Life is like sailing against the current, if you don't advance, you will retreat.

The times are developing, the society is progressing, everyone is studying hard, working hard, and using their own practical actions to achieve their goals and life ideals.

It's not scary to be better than you, it's scary to know that people who are better than you are working harder than you.

My sister was 5 years old that year.

The houses of the neighbors were repaired and repaired, built and rebuilt.

The neighbor on the west side of my house has become a well-known "10,000 yuan household" in the local area, and more than a dozen rooms have been built in the south of the main house, and motorcycles and cars have been replaced one after another. The neighbors on the east side have enlarged, renovated, and heightened the main house again and again, and the south house has also increased several places, connecting them into a large area.

As for us, the whole family is still huddled in that little south room. Not only has there been no change in the slightest, but there is not even a decent household appliance at home, only a radio that I don't know where the hero picked it up, as the only entertainment facility in the home.

As for the furniture, it is just a new large cabinet that can be lifted up and down to store miscellaneous bedding. Is it really that hard to improve the standard of living?

One day, my mother said to my father, "Isn't the government now supporting bank loans? Let's borrow some money from the bank and open a small shop to sell snacks and miscellaneous goods." The cost is low, and you can make some money, isn't Lao Yang next door just selling vegetables to start a business, they can make money, and we can't lose it. When the time comes, you go to buy, I come to see the store, it is said that renting a house with 30,000 yuan to buy can be opened, what do you think?"

"Do you think Lao Tzu looks like a seller?" the hero pouted, looking like a cow coaxing, and his words were full of disdain for the profession of "selling things".

A few months later.

"Hey, let's open a grain and oil store in Zhangluo together, Dapeng's house in the front yard opened a grain and oil store, I inquired, saying that the cost is mainly the money of the store, and the grain and oil are all sold after the bill, and the cost is not large, this is also very feasible, can you do it?" The mother thought of another idea.

"Hmph! I don't like Lao Tzu anymore, don't I? Don't you need money to open a grain and oil store? Don't you need to repay the interest on the loan? Who is the loss?"

Once again, the flame of passion for doing business was ruthlessly extinguished.

Half a year has passed.

Mother couldn't help but put a new way of making money on the agenda: "Let's open a tailor shop, mainly to sew broken clothes for people, needlework, sewing machines I can do, aren't you worried about loans and interest, we don't need loans, no interest payments, and no need to rent a storefront this time, I can do it at home after work." The main thing is to buy a sewing machine. Aren't you usually able to chat with others when you have nothing to do at home, you can just give me publicity everywhere, so that the more people know, the better, so that you can attract some business, and the cost of this is lower. A sewing machine is not expensive, you can buy it for five or six hundred yuan. ”

"What do you mean that I usually like to hang out and chat? How can you be such a demon as a woman? Do you mean that if the cost is low, you don't have to spend money? Do you think it's easy to get a deal?"

The proposal was rejected again, and the mother was speechless.

A year later.

My mother's two younger brothers came to the house, which was my uncle.

The uncles were brought up by their mothers, and they are also sisters and mothers, so they have a deep relationship with their mothers, and their emotional foundation is very good.

Since there is no telephone, there has never been too much intersection on weekdays, and I don't know much, but seeing that my sister and brother-in-law's life is a little tight, I temporarily wanted to help and improve my sister's living conditions, so the second uncle opened the conversation box first: "Brother-in-law, let's discuss something, you and my sister think about it to see if it's okay." Our brothers contributed the capital, you and my sister contributed, and we worked together as a family to open a store and sell some clothing, shoes and socks. Usually you work hard, responsible for the purchase, ordering, distribution, watching the store and selling things to let my sister come, she is a woman to buy goods must be no problem, when the time comes, I will lose my brothers, and earn our three points. What do you think?"

The second uncle is five big and three thick, and he is 180cm tall. A fierce and vicious appearance is no less than that of the black whirlwind Li Kui, and when he speaks, he roars like thunder, which makes people shudder. But the second uncle is a warm-hearted, upright personality, and a cheerful person.

The hero is a person who bullies the weak and is afraid of the hard, and his head shakes like a rattle: "No, no." You two brothers should do it yourself. Your sister and I have very good units, with a fixed salary every month, and a stable income in drought and flood. We are not suitable for trading, and we are not the kind of material for trading. In fact, there is still a sentence in my father's psychology that he did not say: "If you show up in business, Lao Tzu can't afford to lose that person!" Of course, he didn't dare to say it in front of his brother-in-law.

When the second uncle heard this, he blew his beard and glared at his father: "Look at your life, how good is your life? After so many years of marriage, Xiaowei has grown up and still lives in Xiaonanfang." Look at your two neighbors, what kind of life are they doing? Basically, every two years, the ground is broken and renovated, aren't they just selling vegetables? If you rely on your little 'dead wages' alone, you will never be able to make a fortune. ”

"It's brother-in-law, you don't have to pay a penny, we will pay all the capital, and we will divide the money if we make it, if you don't make money, at least it can make your living conditions better, and your daily eating, drinking, and Lazar can always be solved! At least it's much better than working for others now." "The uncle is a graduate of Normal University, with a high degree of education, and a gentle and elegant temperament, and continued to explain the matter of the capital, and the underlying meaning is explained very clearly, that is, he wants to express that even if he makes money, the two brothers will not say anything, and they will divide it when their father wants to divide it.

The mother immediately heard the meaning of the uncle's words, and said happily: "That's it, the brothers are purely helping us get started, the two of us work hard, just run errands and work hard, how can we still pay for it?"

Her mother immediately gave her two younger brothers a "relief pill" and told them that they would definitely not be able to pay for it.

"No, no, you can keep your money and open whatever store you want, do whatever you want, invest in whatever project you want, and we won't participate. If I lose it, his second uncle will not be able to slaughter me...... Forget it!" Halfway through his speech, my father seemed to have some concerns, and then held back his thoughts, and his refusal was very resolute.

Hearing that the brother-in-law was so resolute, of course the two uncles had no choice but to give up and did not mention it again. Sincerely take the money out to invest, not only do you not appreciate it, but there are so many concerns, don't invest.

When the mother saw that her father had given up such a good opportunity, she wanted to stop talking, and was about to speak, but after seeing her father give her a fierce glance, she immediately shut up obediently.

After the uncles left, my father first habitually "greeted" his parents, and said to his mother fiercely: "Let me work for you back and forth, you can easily be the boss, and you want to blind your heart!

I don't know what kind of life I did to marry a woman like you, and I don't know where I want to go. ”

As soon as she heard this stunned boy say some insulting remarks, and it was not at the limit, his mother was even more angry, and angrily stamped her feet and quarreled with him: "How can you be a good person? A mouth is full of swearing? Look at your current salary, a month is not as good as a month, it has reached single digits! Do you still think that now as in those years, you can pay you on sick leave? If I hadn't been moving bricks and pulling carts as a small worker to support my family all these years, would you be so comfortable at home? Look at the neighbors, which one is not the same age as you, and what kind of life they are living. Several motorcycles were bought, and several more rooms were built in the south room of the main house. It's good for you to be idle every day. It is said that you are thirty years old, and you actually earned a single digit this month! You can't even support yourself, how can you support this family? The children are so old, and you let your wife work as a coolie on the construction site, may I ask Mr. Daxia, where is your face? Let you open a small shop, the tailor shop does not want to work, afraid of spending money, do not want to take business, then good, I will listen to you. Finally, my brother wants to pay for the opening of a store, and we don't have to worry about the cost, you still want to keep it alone! Can God give you money to feed your family?"

The mother scolded more and more, like pouring beans from a bamboo tube, and the scolding did not stop for a long time, and there was even a sense of happiness in her heart.

"If the neighbors have the ability to go to them and live with them! I don't like you! I can't get rich? It's all because you gave your poor relatives what you have at home! Peanuts today, white flour tomorrow, what will you give the day after tomorrow? Who knows how many things you give to others behind my back! Warn you, don't be disrespectful to God in front of me! That's my God, keep your foul mouth in mind when you speak!"

"Mom and Dad, don't argue, stop arguing!" the sister cried and begged as she tugged at the corner of her mother's clothes.

Seeing her sister crying, her mother's heart softened, and she hugged her sister and cried.

It was only later that my mother learned that their quarrels were well-known in the neighborhood. Whenever there is a war, a group of sisters-in-law gather in the corners of the neighbors on the left and right, listening to stories and commenting.

"Usually, Xiaowei's father is a very enthusiastic person, and when he sees it, he takes the initiative to greet him with a smile and greets people, asking for warmth. I didn't expect to be so unreasonable at home, and I don't know how Xiaowei's mother has come over all these years. ”

"If I hadn't lived with him, he wouldn't have lived with him a long time ago!

"That is, a big man gossips about his daughter-in-law outside every day, and often scolds his daughter-in-law with outsiders. Xiaowei's mother has such a good character, kind and enthusiastic. It's just that I didn't marry the right person. ”

"Who doesn't have a shortcoming, Xiaowei's father is just bad-tempered, but people are very careful, repair a car, repair furniture, do some odd jobs can be profitable!

"Hmph, it's very careful, it's a poor jingle, how can a man in your family have money and ability!"

"Hehe, that's true. ”

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Incidents like this are what I would like to summarize as the culture of "onlookers", which is a kind of inferiority, which is what we now call the "melon-eating masses".

The Qing Dynasty scholar Jin Ying's "Aphorisms and Connections" once said that meditation often thinks about one's own mistakes, gossips and does not talk about people's wrongs, and it is a person of lofty ideals to be able to suffer, and it is not a fool to be willing to suffer. Respecting the gentleman is virtuous, and being afraid of the villain is not incompetent. Take a step back and let the distractions be calm. If you want to progress, you need to think about regression, and if you start, you need to let go. If you are proud, you should have more than one step to do things.

It is understandable that the overall quality of people in today's society has improved significantly, and there are still many "melon-eating masses" who have come to do good things on various occasions, and they have never read "Aphorisms Lianbi", let alone people in the early days of reform and opening up?

After that, my mother inadvertently learned about this situation, and when such a situation occurred, she always closed the doors and windows immediately, for fear that others would eavesdrop on the discussion, and the ugliness of the family should not be publicized, and it is always bad to spread it.

As soon as he saw his mother closing the doors and windows, he quickly opened the doors and windows, for fear that others would not hear them, and yelled out of the window: "Cheap woman, if you quarrel, you are afraid that others will hear it, so let others listen to it and hear how you are a loser......"