Not speaking ill of others behind your back is one of the most basic qualities. The above is my point of view, in fact, in real life, I always feel that the relationship between people and people, not too close, because between people, if you go too close, there will be a lot of words, there will be a lot of things to say, as the saying goes, is what people often say about friends who have nothing to talk about, but I didn't say anything bad about such friends, but people have been together for a long time, or they can't avoid gossiping about others, saying other people's rights and wrongs.

People still have to get along with others, don't say bad things about others, you must say good things about others, if you want to do this, first of all, you must be a broad-minded person, don't care, people have shortcomings, no matter what kind of person they are, even if a person is good enough, he (she) also has shortcomings, but when you find other people's shortcomings, you should be tolerant, don't be like a person who was stabbed by the other party's shortcomings, and then when you are with others, if you talk, you can find some other topics, not related to work, not related to these people around you, don't say these things, find some other things to talk about, and a good choice.

If you say bad things about others, this person who listens to you, he will definitely think that you can say bad things about others with him, and you and others will definitely say bad things about him, so that after a long time, there will still be a day of estrangement between you, and you say bad things about others, once it reaches the ears of the other party, it is really the biggest harm to the maintenance of the relationship between you, and the relationship between everyone can be very good, but because of some gossip and guilty, why bother?

It's better not to say anything, it's better to let yourself have a few more friends than a few more enemies, although I use the word enemy a bit exaggerated, just because of some gossip, just because of the bad things you said behind your back, and ruined the relationship between you, ruined the friendship between you, it's really not worth it.

We human beings, people like to listen to other people's gossip, so when people are together, they will always chat, talk about this for a while, talk about that for a while, in fact, everyone wants to listen to these gossip, I don't know why, but don't say bad things is the best choice.

Sometimes, if you can't control yourself well, you feel that you can't help but talk about the advantages and disadvantages of others, or don't stay with others for a long time, when you have time, you can stay quietly alone, think about problems, read a book you like, drink a cup of tea are very good choices, my meaning is very simple, that is more time for yourself, less gossip with others, when you are free, find a way to improve yourself, is the longest progress.