A few days ago, someone else had something to ask me, and I agreed at first, but it didn't take long for this thing to happen, that is, in the next time, another person told me that she also had something to ask me to help, and what they asked me to do happened to be at the same time period, at the same point in time, do I have a doppelganger technique?

No, and I could only do one of them at that time, that is, I could only help one person, and at this time, we have to learn to refuse others, I once said, there is something to try to help, but I didn't say, there is something to help, although it is only two words, but the tone and result are completely different, I want to try to help others, but there will still be times, we have more than enough strength, can not agree to help others, such a time may be more than one, so we still have to learn to refuse others, if you don't know how to refuse othersIt's really not worth it because I wanted to help others but brought a lot of trouble to my own life.

But in my heart, I don't care who you are, there must always be a first come, first come, first to agree to others, or to do it according to the agreement, and then ask me to help others of the person, I have to refuse him, even if he is the leader, maybe his matter is more urgent, in this case, you can still do it for him first, but under the same emergency conditions, or according to the order of first come, first come, first to explain it, I think anyone can understand, you can't do it, what if you don't refuse?

People have to learn to help others and learn to increase their praise, but if they can't do it, they have to refuse, which is human nature and can be understood by anyone.

When people help others, they are actually helping themselves, so do more things, there is nothing at all, but if you are obviously idle, but refuse others, others may not understand you, but you have your own things to do, or have promised others things, then do it according to the original plan, don't change it like this, for a while promised others to help others, and then refuse this person, to help others, so I think it is inappropriate, or to distinguish priorities, I think as long as you are worthy of your conscience, or to do it in a good order, so it is a correct choiceI think as long as you treat others sincerely, others will treat you sincerely, this is mutual, what you give, what you get, it's like planting melons and getting beans, what you give, what you get, this is the final result.

Therefore, in real life, you must know how to help others, but also know how to refuse others at the right time, if you blindly do it, but do not know how to reject others, all things have to be done by you alone, then what about the rest of the people?

Therefore, learning to reject others is also a science, and it is necessary to accumulate it in life, and to constantly think deeply, and after a long time, it is natural to know when to promise others and when to reject others appropriately.