☆、07152 - Yes, but not necessary

When we can't get it all, we need to learn to make trade-offs. Some people can come and go very close, some need to be very far away, some need to be separated by five meters, and some need to be separated by two meters. The actual distance is greater than the best distance is a waste of the fate of the encounter, the actual distance is less than the optimal distance is the destruction of the fate, only at the just right distance, can the fate play the greatest benefit.

If I fall in love with my brother, at most a few years, we will definitely break up. Let's say the proper distance between me and my brother is three meters, then the distance during the relationship is one meter, and after the breakup, the distance will increase to ten meters. In other words, after the breakup, my cooperation with my senior brother will inevitably be much weaker than it is now, and the benefits I can create will be sharply reduced.

It's not worth exchanging a few years for a thousand years away. Monks live a long life, and short-term things like love are just a waste of time. The duration of the feeling of love is very short, what is the seven-year itch, love becomes family affection is a cliché, even the hundred-year life of mortals is extremely difficult to find a love that can last a lifetime, but it can be found every day when you break up and become enemies, not to mention in homicide cases, how heavy is the proportion of love murder.

Falling in love with this thing, it can't create much benefit, and it's easy to hurt the body, heart, money, and face, if it's not very necessary—such as the cultivation of the Yuelao line—it's better not to get involved easily.

Besides, if I fall in love with my brother, what will happen to me, let the second simulate it. He's still busy with work, I'm busy playing, and the most comfortable thing for both of us is still the same as it is now. And if you have to do some things that must be done as a couple, such as kissing and hugging or something, you can do it, but it doesn't seem necessary.

I don't know what Big Brother thinks, but I don't crave intimate physical contact with anyone. Although sometimes I think about whether 'sex' is necessary in my practice, I never think about whether contact such as kissing and hugging is necessary, because I know that it is definitely not necessary. I don't need to rely on physical contact to get satisfaction or pleasure, I am satisfied with the person I like, and I am more defensive when I get closer. For example, when I hug, I can't help but imagine the other person's hand wrapping around my back and stabbing me.

Even in the face of my absolutely trusting father, if he suddenly touches me when it is not objectively necessary, I will first have a little subconscious resistance reaction, which is a conditioned reflex established by long-term defense training, if you want to suppress it, you have to give me a little preparation time first, that is, to remind me first, 'it's time to touch'. But when a pair of lovers get along, before hugging, say 'I'm going to hug you, please prepare', and the atmosphere is gone.

Therefore, it is not popular in the cultivation realm to fall in love, either it is a cannon friend or a Taoist couple, the former is to ask for pleasure and cultivate after being ready, and the latter is an internal existence that integrates into one, does not distinguish between each other, and becomes the internal existence of each other's defense system, and will no longer be rejected by the other party's defense. If you can't fall in love, in addition to simply using this as a cultivation path, it is really too bad for the monk to touch it.

☆、07153 - I like solid things

Pei Jianzhuo: "It's not one or zero, there is no fraction." ”

Xiao Shell: "Either you want it all, or you don't want it all, so why can friendship be deep and shallow?"

Probably because friendship has no responsibilities. If you are willing to interact more, you can go deeper, and if you don't want to, you can go from shallow to deep or from deep to shallow, without a sense of constraint.

There may be some people in the mortal world who will say, "Since we are friends, we should ...... them", but there is almost no such mention in the cultivation world, and if anyone is unilaterally asked for help by a guy who is a friend, then it is likely to reply directly, "Now that you have broken off your relationship, you are not a friend."

The monk's sense of self-centeredness is engraved in his bones, and even the slightest decent monk will recognize the selfishness of others while being selfish. In other words, while the monk does not easily help others, he also accepts that others do not help him easily. By default, no one needs to be selfless, just need to have an exchange of interests.

Even with the relatively common mutual help between the sects, on the one hand, it depends on the sectarian atmosphere, and the sects that are proud of killing each other also exist, on the other hand, the same sect can strengthen their own sects, that is, let their own sects become more powerful backing for themselves, which is fundamentally for themselves.

This kind of selfishness may seem indifferent, but counting the data of the Xiuzhen Realm, it will be found that such a universally enforced selfishness has not caused the Xiuzhen Realm to fall apart, nor has it caused serious turmoil, because when a rule is implemented for a long time, it will inevitably gradually find a way to balance and continue.

What kind of selfishness can only obtain short-term small profits, and will bring big disasters in a short time, will be eliminated, and what kind of selfishness can promote a win-win situation for all parties without negative effects, will be retained and optimized. Constantly improve the rules over time, and in the end, selfishness can also achieve righteousness.

Selfishness and wanting to live well are an innate instinct of living beings, and it is not wrong in the first place, nor does it need to be criticized and defeated. There is no need to force selflessness, but only need to establish rules for selfishness, distinguish between small and big profits, realize that there is better than good, know that appropriate sacrifice of small profits can be exchanged for big profits, and then selfishness can be beneficial and harmless.

For oneself and to help others, there can be no contradiction.

Xiao Shell: "Actually, there is no friendship, right? There is no family affection or friendship, it's just interests?"

Let's just say that. Consistent interests are friends and partners, and opposing interests are enemies. Feelings are too ethereal, and monks like real things. It's cold, but I feel quite comfortable. Anyway, the set of moral kidnapping is definitely not good in the cultivation world, even if someone will mention it, but it can't become a climate.

Shell: "It's good, I like it too." ”

☆、07154-Proactive

Pei Jianzhuo: "You don't need to distinguish emotional attributes, just do what you like." ”

Yes, I like to play with my brother, if I find that our Tao is compatible in the future, I will become a Taoist couple, if the Tao has always been independent of each other, it is a good relationship with the same door.

The elder brother often opened a little back door for me, and often used me to set up his bureau, and I borrowed the elder brother's brain from time to time, and from time to time I shared interesting things with him. It doesn't matter what kind of relationship these are, as long as we find a way for both of us to feel comfortable together, and feel that cooperation is better for both of us than separation, that's it.

Defining your own behavior less can reduce some of the redundant constraints. It's not that 'what kind of relationship we are, so we should get along according to the definition', but 'we do it anyway, and what relationship others want to use to set our model, feel that any relationship can't set us, make others have a headache, and it can't affect us'.

Do what you love and be the person you feel comfortable with.

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When I arrived at the Spirit Fish Breeding Area of the Beast Control Peak, I was unsurprisingly warmly welcomed.

"The second son is finally out of the customs?"

"You're out of the customs, aren't you drifting around in a daze?"

"Do you want to eat fish here? Come on, come on, these are the best. The ones over there, though tastier, have already been booked and can't be sold to you. ”

"Are you eating up all the fish you raised? The point of the spirit fish is to raise, the longer it is raised, the more delicious it is, and how to keep a few to plan to raise for a lifetime. ”

"Don't expect to put into practice that kind of limit theory. There are many people who want to keep the extreme beauty of the Ice Flame Stone, how many can really keep it?"

"There are fish to eat today. ”

Before I could speak, they had already prepared the fish rings that were going to be sold to me, just waiting for me to pay.

Seeing that I didn't pay for a long time, they were still puzzled: "Your fish should be directly put in your spirit treasure space, and you don't need to take something else to put it, right?"

The first batch of spirit fish in Xiaosui Space was also actively sold to me in this way, and I only came here to see the classic delicacy alive - I ate it at a very young age after I died - and I didn't plan to raise it myself.

☆, 07155 - Spirit Food

This time, although there are actually a lot of spirit fish in Xiao Suili - this thing has a very strong reproductive ability, and Pei Bing, the main eater in Xiao Sui, prefers Tongming fruit and doesn't particularly like spirit fish, and only eats one in two or three days, so the consumption is not big - but I thought that I could compare the official professional breeding products of Yunxia Sect with the casual breeding works of a layman like me, so I bought them according to their wishes.

After I bought it, I was in a trance: they are so actively selling, could it be that they can't sell?

No, the taste is okay.

I asked them about their sales.

Fish Farming Disciple: "It's always been like that, there must be money, but it's never prosperous." It's just a kind of food with abundant spiritual energy, spiritual rice, spiritual spring water, and all kinds of spiritual fruits. ”

Me: "The effect of using these foods to replenish the aura is much milder than the spirit absorbing stone, right?"

"Yes, it's also slow to replenish, and it's not easy to save. These things need to be alive or fresh to have enough aura, dead or parts will escape after a little longer after leaving the main body, many low-level storage utensils can't prevent this escape, only high-level things that can support living things, such as storage artifacts and portable plantations, can be installed for a long time. ”

"In terms of portability, it is far worse than the spirit stone. ”

"Spirit stones are just as gentle if you suck them slowly. When using spirit stones, it is because there is a chance to quickly absorb a large amount of aura, so it will cause a great burden on the user's body, and the amount of spiritual food eaten is because before the aura exceeds the upper limit of the eater, the eater will first feel full and overeat, so the eater is not easy to be hurt by the aura in the spiritual food. ”

"If you don't eat and only absorb the spiritual energy in the spiritual food, you may not be able to digest it in time like a spiritual stone and hurt the meridians. ”

"The aura in the spiritual food is too scattered, it is not easy to absorb in a directional manner, when eating and digesting it, the spiritual energy is still continuing to escape, if you want to recharge, it is really not suitable for using spiritual food, spiritual food is more suitable for daily recuperation, and tasting delicious. ”

"Food with abundant aura is really delicious, even if the aura escapes quickly, it will leave a taste in the mouth when you bite into it. It's not as boring as a spirit sucking stone. ”

Me: "Spirit food, spirit stones, and snacks, these three words have the same pronunciation, and they are all commonly used, which is too easy to confuse. ”

"There is no ambiguity in the monks, is it? When we listen to people, we not only listen to the sound, but also feel the semantics of the speaker, and we do not confuse food, stones, and leisure. ”

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