Jiang Chan sighed, knowing where Lin Hanyan's paranoia was: "But he is a person, not an object, if you have a pathological possessiveness, the result will only push him further." ”

"So I didn't dare to get close again, I was exhausted from two relationships in my last life. Lin Hanyan hugged her knees, intending to curl herself up.

"I am wholeheartedly involved in every relationship, I regard him as my all, but we will inevitably have quarrels, and I will take the initiative to apologize when we quarrel, but in the end they still have to break up with me, and this endless torture I can't bear it. ”

"I know, I know, and no one in this world knows you better than I do. Jiang Chan knows all of Lin Hanyan's memories, so there is really no one in this world who can understand Lin Hanyan better than her.

"Little Cicada, am I sick?" was silent for a long time before Lin Hanyan asked.

Jiang Chan frowned: "You're not sick, you're just insecure." Because you have not been loved by your father and mother since you were a child, and you have been in this insecure environment for a long time, you desperately want to catch everyone around you, and you just use the wrong way. ”

"Sometimes, if you want to get more, you have to know the right way to let go, and the tighter you hold on, the more you will lose. ”

"I can't let go, I'm worried that as soon as I let go, he will leave without looking back. Lin Hanyan hesitated: "I love him so much, why can't he keep his distance from other girls for me?"

"What is the scale of your so-called distance?" Jiang Chan asked rhetorically: "Even if he doesn't say a word to the opposite sex? How is it possible? People have a foothold in society, and they always have to deal with all kinds of people, and a person who doesn't say a word to the opposite sex is not a person with a lot of potential." ”

Seeing that Lin Hanyan was silent for a long time and didn't speak, Jiang Chan spoke again: "Yanyan, I'm not accusing you, but sometimes you have to compare your heart to your heart." If one day you have a boyfriend, and you work as a fashion designer, you will inevitably come into contact with the opposite sex, and if he asks you not to say a word to others, and always takes urgent measures against you, can you stand this?"

Lin Hanyan shook his head: "Maybe I can accept it at first, thinking that this is a sign that he loves me, but after a long time, I feel that I can't do it, and I feel that I am bound." ”

"So, if you feel that way, others will feel the same way. The bond that binds the relationship between the two is love, and love is not a bondage, it should be to make you better. ”

"Good love should let you get out of the pain of the past and make you a better person. If there is a person who makes you unhappy, makes you depressed or crazy, then he is not destined to be a good lover. ”

"So, Yanyan, don't be afraid, if you really like him, accept him bravely, no matter what, I will always be here. Jiang Chan finally encouraged, "If you don't try, you will never know what kind of person is suitable for you." ”

"I'm still worried," Lin Hanyan bit her lip: "I always have to go back to China in the future, if I talk about a foreign boyfriend, what if he insists on staying here? ”

"I know, I know you want to go long. Jiang Chan comforted her: "But these are your thoughts, if you don't ask, you will never know what the other party thinks, right?" Maybe the result will disappoint you, if you don't even have the courage to try, isn't it too cowardly?"

"Little Cicada, will you always be?" After thinking for a long time, Lin Hanyan suddenly asked.

Jiang Chan was stunned: "As long as you need me, I will always be there." We have also been together for several years, and if I leave you like this, I will not be at ease, I will always see you live a happy life, and I will be able to leave only if I am happy and obedient for a lifetime. ”

Saying this, Jiang Chan is ready to accompany Lin Hanyan for the rest of her life, but this girl is too psychologically fragile, and she really doesn't know what she will do if she leaves rashly.

"That's good, that's good. Lin Hanyan patted his heart: "If I do something wrong in the future, you have to tell me more, I don't know what's going on, as soon as I talk to you, my heart will be much calmer." ”

"If there's something wrong with you, I'll point it out. Jiang Chan said lightly, "I will always be there, unless one day you are really independent." ”

Lin Hanyan's problem is at best a psychological problem, and at a small level, it is caused by the harm caused by her original family and her lack of security.

Jiang Chan once read such a sentence, some people use childhood to heal their whole life, and some people use their whole life to heal their childhood, Lin Hanyan happens to be the latter.

Growing up in an environment that lacks love, no one teaches her how to love, she is like a child, she meets someone she likes, like a doll, and wants to hold each other firmly in the palm of her hand.

After a long time, the other party is tired, and they are also tired, and the two sides will inevitably quarrel, and after the dispute, they will reconcile, quarrel, etc., and they will fall into a vicious circle between each other.

Sometimes, in order to retain the other party, or to determine one's position in the other party's heart, it is inevitable to make some radical moves. The initial argument may be followed by a text bombardment or a series of deadly calls, but then it can get worse, such as self-harm or suicide.

Lin Hanyan took a lot of sleeping pills in her last life and passed away, thinking of the ending of her last life, Jiang Chan sighed. So, what's so good about love? It's better to be like her, to be alone and free.

But she is fundamentally different from Lin Hanyan, she has a strong heart, and love is not so attractive to her. But Lin Hanyan is different, she lacks love, and her inner appeal is to hope that someone will truly love her, care for her, and soothe the pain in her heart.

Sensing that Lin Hanyan was asleep, Jiang Chan sighed. Sometimes it really feels very unfair, parents are the only profession that can be employed without any certificates, and their right to come to this world is not determined by themselves, but by their parents.

It is not too irresponsible to be born but not raised. caused Lin Hanyan's current psychological state, An Weike and Lin Danqiu are the culprits. But there is no way, since the original family cannot be changed, then all Lin Hanyan can do is to change herself.

"Good morning, little cicada. Perhaps Jiang Cicada's enlightenment had an effect, and when she got up the next day, Lin Hanyan's mental state was very good and she was in good spirits.

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