of their own things to do, don't tell others everything every time, and always show yourself in front of others every time, I didn't know how to do it before, every time it is always what it is, so real, so simple.

There are also a lot of people who like to play with me, saying that I am a very real person. You don't need to disguise yourself if you're with me, but after a long time, I realized that people like me are actually very bad!

Every time I always show the most true side to others, and I don't know how to say different things on different occasions, sometimes I find that in fact, I should be able to say different things on different occasions, which is the most basic common sense and the most basic ability of people!

And I don't have the ability to always say the most true words all the time, so how can I do that?

Later, I found out that saying different things on different occasions is a minimum ability. Depending on the time, place, and occasion, the words spoken should be different.

But when I found out, it wasn't actually what I used to think, I used to always say that seeing people say such things, and seeing others say other things, such people are not good, because I always say that such people are too tactful, and they talk about people when they see people, and they talk nonsense when they see ghosts, and such people are not reliable at all.

Yes, such people are very unreliable, but such people can mix well every time, and what is the reason?

Because they know how to speak, and they don't know how to speak every time, and they don't know how to communicate with people every time, which may be a lack of language expression, and I have gradually realized my own shortcomings, saying different things on different occasions, and talking to people when you see people, and talking about ghosts is different, I only found out before that it is actually a lie, or to speak human words, and to speak human words when you see ghosts, and nothing, because ghosts do not exist, and people still have to speak human words, because you are human beings, you don't speak human words, what words do you say？

But later I found out that in fact, I still have to learn to speak, this is the most basic ability, but also the most basic common sense, people are originally living in society, leaving the group of people such an individual has no meaning, whether it is in the family, or in the collective, or in the unit, or in some other public places, we must learn to communicate and communicate with people, learn to be a person who others like, this is the most basic ability, but also the most basic skills and quality of dealing with people, but I did have a lot of deficiencies in dealing with people before, and it is also my own weakness！

I also know that I can't use weakness to compare with the strength of others, but at least I can make my weakness less weak and not so obvious.

Yes, you have such shortcomings, but I also know the principle of the barrel, you said that all the shortcomings and all the advantages together, the shortcomings can still change your life, and the shortcomings can still determine your success, because the advantages may not be paid much attention to by others, and the shortcomings on your body can be clearly displayed in front of others, making others feel very uncomfortable, which may be the most basic courtesy!

Everyone has many advantages and disadvantages, but they all grow up in continuous progress and change.

I still hope that through this understanding, I can live a new self, and I can make great progress and have a better development.