Walking marriage is a custom of the Mosuo people, an ethnic minority in Yunnan and Sichuan, who basically have no marriage system except for a few who marry wives or sons-in-law because they want to increase the number of family workers. Marriage is a way for men and women who are in love to marry from man to woman's house to maintain their relationship and have children. Since women are in charge of matrilineal societies, children born to their mothers are raised by their mothers, and the biological fathers will hold a public feast on the full moon to recognize their blood relationship and avoid the occurrence of paternal incest. Men call their female lovers "Axia", and women call their male lovers "Azhu".

The Mosuo people, known as the "daughter country", everything in the Mosuo people is dominated by women. Walking marriage is called "Sese" in Mosuo language, which means "walking around", which vividly shows that walking marriage is a kind of marriage relationship between men and women at night and in the morning, and the man and woman have no marriage relationship, only at night the man will go to the woman's house to live, and still live and work in their respective homes during the day. At night, the man knocks on the woman's door with a unique code. Men and women who get married, the element of maintaining the relationship is feelings, once the relationship is weakened or the personality is incompatible, the relationship can be cut off at any time, so the degree of emotional freedom is higher, and the woman is also the main position in terms of sexuality, once the woman no longer opens the door for the man, the marriage relationship will be over.

During the day, men and women rarely spend time alone with each other, and only express their feelings to their loved ones by singing and dancing at parties. If a man is in love with a woman, after making an appointment with her during the day, he will go to the woman's "flower house" (the room of an adult Mosuo woman, separate from the grandmother's house, or "family house") in the middle of the night, and traditionally ride a horse to the house, but instead of entering the flower house at the main entrance, he must climb the window and hang a hat and other representative items outside the door, indicating that the two are dating, and ask others not to interfere. Then you have to leave before dawn, and you can leave through the main entrance. If you leave after dawn or after the woman's parents get up, it will be considered rude.

Marriage is an important part of matrilineal societies. Adult men "get married" is a way to pass on the lineage, but unlike the monogamy of other ethnic groups, they gather at dusk, return at dawn, and go in the morning. There are two ways for Mosuo people to get married: one is called "Azhu" settlement marriage, and the other is called "Axia" divorce.

Regardless of the type of marriage, an ancient ritual called "Zangbala" is held, which means: worship to the gods and ancestors. This ceremony is held at the woman's house, usually in the middle of the night, and no guests or gifts are given, and friends do not participate.

This etiquette is for the man's family to invite a witness to lead the suitor to the woman's house, of course, the young men and women have already had feelings, and there is no matchmaker's words, and the mother's uncle's life. According to their own financial situation, the man's family will bring gifts on the platform of the pot pile above the fire pit and on the altar in the prayer hall according to the rules, and bow to the ancestors, the pot stove, and then the elders such as uncle, mother, and sister, and then accept the blessings of the elders and sisters. There is a gift for the elderly, the young, and the elder.

Your sweetheart "Asha" must massage the shuttle decorated and carefully dressed from head to toe. The man will get the woman to carefully weave a flower belt with Mosuo characteristics from Mosuo linen cloth by herself. The woman's family will never give money or goods to the man's family. They believe that the love between men and women is equal, more important than anything else, and affection is an important factor in the "marriage" of Mosuo people. When the witnesses finished explaining to the mother and uncles of "Axia", the men and women became public, and the "Axia Marriage" did not invite guests or do it, this ancient custom was frugal and trouble-free, and the whole ceremony could be completed in an hour.

If you look closely at the night life of the Mosuo "matrilineal" family, it is not difficult to find some of the rules. The old uncles would never open the door, or ask who it was, and the housewives would not pay attention to the men who knocked on the door. Unless you shout a few times outside the door, indicating that you are an outsider, the elderly or children will open the door for you.

There are many adult sisters in the family, but there are many "Ah Note" who come to the tryst, each with its own tryst code and way of conveying affection, if it is not his own "Ah Note" will not let him enter his boudoir, the girl's boudoir must be on the right code She will open it gently, and there are elderly women and children living in the mother house of the big wooden bungalow, and they don't care about the things in the courtyard.

In them, there is no "third party", and there is no feudal rule of "the order of the parents, the words of the matchmaker", and there is no saying that marrying a chicken and marrying a dog is a dog. Men and women live in their own homes, you don't depend on me to support, I don't rely on you to live, with these real feelings, people suddenly realize, why the Mosuo people do not have divorce, widows, children without support, property inheritance, street children and other social problems, they have their own sexual concepts and moral standards, and we are completely different from us.

In their clan, most of the "Axia" and "Azhu" are respectful and responsible for each other, but they are not as clear as other ethnic groups. In some villages and in the realities of marriage in the family structure and of a certain religion, this phenomenon exists to varying degrees, and the men are neither legitimate husbands nor true fathers, and the men are thrown into the lake when they are responsible for their wives and duties to their children. In his life, a man can go if he wants to, go back if he wants to, and leave a breeze on his sleeves. Once his girlfriend closes the door and refuses, or the men like the new and hate the old, the old affection will disappear, leaving only a spring dream, which is also a mystery.

In their case, the **** relationship and economic relations are not much involved, the union is free, consensual, divorce has nothing to do with it, and there will be no disputes. Both men and women have the initiative, society and the family do not intervene, and even if there is a dispute, the mothers and uncles of both parties will deal with it properly.

Marriage is not for the purpose of making a living, divorce does not endanger anyone's survival, and no amount of economic prosperity can build a solid and reliable basis for union with each other. The reason for the mutual union and separation of Mosuo "Axia" marriage is that feelings are the forerunner. Therefore, after some Mosuo people become adults, the relationship between men and women is not compatible, and it is common to replace "Axia" and "Azhu" before having children, but after having children, it cannot be easily replaced.

As night fell, at dusk, the young woman couldn't hold back her excitement, and many night messengers came and went. In their sex world, it is not as we ordinary people imagine that every woman can love, every man you can beg, their courtship method is in production and labor, work and study, go to the village to visit households, visit relatives and friends, business and other activities, understand each other, have a certain emotional foundation, exchange some gifts with each other, such as bracelets, necklaces, rings, watches and clothes, etc., these things are only known to them and their mothers.

"Axiao" (not Axia) is the mutual name of both men and women in a loving relationship among the Mosuo people in Lugu Lake, and they are also called "Xiao Bo". In the course of labor, in festivals such as turning mountains and seas, in daily life and mutual help exchanges, or because of the other party's industrious and honest character, they have fallen in love, or because of each other's pretty appearance and lively character...... You can express your willingness to befriend "Axiao" to the other party.

It is common for a man to give a woman gifts such as a headscarf or a dress, and if the other party is willing to accept it, a relationship can be established. If the woman is interested, she can also express it boldly, such as taking the initiative to "snatch" a pen and a hand towel from the man, or taking the initiative to give the man a belt embroidered by himself, or making food, and if the other party is willing, they can also establish a relationship.

In another way, when a man and a woman make a "sho", the man must first ask someone to go through a procedure called "zozoga" (meaning to exchange things). When a man takes a fancy to a woman, the man should ask the matchmaker to bring the dress, belt, shoes, tea and other items to the woman's house to explain the intention to the woman's mother.

When a man who has passed through "Zozoga" visits a female Axiao for the first time, he must invite a person or his closer boyfriend to bring tea and sugar with him. At the same time, the tea and sugar brought by the man were distributed to every family in the village or only to their relatives, indicating that their daughter had "Axiao".

After a period of getting along, if both parties feel that their personalities are incompatible, their feelings are indifferent or broken, either party can end the relationship, whether it is a man or a woman. Under normal circumstances, if the man does not want to maintain the "Ashaw" relationship, he only needs to say to the woman, "I will not come in the future", or if he does not visit the woman for a long time, the marriage contract will be dissolved by itself. If the woman is unwilling, she can tell the man "you don't want to come" in person, or when the man visits, he is embarrassed or refuses to enter the flower room, and the man feels bored and should withdraw rationally.

During the period of befriending "Axiao", if either man or woman knows that the other party is looking for another "Axiao", they usually give him a small bag wrapped in sackcloth with charcoals, chili peppers, and chicken feathers as a warning or break off the relationship. If the other party is willing to repent, it is time to apologize to the person who sent the bag, so that they can reconcile.

In general, the composition of "Asho" is mostly solemn and discreet, so the successful "Axiao" always accounts for a larger proportion.

As the relationship between men and women gradually deepens, the more "walking" trysts get together, and some couples stabilize their relationships until they last a lifetime. If you are rhetorical, dishonest, incompetent, idle, and for a long time, you will have to go back to your parents' house in disappointment.

The fact that "walking marriage" in the family structure of the Mosuo people is unimaginable to contemporary people, and the mystery of the practice of free "walking marriage" lies in the fact that the mother and son have no worries, and the "matrilineal" family is everyone's shelter, and for adult men, the "matrilineal" family is the best paradise for them to live and retire to the end. Of course, why don't men do it? This is one of the reasons why their custom of "walking marriage" has survived to this day.

Among the many nations in the world, there are many people who are still in a primitive state, but there is no special custom of "walking marriage" today. As for why "Axiao" can still exist among the Mosuo people in Lugu Lake after the vicissitudes of life, it is still a world-class unsolved mystery.

For this reason, scholars at home and abroad have done a lot of research and applied various existing theories of anthropology to analyze, but the conclusions reached do not seem to be enough to solve this problem. The most detailed investigations were conducted by Mr. Zhan Yongxu in 1963, 1965 and 1976. He surveyed and counted 1,740 marital status of 964 women and 785 men in six townships along the shores of Lugu Lake and Pingba in Yongning. As a result, 1,285 people (730 women and 555 men) were married, accounting for 73.5 per cent.

He believes that there are five reasons why Ashaw's marriage can continue for a long time: first, the matriarchal society of the Mosuo people has not yet completely disintegrated, and the influence of the outside world is still weak; second, the social productive forces are backward, and individual private ownership has not yet been formed, but is dominated by the collective ownership of the family; third, women still play the role of the main force in seeking the means of subsistence; fourth, the traditional concept is very deeply rooted in the kinked relationship of blood; and fifth, the upper-class Tusi does not oppose Ashaw's marriage.

Although there is some truth in these arguments, why are the influence of the outside world so weak in the matrilineal society of the Mosuo people? Why are many ethnic groups with lower productivity than the Mosuo people entering monogamy, but the Mosuo people still practice walking marriage? Why are most of the Mosuo people willing to choose to go to marriage over other forms of marriage? These many questions are still a difficult mystery of Mosuo marriage.

The Mosuo daughters raised in Lugu Lake are all beautiful and strong, hardworking and kind, and their love is as deep as the sea. They weave the dreams of the girls in the flower room owned by themselves, and realize her sincere love. They do not have the rules and precepts left by the ancient sages, and they do not have the troubles and sorrows of loneliness and loss.

They do not ask for anything that does not belong to them, they do not become slaves of money, material and power, they work, live and love carefree in this magical land according to their simple nature and the guidance of their hearts, show their pure nature to the maximum in the mountains and waters of the Mother Lake, and sing, dance and enjoy the sweetness of life to their heart's content in the most grand, warmest and most joyful celebration of the Mosuo people.

According to legend, in order to conquer the beauty of their hearts and maintain a longer relationship with their beloved woman, the Mosuo marriage man will go to the Mosuo patriarch to ask for the secret weapon of the Mosuo man, the dragon liquid. The dragon liquid is a magical medicine in the Mosuo tribe, it is a secret recipe passed down from generation to generation by the patriarch of the Mosuo tribe, men will not only become strong when they drink it all year round, but also if they can ask for this dragon liquid to drink before they get married, they will be more powerful, and they will make the woman they like choose you next time, and they will never forget it for a lifetime. When they are separated in the early hours of the morning, the woman will become delicate and feminine, but the man will be more energetic and radiant.

(The above information is collected from the public network, it is a simple popular science, with the development of the times, there have been a lot of changes in the connotation of marriage, students who want to know, it is better to go to Lugu Lake for a walk, it will not disappoint you)

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What Chen Tianyu didn't expect was that the middle-aged woman who met by the lake called as scheduled in the evening, saying that she could arrange for him to meet with Yiruo, which caught Chen Tianyu off guard, so he had to truthfully explain the matter to Liu Zichen, Liu Zichen was a little stunned at first, but soon laughed evilly.

"No wonder the big detective is eyeing you, then I will understand it completely now. She didn't care, but joked, "I'll dress you up and make you the groom official tonight!"

Chen Tianyu smiled bitterly: "Don't be busy squeezing me first, I always feel that things are not so simple." From my first impression, this girl didn't look like a casual person...... How could she agree to see a stranger so easily?"

"Cut, it's not a marriage here, don't be too sentimental!" Liu Zichen said disapprerovingly, "At most, it's just a dewy couple." ”

"Uh, is this how marriage goes?" Chen Tianyu couldn't help frowning, "Why do I always feel that something is wrong?"

Liu Zichen scoffed: "You are called a thief but not a thief, some women look very serious on the surface, who knows what kind of goods will be in private......" Her words revealed a trace of irrepressible disgust.

Chen Tianyu also immediately noticed it, and he quickly explained: "Zichen, don't get me wrong, I don't have any illegal thoughts...... Even if it's a marriage or something, can I really try it?"

"That's not necessarily, that's what you say, whether you can control it when you see a beautiful woman is two words. Liu Zichen's eyes jumped with anger, "Are you Yanagishita Hui?"

Chen Tianyu scratched his head in embarrassment: "The more you talk about it, the more outrageous it becomes, you don't know who I am?"

"Besides, if I really want to get married, can I still discuss it with you?" Chen Tianyu found that his emotional intelligence was a little insufficient, which had always been his fatal weakness.

"Tell me in advance, and then make a mistake openly, isn't it a matter of killing two birds with one stone?" Liu Zichen still spoke coldly, she was a woman after all, and her belly could not be so big.

"It's really nonsense, yes, I'll refuse first......" Chen Tianyu was even more weak-hearted, he thought about it, "Let's get in touch with He Jiping first, and get to know her from the side, I think she is the key person." ”

Liu Zichen glanced at him: "You won't fall in love with this Hejiping again, right?"

"The more you talk about it, the more outrageous it becomes......"

Chen Tianyu was speechless, and hurriedly said on the phone that today is not very convenient, can you change the day, the other party is quite happy, and told him to take the time to fulfill the contract, because it is not easy to succeed in the invitation, Chen Tianyu can only smile bitterly again, promising to go to the appointment, but will choose a suitable time.

After hanging up the phone, Chen Tianyu secretly glanced at Zichen, only to find that she had already returned to her usual smile, and there was still a little smug in her eyes.

"Look at you all the time, you still don't exist for me. Liu Zichen snorted.

"Ahem, how can I be. ”

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Although there was a little friction, the two still participated in the bonfire party as planned, fortunately, the detective did not show up, and now it seems that at least this person is not staring at the two of them.

It's business as usual, there's nothing new.

Looking at the group of new tourists dancing, Chen Tianyu felt that he couldn't miss this opportunity again, he thought about it again and again, and decided to deal with Ji Ping in person, Liu Zichen did not object, stared directly at the leading dancer on the stage, and didn't know what he was thinking.

Chen Tianyu sighed secretly, he walked slowly to the corner of the auditorium, and then sat down not far from the dark-skinned and big-eyed woman.

He Jiping didn't seem to see him, and he didn't move.

Chen Tianyu had no choice but to cough: "And the teacher, what a coincidence." ”

Maybe she was attracted by this strange title, or maybe she had already noticed Chen Tianyu's approach.

He Jiping quickly responded: "Hey, are you calling me?"

Chen Tianyu smiled and didn't pierce it: "It seems that you are the only one left here." ”

"Oh. He Jiping responded lightly, and turned his head to watch the performance.

"I'm not a teacher. He Jiping said very coldly, although her eyes had been staring at the stage, it was such a state of rejection that Chen Tianyu had the opportunity to take a closer look, and he didn't find much, but a beautiful mole on the back of Jiping's neck caught his eyes.

Chen Tianyu smiled slightly: "Then what should I call you?"

"Whatever. He Jiping completely lost the enthusiasm he had in Lashihai, "However, they all call me and the boss." ”

"And the boss?" Chen Tianyu was amused, "You are a girl, I still call you the boss." ”

"It doesn't matter. ”

Chen Tianyu thought for a while and decided to get straight to the point: "Boss, I feel that we seem to know each other." ”

He Jiping turned his head to look at him again, his eyes were cold, like a knife.

"I just saw it a few days ago, how can I call it déjà vu. She looked businesslike, not seeming to understand what he was saying, but apparently admitting to remembering him as a person.

"No, I think you're very much like an old friend of mine. "Chen Tianyu doesn't eat this.

The corners of He Jiping's mouth raised: "Do you men like to talk like this?"

"I'm telling the truth, and I'm not trying to pick up anyone. Chen Tianyu touched his nose, "That friend of mine is called Xiaoya, if I remember correctly, her full name should be Qianya Liangzi." ”

As expected, there was no reaction on He Jiping's face, as if he was listening to a completely unfamiliar term, and the more this was the case, the more determined Chen Tianyu became.

The two looked at each other unexpectedly.

He Jiping said coldly: "I said that I don't know this person, you definitely don't believe it, so you might as well treat me as that Xiaoya, anyway, I don't care." ”

Chen Tianyu nodded: "It really doesn't matter." Uh, does the lady know what I'm here for?"

He Jiping shook his head slightly, but he could barely see the movement.

"I'll tell you the truth, I came to see the show yesterday, and there was nothing new about it, but I was interested in the girl who led the dance. Chen Tianyu was blunt.

"Hey, you're not a little bold. He Jiping suddenly said this.

Chen Tianyu immediately understood, she was talking about Liu Zichen, and he smiled disapprovingly: "Girlfriend, one more is not too much." ”

"You seem to know what I'm going to answer. He Jiping was not polite at all, aggressive.

Chen Tianyu nodded: "We used to be good friends, of course I know you." ”

"But I don't know you, though you want to think of me as a friend. He Jiping subconsciously frowned, but it looked particularly charming.

Chen Tianyu didn't want to dwell on this question, he asked, "Since you are inseparable from that Yiruo, can you introduce us to each other?"

"Ah, you actually know her name?" said Ji Ping.

Chen Tianyu smiled: "Lugu Lake is so small, it is not difficult to inquire about a name, let alone such a young and beautiful woman who stands out from the crowd." ”

"Oh......" and Ji Ping no longer delved into it, "Do you really plan to meet with Yiruo?"

"Yes, I heard that there has always been a custom of walking marriages here, and it should be from the Mosuo tribe, right?" he was speechless.

Sure enough, He Ji Ping burst out laughing.

She suddenly lost her temper, but she couldn't hold back any longer, this guy really dared to say anything.

"I really admire you, are you sure you're talking to a girl?" she couldn't help but say.

"Hehe, you don't care. Chen Tianyu said lightly, "So I had to tell the truth." ”

He Ji Ping said lightly: "Of course I don't care, it doesn't have much to do with me." She paused, "But are you sure that Iruo will agree?

"It's fun to be unsure. Chen Tianyu raised his eyebrows at He Ping, with some provocation.

"Cut, if you don't get close to anyone in the next life, you're so arrogant!" He Ji Ping glanced at him with disdain.

Chen Tianyu said with a smile: "Don't come close to me, but don't I know you now? No, soon we will be acquaintances......

He Jiping felt choked, and she said for a long time: "Don't blame me for not reminding you, there is a knife on the head of the color word, and you are careful to make a knife under the soul." ”

Chen Tianyu said with a smile: "It's still the same sentence, it doesn't matter, I am willing to sacrifice my life for the strange woman!"

"It depends on whether the boss lady is willing to introduce you?"