When many boys and girls talk about feelings, some people always have an expectation, that is, whether they can support themselves, especially some girls, always feel that it is a natural thing for men to support their families, so under the remnants of those feudal thoughts, they have long been such a kind of psychology, and some even say that men are going out to make money, and women are idle at home, and it is okay, what kind of point of view is this, I heard about them when I was in the south, saying that whether it is a man or a woman, when they reach the appropriate age, if they don't go out to do things or work, they will be ridiculed, but we will not hereIn those fast-growing cities, such inequality between men and women will not be serious, but in our places it is very serious, men should support a family, and women can do things, can not do things, although the concept of the new era is that women can also have their own careers, have their own foothold, but you look around, in those rural places, there are still a lot of people idle at home, that is, simply idle.

Those who think that men should go out to work to earn money to support their families, there is indeed no mistake, but women can also make money, two people to support a family is better than one person to support a family, under the influence of these concepts, only to find that people always think like this, when looking for a partner or getting married, the first thing we consider is whether the other party has the ability to make money, whether there is a house at home, whether there is a car, these factors, but why do many people have all kinds of problems after marriage, they always value these external factors, higher than some internal factorsSometimes people always think that those glamorous marriages are very beautiful, generally when they hear others talking, they will always say, who who whose object is working, whether there is a house, whether there is a car, if there is one, it will be said, you look at the object that people are looking for, there is a house, a car, and a good job, this has become an important criterion for people to measure the object, and others will not ask, because when people meet, the first thing they ask is not how the character of the object is, is it good for you?

The first problem is those external jobs, houses, cars, etc., and later I learned that this is because these houses and cars, as well as good jobs, can be seen, and those characters, whether they are good for you or not is invisible, people are always accustomed to possessing these external factors, and do not believe in those internal factors, in fact, whether the character is good, whether it is good for you, it is like a pair of shoes, whether it is suitable or not only you know, but for the car, house, good job, will make you unable to raise your head for the rest of your life, because they will have such a serious comparison psychology, who is how how, who is better than you, but why does such goodness happen to others, why doesn't it happen to yourself?

There are also many people who work hard to marry a wealthy family, constantly train themselves, and then go to material wealth, in fact, think about it, will you be happy with your method of finding a partner?

Many people will say, in fact, I don't know if I will be happy, but I know that I will live a rich life, because money can solve most of the problems in life, it is true, because they are also worried, just like when people choose objects, you can choose to cry in the BMW, you can also choose to laugh on the bicycle, but there are also many people, who will not laugh when sitting on the bicycle, who will cry on the bicycle, you say, if this is the case, crying on the bicycle, it is better to cry on the BMW, anyway, it is better to choose better material conditions, so that at least you don't have to suffer in life。

So in many cases, slowly people regard these invisible factors as a necessity in life, and there is a reason, this is really a headache, when looking for a partner, it is not with a correct mentality to find, many when talking about feelings, it will be a man to invite a guest to dinner, very few AA, which has caused some women to rely on love to eat mixed meals, looking for meal tickets, of course, I believe that there are many girls who are good, not such people, but those who are looking for meal tickets are indeed not easy to find, and there is no writing on people's faces, but I think it is still better to live。

Looking for a partner to put those material conditions in the first place, of course, some days are unhappy, because you are not from whether he loves you or not, whether he has a good character, whether he is good to you, these issues to consider, so when you are looking for a partner, after getting married, you will find that those material things are far from having the spiritual power to move people.

If two people work together to live, life will definitely get better, but I think if all these factors are accounted for, it is indeed rich and handsome, capable, good character, good to wife, and car and house, of course this is the best, but such people are few and few.

And when I was in college, some girls fell in love with boys in order to find a meal ticket, and their living expenses were not enough, so they found a boyfriend, which could last for a short time, and only a few parents would let their children fall in love with each other on an equal footing, and have their own money in the process of falling in love, so that at least they could have a minimum of self-esteem.

Even if you are in love, you won't feel that you will be looking for a meal ticket, you are looking for a partner, this is a very pure feeling, this is precious, and those feelings that are not mixed with any other factors are of course the most precious.

Why use a meal ticket to pollute pure feelings? But I think people looking for meal tickets also have difficulties in finding meal tickets, after all, what kind of people in society have, let's just do our own good, those looking for objects or looking for meal tickets to distinguish, don't because of their own small mistakes, and a momentary deviation in thinking, and become the other party's handle, or on the premise of their own ability, to be an independent person with the ability to make money, to be a financially independent person, don't affect the relationship between two people because of the meal ticket, this is my opinion, because there are many couples who will live unhappily because of money, and there are some women who give up their jobs for men, give up your financial ability, and then become a housewife, so that after a long time, there will still be some family friction, because who would want to keep raising a person who does not make money?

Sooner or later, it will cause family and psychological imbalance, so it is better to separate the search for a partner from the meal ticket at the earliest time.