19. Children who love to have a temper (pí).

There was a boy who had a very bad temper, and no matter what happened to him, he would get angry when something didn't go his way. Although he was able to recognize his mistake and apologize to others (qiàn) after the incident, his friends were still fewer. Dad criticized him for this shortcoming, but he said nonchalantly, "Didn't I apologize?"

One day, his father handed him a box of nails (dīng) and a hammer (chuí), then led him to a stake (zhuāng) in the courtyard and said, "The next time you want to lose your temper, put a nail [dìng] into this stake, and when you want to apologize, pull out the nail." ”

The boy didn't understand what his father meant, but nodded anyway.

Soon, Dad saw a lot of nails in the stake. After a while, Dad noticed that there were fewer nails in the new nails, and he began to have holes left by pulling out the nails. Later, a few weeks before a new nail was found.

Finally, one day, the boy came to his father and returned the nails and hammers that his father had given him. He said, "Dad, I don't need these things anymore, I can control myself now and lose my temper anymore." ”

Dad asked the boy to explain why. "When I pulled out the first nail and saw a hole so deep that I couldn't fill it anymore, my heart was shaken," the boy said. Every time I put a nail in the future, I felt very uncomfortable, because I knew that this was another hole that could not be filled. ”

―――――――――――――――――― this is a text I saw in my primary school language book, about the harm caused by children who love to lose their temper to others, in fact, I am also a child who loves to lose his temper, I know that the words we say cause a lot of harm to others, and sometimes the harm caused to others is also heavy, and we also find that if we deliberately hurt others, it may really be a bad phenomenon, because as a person, we should know how to treat the people around us well, and we should know how to be nice to others, but for a teacherSometimes we still have to criticize others, sometimes we don't want to lose our temper, and sometimes we look at the bad habits of the students, we still can't help it, and we always lose our temper. We also want to control our emotions and let us be a peaceful person, always cold and gentle towards everything around us, but sometimes when someone else's fault is beyond our limits, beyond the scope of our tolerance, we will still blame him, and some students will definitely make trouble when we are in class. At this time, we should still stop him, because if we don't stop him, he may not be able to learn things, and some people around him will not be able to learn things, so when we lose our temper, it is not necessarily bad for others. The key should be to look at the context, in real life, we should not be a person who loves to lose our temper, every time we always hurt the people around us, always hurt the people we love and the people we like, but on some occasions we lose our temper, although it temporarily causes some psychological sadness to others, but in the end, think about it, it is indeed for the good of others, we still insist on our own ways to do it, for example, as a parent, you have never lost your temper, you have always done it according to the will of children, this is simply impossible, too ridiculous。 From childhood to adulthood, no matter whose parents were, they have never lost their temper, and there may be very few parents who have never blushed, and sometimes our children, they have all kinds of problems, some have such problems, some have such problems, we still have no temper when we see them, and sometimes we will still guide them in the right direction, but sometimes it is still not effective, which is why some Chinese parents beat their children. I don't think I want to beat a child at all, you can't stand his shortcomings and problems, or can't help his temper, as far as colleagues are concerned, sometimes you can't control your temper, sometimes people may be based on conscience, for this job, you can completely close your eyes and turn a blind eye to the mess. But in the end, although your work is still there, but those children will not come back to their youth, their time will not come again, and a colleague is right, he said that students should be strict, because their time is limited, you say that he is 9 years old this year, but in the next few years he can return to 9 years old to study, 9-year-old course? It is simply impossible. So it's better to be strict with the children around you, although we still have to know how to respect the laws and policies of some countries, not to mention that you can't beat children, disobedient children, but sometimes we lose our temper, we can still say it when we speak, we can't hurt children, small hearts, but when you are angry, we will find that they sit there quietly, they are also very sensible, so that you usually treat them gently, they do feel, like they are very self-righteous, after a long time will find that if it really goes on like this, there will be a kind of consequence of not hitting the house for three days, so sometimes be gentle, let them feel your kindness, in some times you still have to be strict, let them feel your strictness, when we lose our temper, it is not necessarily to hurt others, sometimes occasional tantrums may not be able to control the temper, but we still have to consider from the other party's point of view. In life, it is impossible for people who do not lose their temper, the key is that every time we lose our temper, we must also consider the interests of the other party, consider the reality of the other party, so that it may be a better choice, every time I lose my temper, I should bring some good aspects to others, rather than let me hurt others again and again, causing some shadows in others' hearts, so it should not be.

Speaking of which, I don't claim to be those who love to lose their temper, in fact, there is nothing good about losing their temper, in addition to the harm to the body, but also to the hearts of others, but we really deliberately hurt others, so that other people's hearts have some sad ingredients and factors, this is not good at all, so we should still do a good job of ourselves, shape the character well, so that even if I have some temper tantrums, but, I still feel, after thinking about it, others will not be so angry, just some time ago I also lost some temper for no reason, but in the end I just sacrificed my own interests to protect the interests of others, and sometimes we are the same, in real life, sometimes only to find out that in order to protect others, and at that time some tantrums, those who rush out directly may not be bad, so people who love to lose their temper are not necessarily bad people, so we still don't want to hurt others for no reason, to hurt relatives and friends around us, so we still have to reflect after each tantrum, whether this tantrum is for the good of others, or just to vent our emotions, so that every time we smile, and every moment of tantrums, can bloom the best future。