Regardless of the ups and downs of fate, thorns and suffering; Whether it is joy or sorrow, ups and downs. Time will always smooth everything out inadvertently.

Time is like a rotating grinding wheel, honing people's bodies and wills under the impetus of time. After all, all the hardships and hardships in life are gradually ground into powder and fused into the drips of firewood, rice, oil and salt.

In October, I was pregnant, and in the blink of an eye, my mother gave birth to a baby girl, which was my sister Xiaowei.

Motherly love is sacred and selfless. It is said that every little life is the most precious gift that God gives to a woman in her life, regardless of gender. Moreover, this little life is also the harmonizer and warming agent of the couple's feelings, and the crystallization of the couple's life, which can make the feelings of each couple go further and last longer on the basis of marriage.

From the moment when I found that a little life was born in my body, and then the belly slowly grew bigger day by day, the little life would occasionally turn over in the stomach, kick and kick, stretch out my hand, and move my feet, every detail can make the happiness index of the mother explode, not to mention the croaking of this little life.

At this time, with the help of my aunt, my family had approved a homestead to build a house.

Under the persuasion and continuous guidance of his mother, his father finally untied the shackles of "obeying his words" to the old man from the ideological point of view, and used the family's savings to buy building materials such as beams, wood, cement, and sand to build several houses of his own. Of course, this yoke is only ideological.

But how much can it be? It's not enough to build half a house.

Fortunately, my mother was a prescient man of action. Long before she became pregnant, she had a plan to build a house.

In order to save costs, my mother took advantage of the weekend rest day to carry soil from the mountains about 1 kilometer from her home.

In the morning, he used a wheelbarrow to carry it, and in the afternoon, he worked continuously with mud, and it took about half a year to make more than 2,000 adobes. In fact, according to the 8 days of weekend rest per month, that is, about 50 days.

The older generation knows that before the 90s of the 20th century, the main material used to build houses in the countryside was adobe, similar to the small red bricks that are now fired in brick kilns, but it is much larger and heavier than bricks. The length is about 50 cm, the width is about 30 cm, the thickness is about 10 cm, and an adobe is about 40 catties. When building a house with red brick walls, adobe is sandwiched between two red brick walls, which is mainly used for keeping the house warm, which is similar to the insulation layer of the current building.

Nowadays, it is difficult to see people building houses by themselves in cities with high-rise buildings, and it is even more difficult for children born in the 90s and 00s to see, and it is difficult to imagine what is going on.

Here I would like to explain, what is the concept of more than 2,000 adobe?

This means that an adult woman needs to carry 800 kilograms of soil every day, which is equivalent to an adult carrying 50 kilograms of cross-country 20 kilometers a day! Intermittently for more than a month, a total of 40 tons of soil has been transported! Friends who have been in the military or often participate in marathons must be able to understand what a lot of exercise this is.

It was also unimaginable for a woman to undertake such a large amount of work at the time.

This is the mother who struggles for her ideals and goals, and she is really a female man.

Some people will definitely ask, where is the hero at this moment? There is still a need to ask, sleep! Rely on dreams to do chivalrous deeds! Why don't you help? You can only say some cool words when you are awake:

"Women don't look like women, so they really have nothing to do to wash charcoal!"

"It's useful to take off so much adobe, can you build a Jinluan Palace?"

"Look at your bear-like appearance, you can't even move an adobe!"

"You don't know how to go home on weekends as a woman, what are you busy with?"

"Lao Tzu is hungry, when will I cook for Lao Tzu?"

......

The mother's ridicule, insults, and insults against her husband were all countered with wordless actions, so that all the father's provocations were as powerless as boxing cotton, and all the flashpoints dissipated into nothingness.

Can I build a house with all the materials ready? Of course not! The labor cost of building a house still needs 240 yuan!

As the old saying goes, a penny is difficult for a hero, which is not unreasonable.

At this time, the family is already struggling to make ends meet.

What to do?

In desperation, my mother and father discussed and visited relatives and friends together, with only one purpose - to borrow money and build a house.

My mother went door-to-door and borrowed 200 yuan from all her relatives and friends. The mother who took the money immediately breathed a sigh of relief, and thought: "There is only 40 yuan left, and it must be no problem for that stunned boy to let his relatives make up at will!

But in the end, it backfired, and the "skinnyness" of reality is always at odds with the "plumpness" of ideas.

The father also visited his so-called relatives and friends, including, of course, the old man, his two younger sisters, and an older brother. Returning empty-handed, he also brought back a sentence from the old man: "The money should be kept for the boss to build a new house." What if I borrow the boss from you? I can't borrow it from you!"

The old man's words hurt his father's heart fiercely.

The boss has a house and wants to save money to build a new house, we don't have a house, and if you want to build a new house, you have to look at your face, and the living conditions can't exceed the boss...... Hmph, never come to your door in the future!

Of course, it turns out that for the father, the power of blood inheritance is indeed immeasurable, the family will always be a family, and the daughter-in-law will always be an outsider!

No matter how the mother blames, complaining about the indifference of the old man, complaining about the selfishness of his brothers and sisters, and complaining about the cold state of the world...... From beginning to end, my father didn't say a word. This time, it seems that the father is finally on the mother's side.

As the old saying goes: no one asks about the poor in the downtown area, and the rich have distant relatives in the mountains. But I prefer Mr. Guo Degang's interpretation of a similar situation: the poor stand on the cross street and play eighteen steel hooks, but they can't hook the flesh and blood of their relatives, and the rich people play swords, guns, swords and halberds in the deep mountains and old forests, and can't break up the unrighteous guests and friends. Heroes are not necessarily heroes. The gun in the hand of the big hero turned over the river and the sea, and he couldn't resist the words "hunger, cold, and poverty". It is difficult for a rich man to be a man without money. What's more, is it my father, a hero who prides himself on being a hero?

As the materials purchased for the building at that time were all purchased according to the materials of the three main houses. Just because of the difference of 40 yuan in manual fees, I had no choice but to use the materials to build the main house to build a small south house 40 square meters smaller than expected and 1.5 meters shorter in height.

So, the only advantage of this little south is the thickness of the walls, which is 2 times the thickness of a normal house. The disadvantages are obvious, the square meter is small, the house is short, there is no light all year round, and the cost is high.

After the small south house was built, there was still a lot of surplus materials, so the remaining materials were used to enclose a large empty courtyard on both sides of the south house in the place where the main house was originally built, which is the place mentioned before to raise chickens and rabbits.

In any case, I can be regarded as having my own home, and I no longer have to think about renting a house to live without a fixed place.

For the whole family, this is a natural joy.

More importantly, this little south is of great significance to my mother: the land used to build the house was approved by my mother with the help of her sister, the materials used to build the house were carefully selected by my mother, and the manual fee for building the house was borrowed by my mother, and of course, we must not forget the 40 tons of adobe! That was the mother who "took off" it little by little with her own labor and sweat! The extent to which her mother cherished her can be imagined. She was very proud of this from beginning to end, because this little house was built by her own hands, and it was condensed with her mother's many painstaking efforts!

In the whole thing, my father didn't do anything except borrow money to no avail and move in in style. Of course, this does not prevent him from flattering and self-praising of the whole thing, claiming that all of the above is his credit, maybe to maintain a man's self-esteem, in fact?

After a long time, no one is a fool.

Our family has lived in this small house for more than 20 years.

After my sister was born, my grandmother lived in my house, took care of my mother, and helped my mother take care of the children by the way. This is what Mr. Zhao Benshan said in his sketch, "serving the confinement".

"Confinement" is a period of more than a month for pregnant women to recuperate after giving birth. It can be traced back to the Western Han Dynasty, and it is called "within the month" in the "Book of Rites". It has a history of more than 2,000 years. It is a critical period to help mothers successfully pass the physiological and psychological transitions of life.

The older generation said that having a child is equivalent to a woman's "rebirth". If the confinement "sits" well, the body's vitality will be restored well, and in the future, the body will not have any major problems, and it may even improve the physical fitness, and cure the hidden diseases or diseases before giving birth. If the confinement "sitting" is not good, then all kinds of grievances and burdens suffered by the body during the confinement period will be accompanied by major or minor diseases in the days to come.

Mothers are "practiced" to prove that this is a fact.

The year my sister was born. The system of ensuring income from droughts and floods in state-owned factories is declining more and more, as is the case with my father's hardware and machinery factory. Gone are the days when he was sick and paid at home. I had to go to work in the factory and continue to work as a worker.

At this time, no matter how long you recite the scriptures in the Catholic Church and how long you pray for blessings, many people have few wishes, and God who believes in Almighty is also powerless against this reality of "Adou".

Can a person who is accustomed to living a life of "idle clouds and wild cranes" who is accustomed to clothes to open his mouth, food to stretch his hands, rest at home and get paid, suddenly let him accept the constraints and forced labor of the factory unit, and get up early and make as much money as when he was "sick leave" at home, can he accept it psychologically and physically?

Of course, the days of unearned work are comfortable, but it is also the beginning of a waste of will and a wasted life.

Factory days take up most of the time, including, of course, going to church to pray for blessings.

The more critical problem is that in addition to "doing chivalry" at home, heroes don't know anything.

The previous masters have all been promoted to workshop directors, and there is no need to continue to work in the workshop. The masters who were able to take apprentices were all younger than him. Will he bow his head and learn from young people? Will he learn culture from those furry children who he sees as "milky and undry"? The answer is no from the way he treats his wife.

So, it's an endless loop.

He can only be a monk for one day, hit the clock for a day, break the jar and fall down, and deal with it every day. It's just a "little clever" in front of your family.