As soon as Lin Ping finished solving the problem in front of him, the students were lining up to eat peacefully, when Yu Mengfei came back with the student Liu Gang, and it seemed that Yu Mengfei comforted the angry Liu Gang.

Yu Mengfei picked up the rice bowl that Liu Gang threw on the ground, and then said to Liu Gang with a smile: "You wait here, I'll help you brush the rice bowl." ”

Zhang Yipeng suddenly stopped in front of Yu Mengfei: "He doesn't have any hands himself?

Yu Mengfei glanced at Zhang Yipeng and said, "You dodged away, it's me who brushes it, not you." ”

Lin Ping smiled at Zhang Yipeng and said, "Teacher Yu is right, she brushed and you didn't brush it, why are you stopping him?"

Zhang Yipeng shook his head helplessly, and then stepped aside.

Yu Mengfei was a little angry and helped the student Liu Gang scrub the rice jar, then handed it to Liu Gang and said with a smile: "Go and line up to eat." ”

As soon as Liu walked to the back of the line, his little friend suddenly said to him: "If you are at the back of the line, you can't drink chicken soup today, you have to drink it tomorrow." ”

As soon as Liu Gang heard this, he immediately turned around and walked to the front of the line, several teachers frowned, Zhang Yipeng strode in front of Liu Gang: "What are you doing? Go to the back and line up!"

Liu Gang looked at Zhang Yipeng with an unconvinced face and resentment: "I don't! I have to drink chicken soup and eat chicken today!"

Zhang Yipeng grabbed Liu Gang's clothes by the collar and lifted Liu Gang up: "Why are you so crazy?"

Yu Mengfei came over and said, "Zhang Yipeng, what are you doing? Put the child down!"

Zhang Yipeng glanced at his girlfriend, then put Liu Gang down and said, "Go to the back and line up." ”

Liu Gang immediately turned his head to look at Yu Mengfei: "Teacher, I want to go to the front, I want to drink chicken soup today." ”

Yu Mengfei squatted down and held his shoulder to comfort Liu Gang: "Classmate Liu Gang, let's be a good student and be obedient, okay?"

When Liu Gang heard this, he turned his head unwillingly and left: "Then I won't eat it." ”

Yu Mengfei grabbed him and looked around, and the other teachers and students said helplessly: "Then give Liu Gang this opportunity and let Liu Gang go to the front." ”

The students didn't speak, and neither did the teachers.

Yu Mengfei comforted Liu Gang and said: "Promise the teacher, only this time you are allowed to make an exception, and next time you will not be allowed to do this, and Liu Gang will definitely be a good student who abides by the rules in the future." ”

Liu Gang looked at Yu Mengfei's eyes and neither nodded nor shook his head.

Yu Mengfei took Liu Gang's arm and was about to walk to the front of the team.

At this time, Lin Ping said coldly and solemnly: "Not once!"

Lin Ping's words were like the north wind of the cold winter moon, and like an emotionless killer, as soon as his words came out, everyone around felt a cold.

Lin Ping glanced at Yu Mengfei coldly: "Don't chill the hearts of other students because of one student, don't let one student destroy the fairness in the hearts of all students." ”

Yu Mengfei just wanted to speak, Zhang Yipeng opened his mouth and said: "Mengfei, I think Principal Lin is right, you are not a preschool teacher, nor a nanny, you are a teacher, are you being a nanny for him?"

Lin Ping said to the other students, "Are you satisfied with Teacher Yu's approach, do you agree?"

The other students looked at each other without speaking, and a few shook their heads slightly.

Lin Ping looked at them and said loudly: "Why don't you dare to express your opinions and thoughts in your heart? I want you to say your thoughts out loud now? If you want to say if you don't want to, you can say it out loud! Teacher, I'm standing here!"

Chinese, why don't you dare to say "no"?

In particular, most Chinese children have received ideological education and Confucian culture since childhood, so that they dare not say no, and as a result, they will slowly develop a cowardly and compromising character, and they can give in to everything, and they can compromise anything, not even a little strong. The other side of the prevalence of bear children is the pathetic of good old people and honest children.

Their toys are played with by others, and most parents are taught to be generous and shared, but they are played with by others, and they can only cry secretly.

His stationery was forcibly borrowed by others, but it was damaged by others, he didn't dare to say it, and he was blamed by his parents, and he could only bear the grievances.

I don't dare to fight for anything, I don't dare to oppose anything, I endure everything silently, and sometimes I don't dare to say anything when I am bullied at school. This is the so-called "pleasing personality", and the character of educating children is easy to be bullied by others from childhood to adulthood, and all they suffer are dumb losses.

Children with a pleasing personality will also get tired in society when they grow up, and they will not get ahead easily. Because the opportunity to get ahead is denied by others, or they are all given up by their people-pleasing personality.

In school, people with a people-pleasing personality are more likely to be bullied by school violence and "bad kids."

To train children to be self-reliant and self-reliant, the first thing is to tell them to be brave and confident to say the word - no!

"Your new toy, play with me!"

"No!"

At this time, some parents will say, "Why are you so selfish, child? Play with others! You must know how to share and be generous." ”

And this so-called generosity and sharing education is exactly wrong, sharing is mutual, is the child's spontaneous, if the child plays with his real good friend, even if his good friend does not open his mouth to borrow new toys from him, he will take the initiative to share his new toys with his good friend, because that is the friendship that the child recognizes in his heart, that is the person he thinks is worth sharing.

Sharing should be spontaneous and happy. Sharing is a virtue that should be felt by both parties, rather than one party being forced to share and fulfill the happiness of the other.

It's not teaching children to share, it's teaching children how to be dogs to others.

Sharing is not forced, worried, forcing one's child to share his things with people who don't want to share will make him gradually become very insecure, if the goal of sharing does not know how to cherish, it will make the child worried, and will also lose the good impression of the goal and the trust in the parents.

Parents should teach their children to be bold and brave to say no, and children who dare to be brave and bold in expressing their opposition will be less likely to be bullied in school, and will grow up to be more self-reliant.

Especially girls, they may also encounter some weird men's bad touch, so we must teach girls to be brave and bold to say "no" in the face of others' so-called hugs and kisses and moves, so that girls will be easier to avoid being molested, and it is easier to form a self-reliant, self-reliant and self-loving character.

In recent years, 70%-80% of reported cases of X abuse against children were committed by acquaintances, and teaching children to say "no" is particularly important in terms of prevention.

At this time, Yu Mengfei's practice of helping Liu Gang cut the queue was wrong, which was not only breaking the rules, but also bullying other classmates in disguise.

After Lin Ping shouted at the students, several children plucked up the courage to open their mouths and said, "I don't want to!"

Lin Ping looked at them and said, "Be louder, there's nothing wrong with expressing your inner thoughts." ”

The students looked at each other and said loudly in unison, "No!"

At this time, Wang Yige boldly stood up and said to Yu Mengfei: "Teacher Yu, I don't like what you do, you only care about the feelings of this classmate, but have you thought about the feelings of our classmates who are lining up?"

Yu Mengfei was stunned.

At this time, another girl stood up and said: "Yes, Teacher Yu, I don't like your approach either, if he can be lined up in front because he throws the rice bowl because of his temper, then I can also line up in the front if I drop the rice bowl now?"

Lin Ping looked at Yu Mengfei calmly, he just wanted to correct Yu Mengfei's wrong approach through the ideas of his classmates, Yu Mengfei was kind and simple in her heart, but she was a little too kind.

Or that Yu Mengfei is too benevolent, but loving mothers have many defeated children, and the same is true for teachers, a teacher who is too benevolent is easy to bring out bad students and cannot play a role in educating people. 8)