I read a small article yesterday, saying that it was a young man, just graduated, found a job, with an annual salary of 100,000, but after going to a class reunion, he has been unhappy, which makes others puzzled, I don't know what the reason is, and then asked him, what is the annual salary you are looking forward to, he said, 30,000, everyone was stunned, you are looking forward to an annual salary of 30,000, but now you can get an annual salary of 100,000, why are you unhappy, he said, I was a not very good guy when I was studying, he earned more than me, his annual salary is 300,000, others persuaded him, you don't listen to others say this, he is not necessarily like this, I guess it's boasting.

The problem illustrated by this story is the psychology of this young man's comparison, if you are a good person, please don't compare, what's the point?

It will only make you more frustrated, in fact, there is no good boundary between people at all, who stipulates that if you don't study well, you may not be able to make money, besides, who stipulates that you will make more money if you have good academic performance, this person's thinking is still not converted, people still have to look at their previous self, as long as they have made great progress, it is a good thing, don't always compare with others, maybe you and him are not comparable at all.

Besides, even if that's the case, the money that person earns is someone else's, does it have anything to do with you?

Also, when you hear such a news, it's just that you're very angry and hurt your body, and nothing else has any effect, so it's better not to listen to these and work with peace of mind?

I'm much better than I expected, and that's something to be proud of. This reminds me of a former classmate, one of her classmates went to her city to see her, they used to have a good relationship with classmates, after meeting, they exchanged pleasantries, and then chatted about their respective situations, after chatting, my classmate began to be psychologically unbalanced, when she told me, she was not in a good mood, or thinking about why she has nothing now, except for herself, nothing else, no car, no house, and her classmate told her that the house he bought in Shenzhen, and also bought the car, I said that it is indeed worthy of envy, but have you seen his car？

In fact, he didn't see his house? In fact, he went by train, and he didn't even bother to show my classmates the train tickets, so my classmates believed it, and I don't know if he really had a house, whether he really had a car, but he said that, my classmates were in a bad mood, so I analyzed it with her, and I said you didn't see anything, why are you so sad?

My classmate thought, yes, he said he had a car and a house, but I didn't see anything, why should I be sad, I could also say that I had a car and a house, I said yes, you say this, he won't know whether it's true or false, in fact, who would have thought that classmates would meet just to brag and compare with each other, because everyone has such a psychology, we were in the same class at the time, and even some people were not as good as me, what happened later, in fact, people are not comparable, maybe people's emotional intelligence is high, or other reasons？

Don't judge everything by grades, right? After saying that, my classmate instantly disappeared and began to be happy, but I regretted not telling him that I was doing well now.

My classmate just told the truth and gave the other party a reason and opportunity to despise him. Because when we were young, when our parents scolded us, we would always say, you look at who and whose children are doing, how are they, at that time we don't know the psychology of not comparing with others, just accept such a statement, say it many times, and deeply want to compare with others, and parents when they quarrel, they will always say, you look at other people's husbands or wives how they are, and how you are, even now mothers sometimes get angry or say, you look at other people's daughters, you look at you, this has invisibly caused a kind of comparison, I will reply, you think other people's daughters are good, then you let the family be your daughter.

This is a very serious comparison psychology, always compared with others, who is how and how, but people have a lot of differences, sometimes saying this does help us become better, but there are also a lot of disadvantages, everything has two sides, and this thing is the same.

Some time ago, my little nephew bought a water cup in the supermarket, I bought her what she liked, at first she picked up something, that is, she liked it, I helped her to buy, but when she had decided to want this water cup, she suddenly saw a different water cup in another place, and then put down the water cup that she liked, just took a long time to choose, and I had to buy this, I don't know why, so I asked her, didn't you choose it very good just now?

She explained, who in our class also uses such a water cup, I want to buy the same as her, I said, buy the same for, it's easy to get confused, but she still insisted, I must be the same as her, not only to buy water cups, but also to buy clothes, when we were young, what others wrew, we also wanted, and sometimes a large number of students in the class or more than half of the students wear the same clothes, like school uniforms, but this is obviously casual clothes?

Wear it like this, others buy it, and you buy it if you think it's good, and you never know why you want to wear the same, is it for equality?

Also, we have made an observation that the average elementary school student does not pay much attention to what they wear, but those students above the second year of junior high school are better dressed than the other, why is this?

They are always comparing, who wears good clothes, and they don't have it, then buy better, I have seen a friend's child before, when he was in junior high school, he always asked for a few hundred yuan of clothes, and he didn't wear bad clothes, saying that it was not good-looking, you say, just a teenager, and such pickiness, it is incredible, a teenager knows to wear famous brands, what kind of position do they put in their studies, if they can really compare from their studies, but they won't, always compare on some irrelevant thingsCare.

Besides, there are many such cases, why is this happening? It is all those comparison psychology that is at fault, and it is still necessary to curb the occurrence of such strange phenomena.