At noon, Ning Daqiang went to drink wedding wine, and it was he and Ning Dayun's uncle's family who added a grandson.

Although they didn't move around much during the New Year's holidays more than ten years ago, in the words of their hometown, they still had to give gifts - gifts for joy and funeral.

There are several layers of relationship between hometowns, the closest in addition to red and white ceremonies to give gifts, during the Chinese New Year also have to move around each other, you come to my house to buy something, I go to your house to return the gift and bring something, gifts are still exchanged.

Like Ning Yuan's family, only Ning Dayun's family is now left with this relationship.

The second level of relationship is one's own family, or one's own family. Whoever has a wedding or funeral has to give gifts, but also to help.

At this time, it is all running water seats, in addition to spending money to hire the master in charge of cooking, other chores such as lighting fire, boiling water, washing dishes, selecting vegetables and washing vegetables, serving dishes, etc., all need to be helped by the family.

In the past, everyone was poor, and if the family did not help each other, the sparsely populated family would not be able to open up at all, especially for funerals.

The countryside is buried, plus the coffin is a few hundred catties, at least eight or nine big men have to carry it, and the cemetery is generally on the mountain, and it is tiring to carry it on the flat ground, not to mention going up the mountain, even in winter, you have to sweat like rain.

Now you can still spend money to hire people, which was taboo in the past, and even if you spend money, it is difficult to find, which requires the help of your own strong labor.

Ning Yuan remembered that one year, a neighbor said that one of their own families, because they were doing business outside all the year round, and others only gave gifts and did not help when they had something, he felt that he could just earn money, there was nothing that money could not do, and it would be troublesome to go back and delay time, and he could earn a lot of money with this effort.

But when his father died, others only gave gifts, although there was money to hold a banquet, but carrying the coffin, the money could not be found, so anxious to cry, and finally asked for a respected uncle of the family, and knelt down and said good words, so he reluctantly found a few of his own family to help carry it up the mountain.

In the end, he thanked the money, but none of those families answered, or the old man said: "If it wasn't for your own family, do you think the people who gave the money would come?

said that he was ashamed, and in the end, if there was anything to do with his family, he basically went.

This kind of relationship between their own family, the Ning family also has some of them, after all, no one is conjured up in the cracks of the stone.

According to the genealogy, the Ning family was moved from Jiangxi Province to Hubei Province in the Song Dynasty, and moved north from Xiaocheng in the late Ming and early Qing dynasties to Xinyi.

And Ning Daqiang's ancestor on this branch, settled in a village in the north of Lingshan County, after more than a hundred years, some have been separated, and now there are more than ten households still contacted, after all, Ning is not a big surname.

However, in the past, Ning Yuan and them went to school, and Ning Daqiang went to help.

The last layer of the relationship is the relatives who offer gifts to each other.

If you don't happen to be together during the Chinese New Year, you generally won't move.

Like Ning Daqiang's uncle's house this time, this is the case.

In fact, in the past, relatives like his uncle and aunt were actually the first kind, not only offering gifts, but also buying things to visit during the New Year's holidays.

But in those years, when the Ning family was in the most difficult time, they really couldn't take out the money to buy gifts, so they could only give their own tofu, although the uncle and his cousins didn't say anything at that time, but at the same time, other relatives who went to his house, aunt's brother and sister-in-law, were beside them and said coldly:

"This condition also adopts a child, I don't come once a year, and when I come, I will bring some tofu, which really saves money...... Tsk, this uncle is not as good as those wild children......"

Although Ning Daqiang has a bad temper, after all, he is too cold, and he can only hold it in his heart if he is angry.

Two days later, when several cousins came back to salute, they came empty-handed and said:

"Your uncle sighs that you are pitiful, don't take anything in the future, let's sit and leave, and you don't have to be busy. ”

Ning Daqiang felt humiliated, and since then, Ning Daqiang has never been there for the New Year, only giving gifts when things happen.

Even if there are not many gifts for Ning Daqiang, after all, the uncle's family has three sons and two daughters, and these five cousins and cousins have to give gifts when they get married.

If it weren't for family planning, there would be at least three or four per family.

Moreover, Lingshan County not only has to give gifts for giving birth, but also has to give gifts for children when they are first years old.

In the 80s, I still gave three or five yuan, and in the 90s, I couldn't get another five yuan, so it rose to ten yuan, and this is still the lowest gift money, but this kind of relationship is only given so much, and I don't know how much cold words behind it.

And the Ning family, since Ning Dayun got married, there has been nothing else in the past few decades except for the death of his parents, after all, he has not married, he has not given birth to children, and he has no reason to do things.

Ning Daqiang and they had only one uncle, and there were originally a few of them, who either died during the war or starved to death.

Ning Daqiang's uncle is called Peng Daoqi, who is only twelve years older than Ning Daqiang and 30 years old.

In the past, the family was also poor, and the marriage was late, and when I first got married, I had to catch up with the three-year disaster, and I didn't have children until 61 years passed, the eldest daughter was 62 years old, the eldest son was 63 years old, and the youngest son was 70 years old.

The youngest is called Peng Xinming, born in 70. His first child was a daughter, and this time he gave birth to a son.

Although Ning Dayun's youngest grandson Zhu Ziheng is older than this baby, he is a generation shorter in terms of generation, and Zhu Ziheng still has to call this newborn little guy Uncle Cousin.

After all, this little guy is the son of Zhu Ziheng's grandmother's cousin.

Although they were going to give gifts, Ning Daqiang went alone, and Ning Yuan and they didn't want to go.

When Ning Daqiang went to give gifts, he also took Ning Yuan and the four of them there, but he was also ridiculed by others: "Send so much money, and bring five, they are all so eaten, and the owner must not pay for death!"

Since then, Ning Daqiang has not taken them.

But just when it was almost noon, Ning Yuan was cooking, when he heard a shout from outside the courtyard:

"Xiaoyuan!"

Ning Yuan and the others ran out, and they saw a middle-aged man standing in the courtyard.

This is not Ning Yuan's eldest son, Peng Xinfu!

Although he hadn't seen him again for all these years, Ning Yuan still recognized him at a glance, he was in his twenties when he saw him, and adult men generally have a long body shape and their appearance has not changed much.

When Peng Xinfu saw Ning Yuan, he was amazed: "Oh, I haven't seen you for so many years, and now they are all so big, and they are still so fashionable, and they are also big stars, haha, do you still recognize me?"

"Uncle Cousin. Ning Yuan shouted, also guessing his intention.

Sure enough, Peng Xinfu came over and pulled Ning Yuan's hand, and at the same time greeted Ning Yu who was standing next to him:

"You said that your dad is really, he went by himself, and he didn't know to take you with him, take a walk, and the meal will be opened soon, and we will go over together!"

"I'm almost ready. Ning Yuan didn't want to go, so he excused himself.

"Hey, you said you, when you become a big star, you can't deny us poor relatives, right, if you still recognize your cousin and uncle, you will go together. ”

Ning Yuan was speechless, and originally wanted to mercilessly take out the ridicule of the year and ridicule it, but after thinking about it, since his father didn't lose this relative, it proves that he still cares.

And the ridicule back then was said by my uncle's relatives, not by my uncle and his family, including the later gifts, their family didn't say anything.

And when the uncle asked the three cousins to come over, he also said that the Ning family was pitiful, and he would not take anything during the New Year's holidays in the future, but Ning Daqiang felt humiliated and did not go again.

Now that they have come to the door, it is not easy to shirk it.

So, Ning Yuan took Ning Yu and them and followed Peng Xinfu over.

However, Ning Yuan reminded: "Everywhere I go now, I will be watched, don't mess up the wedding banquet at that time." ”

Peng Xinfu waved his hand indifferently and smiled: "What are you talking about, it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter." ”

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