My mother's words were firmly locked in my heart, and I never dared to forget them, and I could never forget them.

Studying hard and getting admitted to the ideal university is the first goal in my heart, and it is also the most official ideal and goal.

The essence and deep meaning of this goal is to get out of this home as soon as possible, which is "tasteless to live in, and it is a pity to abandon it", to support oneself, and to leave this place of right and wrong.

I read a book that day, and in the book, I made a hierarchical and phased analysis of the folk saying "If you don't listen to the old man, you will suffer in front of you", and I want to share it with you:

The first stage is adolescence, and the most obvious time period is adolescence.

At this time, I especially dislike and reject the discipline of my parents, thinking that the existence of my parents is a constraint on myself, and I hope to leave home as soon as possible, put on my wings, fly farther and achieve freedom.

The behavior of this period is that he does not dare to disobey his parents, and he is unwilling, but he reluctantly "executes" his parents' requirements with great discounts.

The second stage is adulthood, which is from college to marriage.

"Self-thinking" can finally get rid of the constraints of parents, in addition to finances, can achieve basic freedoms, avoid being disciplined, avoid being restrained, avoid being scolded, avoid being reprimanded, and most importantly, feel very happy that no one is around to keep nagging.

The behaviour of this period is manifested as:

pretending to be mature and graceful, but in fact immature and lacking the city;

The words of the elders are disdainful, and they laugh at a group of old stubbornness!

From the bottom of my heart, I think that my parents don't understand anything, they don't understand, and they try to interfere in their lives.

The third stage is the growth period, from the beginning of the career to the stage of marriage and childbirth.

Everyone's cognition and practice have completely different performances, so the specific time and age are not said.

At this stage, especially after getting married, the first father, the first mother, suddenly understood a common saying - only when you are in charge of the family can you feel that firewood and rice are expensive, and only when you raise children do you know the kindness of your parents.

At a certain moment, I suddenly understood that the hard work and hardship of parents began to change and sublimate from the initial stage of filial piety to parents to a deeper direction.

During this period, in addition to understanding the parent's kindness, the behavior will gradually agree with some of the parents' views and thoughts.

The fourth stage is the maturity stage, from forty to fifty years of knowing the destiny of heaven.

I deeply agree with some of the words of my parents, and in most cases I am willing to chat, talk, communicate, and talk about things at work, and I have experienced the growth of my children and the aging of my parents, and my sense of belonging to my parents has gradually increased.

The behavior of this time period is manifested by a strong agreement with certain views of the parents, which may be carried out in different ways, but basically based on the principles and bases of the parents' views on something.

The fifth stage is, of course, the last, the gratitude stage.

The year of the sixtieth year may be 5 years after the sixtieth year, it may be 10 years after the sixtieth, or it may last until after the ancient rarity.

At this time, not only have they become parents, but they are also the third or even fourth generations in the same house.

In such a situation, if anyone can obey their parents' words, then such a person must be the happiest person in the world!

Because from his (her) mouth, he (she) can also be called from the bottom of his heart: Dad, Mom! There will always be a place in his (her) heart, where the concern for his parents is placed, that is, home.

When you go home and enter the door, you can also proudly shout loudly:

Dad, I'm back!

Mom, I'm back!

Because, when you are by your father's and mother's side, whether you are over the age of sixties, over the age of old, or centenarian, you will always be a child, a child in front of your parents, you can be coquettish, you can be unreasonable, you can do everything you want to do against your actual age regardless of your status!

Parents will likewise touch your head with trembling and wrinkled shriveled hands, like spoiling children, and mutter:

"Look at you, you're all full of gray hair, full of children and grandchildren, and you're still as naughty as you were when you were a child......"

For the whole world, the naughty appearance of you when you were a child, the laughter and scolding when you grew up, the smug look when you started a family, and the ambition to hold your head high when you shine on the lintel...... Only in the hearts of parents are the best memories, and only in the mouths of parents are the most talked about and enjoyable conversations......

Another situation is that the tree wants to be quiet, and the wind does not stop, the child wants to raise, but the kiss does not wait.

Perhaps at this time, one day, parents have to tell their children with a little choking about their pain as a "son of man": "Child, mother has no father......

The bitterness of words can only be understood by the person who speaks.

When will the child understand the meaning of this sentence? and only at the moment when he tells his child...... When I think about it, I will understand the sadness of my parents when they said this.

At this time, if you want your parents to teach, blame, criticize, and educate, even if you nag a few words like "wear more clothes and eat well", it is a luxury that will never be possible in this life......

This is true of all people.

Only by experiencing the various situations of life can we truly appreciate it.

It takes time, it takes experience, and it takes at least half a lifetime or even a lifetime to understand and act.

And I, in all these years of realization and experience, happened to be at the end of the third stage to the beginning of the fourth stage. I define it as a high level of mental maturity, maybe because I experienced these injustices early, but it's never a bad thing for me.

Straight to the point.

My mother watched my sister disappear from sight, hugged me and cried loudly for a long time, and then gradually regained her calm.

It was as if I had cried out all the resentment and discomfort that had been stored up in my heart.

By this time, I had already fallen asleep peacefully in my mother's arms.

My mother was afraid of waking me up in her arms, so she tried to gently hold me up.

At the moment of standing up, the pain in the heart, like thunder, quickly stimulated the mother's cranial nerves.

"Oops!"

The pain in her leg forced her mother to moan after failing to get up.

The muscles on my mother's face twitched together under the effect of pain.

I can't stand up!

In winter, sitting on the ground all night outdoors at more than ten degrees below zero, caused the mother's leg that had undergone surgery to suffer extremely serious injuries.

The uncontrollable pain hit the mother wave after wave, as if to send out a serious protest, and release the dissatisfaction with this irresponsible master with all his might.

"Dunzi?"

My mother gently patted me on the body, trying to wake me up, and her words did not forget her concern for me.

"Wake up, wake up, don't sleep outside, it's too cold outside, it's easy to catch a cold when you sleep. ”

"Slowly open your eyes and come back to your senses, let's go home and sleep again." ”

Seeing that I had not yet woken up, my mother continued to pat me softly.

"Dunzi?"

I finally opened my eyes. It took a long time to regain a trace of clarity and slowly get up from my mother.

"Dunzi, my mother's leg hurts so much, help me and help my mother up. ”

My mother tried to stand again to no avail, and told me.

I used all my strength to lift my mother up and lean against the wall, and my mother was gritting her teeth and panting for breath the whole time, so you can imagine how much pain my mother endured.

"Oops...... Mother let out a long breath, "Finally got up......

I limped home with my mother, who held on to the wall.

As soon as we entered the door, the scene in front of us made our mother and son stunned.

The hero didn't know when he had already returned home.

Lying on the kang and snoring like thunder.

Hmph-whew-

Hmph-whew-

The sound of snoring has exceeded the normal noise decibels, and it has completely reached the standard of disturbance.

And the interval between the two syllables "hum" and "huh" is unimaginably long.

Hum – (suck)

1 second, 2 seconds, 3 seconds, 4 seconds, 5 seconds......

Then, time suddenly stopped!

1 second, 2 seconds!

When others think that there is some danger,

The sound of whew-(whew) appeared!

Maybe only me, who has a bigger heart than the sky, can analyze the snoring of heroes so boringly, right?

But one thing cannot be denied, he slept so comfortably and sweetly, and this carefree feeling is beyond my comprehension in any way.

It may also be that I am a little tired during the process of "staying up on Chinese New Year's Eve"!

As the saying goes: "A woman's heart, a needle under the sea, even if you catch it, it will still pierce people." ”

There is also a song that has also been popular all over the country, and the lyrics are like this:

Don't guess the girl's thoughts,

I can't guess and guess,

I don't know why she shed tears,

I don't know why she's happy.

Don't guess the girl's thoughts,

I can't guess and guess,

I don't know why she's making a scumbag,

I don't know why she was in a daze again......

Forehead...... These seem to describe girls, women, and women!

Gender aside, my father's mind is really beyond my comprehension, I can't guess it, and I can't understand his thoughts, behaviors, and brain circuits from the bottom of my heart.

After "directing and acting" such a thrilling Spring Festival blockbuster, his family members have left, the injured have been injured, the pain is still painful, and the sadness continues to be sad.

Except for him, everyone was shocked, but this "big director" and "male number one" who was "popular" in half of the small county slept here as if nothing happened!

It seems that there is no answer to anything!

How can you still have the heart to sleep? let alone sleep soundly!

"Tiger father has no dog", he is actually bigger than a child like me!

The mother shook her head helplessly, wanting to cry without tears.

Glancing through the two rooms, looking at the "heartless" hero who was snoring "deafeningly" in the "ruins", his mother was as weak as if she had been evacuated.

Enduring the pain in her legs, my mother barely managed to find a "place to stay" on the kang in the outhouse, hugged me, put her arms around me, and buried my head in her chest.

Suppressing the discomfort and sadness in my heart, telling me the dangers of sleepless nights and the possible consequences, asking me to sleep well, resting well, and coaxing me to fall asleep.

But I could deeply feel the convulsions of my mother's body and the sound of crying.

I know that my mother is thinking about Xiaowei at the moment. I don't know when we will be able to meet this parting.

Ask the gentleman what is the light parting, how many full moons can be a year, the willows are like silk, and the old garden is at the end of spring......

Read the end of the world and parting bitterly, do not return, scattered flowers as promised......

After the war, my sister rarely came home. Then I learned that my sister had gone to Shanghai.

After that, my mother, who never watched TV, stayed in front of the black-and-white TV every day, watching the weather forecast after the news broadcast every night, and always paying attention to the weather in Shanghai.

This is the silent love of parents for their children!

At that time, telephones were not yet widespread. My mother had to leave the neighbor's phone number with my sister. Thousands of instructions, Xiaowei called to ask the neighbor to be sure to inform.

In this way, my mother and I have another thing in our hearts that is worth worrying about—when the neighbor knocks on the door.

"Xiaowei's mother, Xiaowei is calling!"

The high-pitched voice of the neighbor seemed to have some magical power, and as long as he heard it, it didn't matter what his mother was doing, cooking, washing dishes, and washing clothes......

Once you hear the news from your neighbor, you immediately throw away all the housework in your hand, quickly check in the door, don't care about anything, don't care about anything, and run to the neighbor's house with all your heart.

"Xiaowei, how are you in Shanghai?"

"Is the food good, is the drink good?"

"Can you eat stewed meat Mom?"

"Where are you staying?"

"Mom shows you the weather forecast in Shanghai every day!"

"You take care of yourself and come back early......"