Tao Xianglian was not so depressed after my enlightenment, and said that she would bring Tong Tong over for us to see, Ye Xuan and I welcomed, Ye Xuan sent Tao Xianglian back to the ward, I returned to Lin Jing's office, made myself a cup of green tea, said so much and almost didn't kill me with thirst, I took a big sip, instantly felt better, took out a favorite Liqun cigarette, and was about to light it, Ye Xuan came in.

"Brother, are you back in the office so soon? I said why can't I find you. Ye Xuan smiled.

"I'm sorry, I'm a little thirsty, I'll make you tea. ”

Ye Xuan didn't refuse, just like me, a cup of green tea was placed in front of Ye Xuan.

Ye Xuan took the initiative to speak: "Brother, how do you know so much? After Aunt Tao was sent back, I was also willing to cooperate with the treatment, I felt like a different person, it was amazing." ”

I said lightly: "It's not that I'm amazing, it's that you solved her worries, what are her worries, medical expenses and children, aside from her physical health, these two things make her very embarrassed, Ye Xuan, it's not easy to help a child, if you start funding from an early age, this cost is too ......"

Before I could finish speaking, I was interrupted by Ye Xuan: "Brother, don't worry about it, I think Tong Tong is very pitiful, he has no father and no mother, his grandfather has also passed away, and his grandmother is not in good health, if we don't help this Tong Tong, he will really become an orphan, I don't want to see this happen." ”

Ye Xuan is not only beautiful, but also very kind, really a bodhisattva, I read Tao Xianglian's medical records, it is indeed written like this, since the situation is true, should I also do my part?

"Ye Xuan, is this a lot of money?" I murmured.

"I know brother, it's okay, our family will allocate a charity fund every year to alleviate poverty, and this little thing can still be done. ”

"Ye Xuan, what do you Ye Group do?"

"Well, there are also investments in real estate, finance, securities, and medical care, I don't know too well, my dad and brother are all taking care of it. ”

"Publicly traded companies?"

"It's not listed, it's not good to be listed, our family is committed to people's livelihood services, our houses and medical care are not very expensive, and everything is going smoothly at present. ”

I smiled and said, "Ye Xuan, it's too wronged for you to let you do office work." ”

"No, brother, I like the work here as much as I like you. ”

As soon as Ye Xuan finished speaking, Jin Wenhui came in, and looking at Jin Wenhui's expression, he probably heard what Ye Xuan said just now.

Jin Wenhui smiled: "It's amazing, you, not only opened Tao Xianglian's heart, but also gained the heart of a beautiful woman, how should I reward you?"

I said to Jin Wenhui: "Sister Wenhui, this is all free service, it would be too much to say that the reward is too foreign, I still have a salary, just do my best." ”

"Where did you learn psychology? You can do things that the doctors can't do, and the inpatient department is praising you. ”

"It's not so mysterious, is it?"

Jin Wenhui said with a smile: "I want to ask a question, if you want to overcome depression and anxiety, is there a treatment method in your psychology that is called academically, such as the concept of general medicine for wind and cold is to dispel cold and relieve pain." ”

Of course, there are two terms, consciousness therapy and cognitive therapy, people who are anxious and depressed are trapped in the trap of negative thinking set by themselves, and they are trapped by their own tendons, extremes, and irrational thinking and cognition for a long time, and they can't let go, resulting in extreme inner conflict, doubt, fear, fear, Once the physical and mental health is fluctuated, the physical symptoms will follow, such as: those who are anxious and afraid, their minds are filled with fear and anxiety, and then the stomach will be very nervous, and there will be breath in the throat that cannot go up or down, and they will not be able to sleep all night, and even physiological phenomena such as frequent urination, coughing, and retching. Once there is a big fluctuation in emotions, the disaster is huge. Let me talk about cognitive therapy, different people have different views on one thing, why do you feel anxious? Why don't others be anxious? The real source of our anxiety is not the occurrence of something or a certain blow, but is determined by our cognition, for example: Li's house was burned, he cried and cried and lamented everything. Because of the blow caused by this incident, he collapsed, was pessimistic, and finally depressed.

And Zhang's house was also burned in this fire, but Zhang's mentality is very optimistic, positive and hard, and efforts can build a more beautiful one. At this time, Zhang adopted a very optimistic and positive attitude towards this matter: "Alas, the house has been burned, and it is just right to build a more beautiful house." "It's a self-positive comfort. You see that the same thing happens to different people, and the ending is completely different, and we can assume that A. is the house B. is your cognition C. is your emotion. Pessimistic people, cognitively: "My house was burned, this thing hit too hard, I can't accept it, I have a dead heart." Optimistic people know that "my house has burned down, but I can try to build a more beautiful house." ”

Therefore, from the analysis of this case, we can see that it is not the house that is burned, but our cognition, if we learn to adjust our cognition in the face of difficulties, then our emotions will be reversed in the process of temporary pessimism, and then look at the disaster with a positive and optimistic attitude.

This is the so-called simplest cognitive therapy, using our cognition to examine our attitude towards things, changing our cognition, can make our negative emotions return to a calm and accepting cognition as soon as possible, then the malignant emotions will naturally be alleviated a lot. When we are anxious and depressed, we can also take cognitive therapy to alleviate our pessimistic mood and fear, so that we can accept what has happened cognitively, and then face it bravely and optimistically. In the same way, consciousness therapy is also a self-help method to alleviate malignant emotional problems, consciousness therapy is that you know the truth, and you also know how to do it, but you still can't let go, sad, and nervous. At this time, it's not that you want to have a problem with your consciousness, but that you have consciousness, and you don't have the unity of knowledge and action to practice your right consciousness, and you don't use the right consciousness to negate your wrong consciousness. Consciousness therapy can greatly enhance our ideological awareness, use consciousness therapy anytime and anywhere, withdraw ourselves, stand in a more rational perspective to look at all the predicaments we face, analyze our own problems, and the troubles and suppressed moods brought by emotions. ”

Talking too much in one breath, I took another big sip of water, choking me for a long time before I recovered, Ye Xuan was patting me on the back, and Jin Wenhui also said: "Slow down, no one will rob you." ”

"I'm sorry, it's gaffe, this is cognitive therapy and consciousness therapy, in fact, there are many kinds of treatments for patients with depression in psychology, such as Morita therapy and the like, and the recurrence probability of depression is 75% to 80%. If you want to treat this disease, the environment is also very important, just like why I took Tao Xianglian to a quieter and more beautiful environment, which is very helpful for treatment. ”

Jin Wenhui said to me and Ye Xuan: "The three of us will have a meal together in the evening, see you or leave, I'll be busy first." ”

After Jin Wenhui left, I said to Ye Xuan, "How do you arrange it at night?"

"Didn't Sister Wen Hui say just now? Let's have dinner in the evening, of course we have to eat. ”

"Where do you live?"

Ye Xuan smiled: "You check the household registration?"

"Just ask. ”

"Norwegian Forest Villas, come to my house another day, I recommend you to my dad. ”

"That's so embarrassing, let's talk about it another day!"

"No, you have to go, next weekend, I'll take you to my house next weekend. ”

I didn't think much about it, so I agreed casually, after Ye Xuan went out, I listened to light music for a while, and Lin Jing called me.

"Little lover, what are you doing?" Lin Jing said sweetly on the phone.

"You're checking the post, reading a book!" I made a random excuse.

"Come on, you're going to love to study so much? Come to my house for dinner in the evening, that's it. ”

"Sister Wen Hui asked me to have dinner with Ye Xuan in the evening, don't you come tonight, and are you feeling better?" I teased Lin Jing.

"I hate it, which pot is not opened and which pot is mentioned, it's all your fault, I don't feel comfortable getting out of bed today, but I like it, sure enough, it's the man I fancie, my sister was happy to invite you to dinner, or I did it myself, since you don't want to, then forget it, come to my house tomorrow night, no opinion, right?"

I'm a little scared of Lin Jing, every time I go to her, I have to lose more than half of my vitality, but I don't see her, I don't know the secret of how to go back, but fortunately, my wife understands me.

When I got off work, Jin Wenhui and Ye Xuan were waiting for me at the door, they were really positive, they had changed their clothes, I was still dressed in this similar sportswear, and there was a little mismatch between standing with them, Jin Wenhui was wearing a blue and white porcelain skirt, very eye-catching, with a flowing burgundy shawl and long hair that was very soft, Ye Xuan, super shorts, a pair of big white legs without a little flaw, as a model's material, oblique bangs with a small clip, so beautiful, it was worth it to my eyes, I found that the women I knew didn't seem to be a few ugly, not no, not at all, one is more beautiful than the other, no wonder the maternal and child health care hospital, women's hospitals, natural beauties。

"Why are you here? I've been waiting for you for a long time. Ye Xuan pouted.

"I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I forgot to look at the time, let's go. ”

Jin Wenhui smiled and didn't speak, Jin Wenhui drove, less than ten minutes, stopped at a restaurant called "Charming Life", I was amazed as soon as I entered the door, the lights were very dim, very quiet, the waiters were uniformly dressed, the men's suits and leather shoes, the women looked like the stewardesses, and regardless of the male or female, the height was close, the waiter was not ordinary, the requirements were relatively high, Jin Wenhui took me and Ye Xuan to sit in an inconspicuous corner.