Li Xin smiled: "Be careful, I'm driving a car, there are many people in the car at this time, and if something happens, it will be troublesome, and the matter of proposing marriage may really have to be postponed." ”

"Don't talk nonsense about these unlucky words!" Xia Xiaona hurriedly said.

Li Xin said: "On Saturday, my parents came up to propose marriage to your family, if your parents agree to this matter, when is the best time to get married? Have you considered it?"

"I don't know, what do you say?"

"This has to wait for Saturday to see your parents' attitude, if they agree, the marriage will be done before the National Day, what do you think?"

"You must do it!" Xia Xiaona looked out the window, feeling extremely excited. This is the first time Li Xin has explicitly proposed to her. After waiting for so many years, Xia Xiaona finally waited for the sentence she wanted.

Although when Li Xin bought her the expensive watch and a villa of nearly 60 million yuan in Shanghai, Xia Xiaona knew that all this was already a sure thing, but when all this really came, she was still very excited, and her heart blossomed.

"You should also think about it, pick a good day. Li Xin said.

"Hmm!"

On Friday afternoon, Huang Hongliang just wanted to leave after the parent-teacher meeting, but was stopped by his son's homeroom teacher: "Hello, you are the father of Huang XX, right?"

Huang Hongliang nodded and said, "Yes, is there something wrong with the teacher?"

"Wait a minute, I'll talk to you about something. ”

"Okay. ”

As soon as the head teacher, who was surrounded by other parents, finished speaking, he was immediately busy dealing with the problems of other parents.

Huang Hongliang, who had already walked to the door, had to stand sideways to get out of the way, watching the other parents leave the classroom one after another. He thought to himself: It seems that his son's academic performance is still a problem, otherwise he would not be left alone by the teacher.

After more than 20 minutes, after the other parents had finished consulting and left one after another, the son's homeroom teacher said to Huang Hongliang: "Huang XX's father, let's sit down and talk." With that, the head teacher sat down on the first row of students' seats and motioned for Huang Hongliang to come and sit down.

Huang Hongliang walked over and sat down in another seat in the first row, and said with a smile: "Teacher, is Huang XX causing trouble again in school? I don't think his recent test results are very good." ”

The head teacher said: "His grades have dropped a lot, but I didn't talk to you today about his academic performance, but about his emotional affairs." ”

"Emotional?"

"Yes. This child's academic performance has always been at the middle level, and the decline has been obvious in the last semester, but I think this is not a problem with his learning method, but a problem with his emotions. ”

Huang Hongliang asked worriedly: "Is this kid causing some trouble at school?"

"Not really, if he's really naughty and lively, I don't have to worry about it. The problem now is that this child's temperament has changed greatly since this semester, and he is a little introverted now, and he rarely communicates with his classmates and teachers. My most intuitive feeling is that this child is under great psychological pressure, and he is very worried at a young age, which is the biggest reason for his learning. I talked to him twice to find out what was worrying about him. But after talking to him, I felt that the problem was even bigger. ”

"What's going on?"

"When I ask him about his studies, he answers me. But whenever I tried to understand his deep worries, he was unusually vigilant and silent, and the child's heart was completely closed. ”

Huang Hongliang knew that what he feared had finally happened.

Since he divorced his ex-wife, his son has been living with his ex-wife. The ex-wife's narrow and selfish education method made the son take on too many things that should not be borne by him.

As time passed, Huang Hongliang felt that his son's eyes were full of more and more hostility when he looked at him, which was not what a middle school student should have.

It is said that the eyes are the windows of the soul, and the inner world reflected in the window is full of hatred and hostility, which should be an innocent and romantic age, but he looks at the world with such a mentality, can the result be good?

If his son only delayed his academic performance, Huang Hongliang didn't think it was a big deal. Because his own highest education is only a secondary school graduate, doesn't he also rely on his own ability to lead many people with higher education than himself? In his mind, he believes that it is not entirely academic qualifications to cope with society. As long as people are smart and clever enough, there are many paths to success.

What he is really worried about is that his son has such a twisted mentality at a young age, refuses to communicate with others, and completely closes himself off. It is impossible for such a child to know and understand the world with a normal state of mind when he grows up.

If you really get to that point, not to mention becoming a talent, it will be a problem to integrate into this world. In that case, the son's life would be ruined.

Regarding the fact that his ex-wife regarded his son as a tool to take revenge on him, Huang Hongliang had a vague sense of foreboding a few years ago. But at that time, he thought that what his son couldn't treat correctly was just the relationship with his father, but what he didn't expect was that this incident profoundly affected his son's attitude towards everything.

Huang Hongliang's contemplation confirmed the judgment of the head teacher, he said: "The family also has a great responsibility for the education of children, and from a certain point of view, the importance of family education is far greater than that of school education. Is there any other reason for Huang XX's emotional change? Because I have learned from the side that there is nothing too unexpected in the relationship between him and his classmates, which will not lead to such a big change. ”

How could Huang Hongliang not know what the head teacher meant by asking this, it seems that his son really closed his heart completely, and he didn't say a word about his parents' divorce in front of his classmates and teachers.

From this point alone, it can be seen how much pressure the son has endured in front of his classmates and teachers due to the divorce of his parents.

Huang Hongliang hesitated for a while, and then said: "I divorced his mother a few years ago, and it is estimated that this matter has a great impact on him. Now his attitude towards me is completely different from before, and I am worried about how to solve this problem, but I didn't expect it to have such a big impact on his studies. ”

The head teacher said, "I guess that's it." In fact, this kind of situation is not uncommon in school, and there have been two classmates in my class who are very similar to your child's situation, both of them are depressed due to family changes, which in turn affects their academic performance. If the child's psychological tolerance is relatively strong and can treat the matter of the parent's divorce correctly, the impact on the child itself will be smaller. If the child does not take this matter correctly, the impact on academic performance will be considerable. ”

"Yes, yes!" The head teacher's words reached Huang Hongliang's heart, which was what he was most worried about.

"The lack of family education is an irreparable loss for children, in addition to busy work, you parents should also pay more attention to the psychological growth of children, and try to minimize the impact of family changes. Only when families and schools cooperate with each other can there be good educational results. The child is very malleable, and if he is not guided at this critical time, it will be difficult for him to change when he becomes an adult. Even if you don't think about things that far away, the college entrance examination that you will face in more than a year is a topic that cannot be avoided. If this child's psychological condition cannot be adjusted, he will probably not be able to bear the pressure of the college entrance examination and the homework before the college entrance examination. You say yes, right?"

"Teacher, you're right, I'll pay attention to these issues. Huang Hongliang was full of promises, but he didn't know what to do.

He is now a rat trap, both wanting to solve the problem and fearing that he will cause more harm to his son. If it weren't for this concern, he would have been fighting his ex-wife in court for custody of his son when he divorced a few years ago.

But the ex-wife with a low level of education has no bottom line in doing things, and after knowing that he has such a plan, she said a lot of things to her son that her son shouldn't know, turning her son into a tool to confront herself.

And judging from the current situation, the ex-wife's goal has been achieved, and the son is becoming more and more estranged from his father.

At this time, Huang Hongliang was even more powerless to fight back on his son's issue than a few years ago.

An uneducated woman is a nightmare for a man!

Huang Hongliang has been divorced for several years, and his fear and disappointment in his last marriage, coupled with the fact that women with a high level of education look down on him, and he looks down on women with a low level of education, so until now, he is still a single.

After talking to his son's homeroom teacher, Huang Hongliang hurriedly came out of the classroom and rushed home.

Originally, my son could play on campus after class today, and waited for Huang Hongliang to go home together after the parent-teacher conference. But yesterday on the phone, when his son asked Huang Hongliang to attend the parent-teacher conference, he said that he didn't want to wait for him on campus after school today, saying that he could go directly to the house if he had the key.

Huang Hongliang vaguely guessed that his son's mind was that he didn't want his classmates to see him with him, and he was puzzled and angry at his son's mentality. If it had been in the past, he might have reprimanded his son when he went back today. But after talking to the head teacher about this matter today, he easily didn't dare to lose his temper with his son anymore.

At this time, his son was like a very fragile glassware in Huang Hongliang's heart, he couldn't touch it, and if he wasn't careful, he would immediately turn into a pile of pieces.

A few years ago, in his early 40s, Huang Hongliang, who was proud of the spring breeze, still scoffed at the term midlife crisis.

Even before today, he was forty-five or sixteen years old, and he did not have a deep understanding of the profound meaning of this word.