At the beginning of the "Three Character Classic", it is said that at the beginning of man, his nature is good. Sex is similar, Xi is far away. If you don't teach, sex is migration. The way of teaching is to be specialized.

It means that people are born with kindness, and because of their different upbringing, living, and learning environments, their temperaments are different from good and bad. If you don't educate well, your good nature will change. Therefore, the correct way to educate is to concentrate on teaching. It can be popularly understood as the environmental impact temperament.

Chairman Mao, the great leader, said that practice is the only criterion for testing truth. Although I am still young, I do have a deep understanding of the above-mentioned environmental impact on temperament.

From a statistical point of view, although the scope of the sample sampling is limited, and the sampling of samples with distinctive characteristics is slightly insufficient, it does not affect the judgment of human nature, does not affect the understanding of human feelings, does not affect the formation of world view, outlook on life, and values, and does not affect the creativity of this book, because all the content and opinions of this book belong to me, nothing more.

Straight to the point.

Speaking of personality, my sister and I are just the opposite, her personality is resolute and impatient, and she is very similar to my father. I am calm, introverted, easy-going, like a mother.

Influenced by the family environment and his father's tiger power, different personalities have created two different trajectories of life.

My sister is 7 years older than me.

The family environment had a great impact on my sister's life.

From emotional changes and life to life choices, marriage and knowledge, etc., they can never be separated from the family environment. Moreover, she used her personal experience and practice to give me a relatively smooth family growth path when I was a child.

As the saying goes, "7-year-old and 8-year-old dogs are suspicious, and 9-year-olds are still more than half a year old." That is to say, children at this age are the most naughty times, and even the cats and dogs at home are tossed upside down, and they are very annoying. Scientific studies have shown that this age is also the second rebellious period in a child's life.

I don't know if there are any readers who have become parents, here is a little bit of knowledge to popularize a rebellious period.

There are three rebellious periods in a person's life:

The first rebellious period is when the child is 2 to 4 years old. This stage is divided into many periods, and the baby will behave differently in different periods.

For example, the perfect sensitive period, the babies in this period strive to be perfect in everything they do, force themselves to do their best, and keep repeating until they think they are satisfied. Totally Virgo traits. The most serious thing is to determine which leg to step on first when walking, and if you are not satisfied, you have to go back to the original point and walk again.

Another example is the language sensitive period, during which children are affected by the language environment of the family, they will suddenly find that language has "power", and sometimes they will suddenly say, "If you don't buy me food, I will throw out all the food at home" and so on, "If not...... Just ......" structure of the sentence. Of course, children don't really throw things. In the same way, the babies can't understand what the implicit meaning is, but they have reached a stage where they can use the power of words to express their emotions.

Another example is choosing a sensitive period. Some parents of children must have a deep understanding. One day, the child suddenly began to choose what kind of clothes to wear, felt that what style of clothes to wear was beautiful and handsome, and began to quarrel and play with his parents because of whether he wore this or that for him, and began to look in the mirror "stinky and beautiful", and also asked parents "handsome or not, beautiful or not", which is the manifestation of choosing a sensitive period.

In addition, of course, there is also the reading sensitive period, the order sensitive period, the spatial sensitive period, the identity sensitive period, etc., which are all essential stages for children's growth and the earliest stage of the formation of children's character. If parents can correctly capture and patiently guide their children at these different stages, it will have a very important and far-reaching impact on the formation of children's personality and brain development.

Speaking of which, I'm a little snickering, do I know a little too much?

The second rebellious period in life is between the ages of 7 and 9. This is called the "childhood rebellious period". The "7-year-old and 8-year-old dogs are suspicious, and the 9-year-old has more than half a year" just mentioned accurately summarizes the characteristics of children at this stage. Children at this stage do not listen to discipline, want to go out and play all day long, do not like to do homework, and often do some strange things, and there are many pranks waiting for you. For example, making trouble in class, pulling girls' pigtails, getting dirty all day long, etc., make parents unbearable, and even more so, they continue to test where the bottom line of parents is.

The third rebellious period of life is around the age of 12 to 18, which is also known as the rebellious period of adolescence, also known as adolescence. I won't go into any more explanations.

I still remember that when my sister was seven or eight years old, she was extremely naughty and mischievous with a boyish personality.

My family environment is full of centralization and autocracy, which I call absolute monarchy family education, where all power is concentrated in the hands of one of my father's people, and the family is his "hall of words", whether right or wrong, everyone has to do things according to his likes and dislikes. The means of restraint is, of course, violence.

As soon as any member of the family disobeyed him, he immediately began a brutal "force suppression" and would not be relentless. There are many of them mentioned before, so I won't repeat them here.

Coupled with my sister's boyish personality, whenever a hero bullies her mother, my sister always stands in front of her mother and does not hesitate to stand up for her mother.

However, the hero has been famous for a long time, "strong in martial arts", and has practiced "peerless skills" for more than 30 years, and belongs to the list of peerless masters in terms of momentum and skill. Sister is just the opposite, set "fledgling, not proficient, skills are still shallow" three disadvantages in one, in addition to the "lion roar" can cause 2 seconds of blocking the hero, it seems a bit exaggerated to describe it as a comprehensive strength by the hero's "second kill". So being beaten up became a daily routine for my sister, and naturally, she also "honored" to become a stand-in for her mother's beating.

From childhood to adulthood, the family has never been happy. More often than not, it is the hero who holds his famous weapon "Feather Duster" and performs the long-lost martial arts "Dugu Nine Swords", "Broken Soldier Style", "Broken Sword Style", "Broken Knife Style", ...... Thirty-six sword moves like a storm all over the yard chasing the crying sister, the sister practice "Ling Bo Weibu" has always been a long time, the internal strength is insufficient, in the hero's "left and right fighting techniques", "Qiankun big shift" under the double attack, both sides of the body from time to time feel the taste of hot pain.

In order to protect her sister who was beaten, her mother tried her best to use the Shaolin internal kung fu of the "Golden Bell Jar", and used all the parts of her body that could be used to prevent the hero's weapon from falling on her sister's slender and thin body.

How could Sun Wukong escape the palm of the Buddha? Not to mention a little monkey who had not yet become an apprentice? In the end, seeing that his sister really couldn't escape, his mother simply used the "golden bell jar" to protect his sister in her arms, and used her physical strength to carry the hero's world-beating skills.

As for me, I could only stand at the scene of the incident while crying, and practice the imperfect "lion roar gong" over and over again:

"Wow...... Don't fight, don't fight...... Don't fight ......."

The whole family has been under the brutal rule of the hero for a long time, shrouded in a haze that cannot be erased for a long time. And I was in the hero's punching, kicking and abuse of my sister again and again, constantly learning from experience and lessons, with the consequences of my sister's bruises, deeply engraved in my heart "pleasing my father 108 style", forming a certain "pleasing type" personality, in order to avoid repeating my sister's mistakes and suffering from flesh and skin.

The same kind of centralized education, on the one hand, made my sister's "stubborn, resolute, and impatient" character mutate into an extreme "stubborn, extreme, and impulsive", and on the other hand, my "calm, introverted, and easy-going" personality changed to "forward-looking, timid, and unassertive", and even the extremely inferior character dominated my life for a long time when I was a child, and it was not improved until I experienced many setbacks and trials when I went into society alone and started from scratch.

The harmonious atmosphere of the family, the way the parents get along will subconsciously affect the child's life, including personality, way of doing things, and even mate selection criteria, etc., my sister was officially due to the lack of fatherly love when she was young, resulting in her criteria for choosing a spouse have always implied a point in the subconscious - relatively old, relatively experienced, can make her feel "cared for" of the opposite sex.

When it comes to making friends, we both have one thing in common in the extreme, which is that friendship is valued much more than family. Because in our minds, family is the most difficult place for people to sleep at ease, and only brothers and friends are the destination of emotions, and we can stick a knife in the ribs of brothers and friends who have been recognized from our hearts.

What is the litmus test for friendship? To put it cheesily, money!

In order to help her friends solve their urgent needs, my sister can borrow money from her friends and brothers from the bank, and I do the same. Some people may say that we are stupid and brain-dead, but this is our principle of doing things, and we will do whatever it takes for our recognized friends and brothers.

However, such a group of people also have a fatal weakness, that is, they are extremely disgusted with deception and hypocritical friends and brothers. Like a brother I once recognized in the same dormitory, I accidentally found out that it was a person who played with brotherly feelings, a person who used "thick black learning" to associate brotherly feelings, a person who hurt the interests of all brothers, and a person with different hearts, then, I'm sorry, no one is a fool, touch the bottom line, never see you!

Even if you are the head of state and the president of the United States, what do you have to do with me!