Yuan Jia is clear about the ins and outs of Liu Yuan's 'exam syndrome'.

In fact, in the final analysis, Liu Yuan is just a victim, and even sacrifices her future to try to maintain the relationship between her parents.

Liu Bin's derailment destroyed the entire family, and there is no husband and wife relationship between Ms. Zhou and him, and there is almost no room for recovery in this relationship, which is also the consensus of the husband and wife.

But rationally, for the sake of Liu Yuan's growth, the husband and wife decided to hide this matter and tell it after she was safely admitted to university.

They thought that Liu Yuan didn't know, but Liu Yuan already knew, so the pain of two people became the pain of three people.

It's a dead knot that can't be unraveled.

What Yuan Jia can do is to let Liu Yuan recognize the facts, and if she continues like this, it will be useless, but it will make her parents more painful.

"Doctor Yuan, what should I do......" Liu Yuan asked bitterly.

"And what do you think should be done?"

Yuan Jia asked rhetorically: "Your mother doesn't know about you, do you want to continue to hide from them and pretend that you have exam syndrome?"

"I ...... I don't know ......."

Liu Yuan held her head helplessly, she was not stupid, from the very beginning when she pretended to be sick, her parents did communicate more, and they were more concerned about her.

But with 'no matter how it is cured', Liu Yuan can clearly see the pain of her parents, they no longer love each other, but they still can't separate according to their hearts, and they have to add another sorrow because of her.

Sometimes she could see her mother wake up in the morning with big dark circles in her eyes, and she often couldn't sleep all night long.

The relationship has broken down, but because they don't want to affect Liu Yuan, the husband and wife have to pretend to be in love and share the same bed, what kind of torture is this?

"Why don't you try to let it go?" said Yuan Jia softly.

"I thought about it, but I was really reluctant and didn't want to see them separate. Liu Yuan said in a low voice.

"You know, a lot of times, our pain is not caused by the problem itself, but by our perception of the problem. Yuan Jia said.

Liu Yuan looked at him thoughtfully.

"Let me tell you a little story. ”

Yuan Jia pulled over a chair and sat down beside Liu Yuan, there seemed to be a kind of magic in him, Liu Yuan only felt a warmth approaching, and his heart didn't feel cold and lonely.

"Once upon a time there was a virtuous woman who had an enviable love, but suddenly one day, she ran to the river crying and was about to commit suicide. ”

Fortunately, an old man who was rowing rescued her, and the old man was puzzled: You are young, why can't you think about finding a short sight?"

The woman cried: I have been married to him for only a year, and he has changed his mind and abandoned me. ”

Instead of comforting the woman, the old man clapped his hands and smiled: Congratulations, congratulations!"

"The woman is very puzzled, I'm heartbroken, why are you still coming to congratulate me?"

The old man smiled and asked, "How did you live a year ago?"

The woman said: free, carefree, reading by day, embroidering at night. ”

"The old man asked: Did you know him then, did you fall in love with him?"

The woman shook her head and said: I don't know each other, I haven't loved each other. ”

The old man smiled again: Isn't that right, you have not lost him, you have just been sent back to the state you were in a year ago, and now you are free and carefree again, how is this not a happy event? ”

Hearing the old man's words, the woman only felt that it had been like a dream for more than a year, and when she woke up from a dream, it was as if it was a year ago, she rubbed her eyes, went ashore and left, and never looked for a short time again, and lived a free and happy life. ”

"Liu Yuan, the story is over, can you understand something?"

Yuan Jia sat on Liu Yuan's right, smiling and looking back at her at this time.

Liu Yuan's emotions have calmed down, quietly savoring this little story.

In the story, the woman looks at herself and this matter from another angle, and thus sees a new dawn. ”

Yuan Jia explained softly: "In fact, a lot of our suffering is caused by what we think we should be, trying to think from a different perspective is a kind of relief, but also a kind of self-transcendence and growth." ”

Liu Yuan'an listened quietly, and Yuan Jia could feel her tense shoulders relax slightly.

"Now, I'll give you five seconds to come up with three names for the people you love the most. ”

"Five, four, three, two, one...... Okay, tell me who you have in mind?"

Liu Yuan said the names of her parents without hesitation, and then said hesitantly: "I haven't come up with the third one yet......

"What about yourself?"

"Huh...?"

"Why don't you have yourself among the people you love the most?"

"I ......"

"If you want to love yourself, why do you have to work so hard?"

Yuan Jia sighed: "I know that you will definitely say the names of your parents, you love them, but you don't know what it means to love them, just like they don't know what it means to love you, you will think that it is the best outcome for them to be together and not to divorce, but for them, this may be the greatest torture." ”

Yuan Jia looked at Liu Yuan's eyes: "Do you think this is your love for them?"

Liu Yuan choked up slightly, and said in a low voice: "It's not ......"

Yuan Jia nodded and said: "Letting go is the best choice, you should be able to imagine why your mother cried just now, it is a kind of torture for her to stay at home almost every day, like an iron chain to tie her up, after the divorce, she just returned to the original state of being single and free, which is also what she wants." ”

"For you, one day you will grow up, and you will also leave your parents, so being separated from them is just growing up early, if you want to see them, you can see them at any time, why should you stick to the same roof?"

That's all for Yuan Jia's words, Liu Yuan seemed to wake up in a dream, and the confusion and pain in her eyes were gradually replaced by Qingming......

She knows that the relationship between her parents has broken down and there is no possibility of repair, and if she continues to work hard, it can only be the pain of three people, and it is also a kind of torture for her parents.

"Teacher Yuan, I see...... Thank you, I respect their choice, and when I get back, I'll take the initiative to tell them. ”

Looking at the teardrop that was still hanging from the corner of Liu Yuan's eyes, Yuan Jia said softly: "You still don't understand what I want you to learn." ”

"I ...... I want to love myself......"

Liu Yuan looked at him uncertainly.

Yuan Jia stretched out his hand to help her wipe away the tears, and said with a smile: "For life, acceptance is the best tenderness, whether it is accepting the appearance of a person, or accepting a person's never to see again, but you must love yourself." ”

Liu Yuan nodded vigorously.

"Thank you, Mr. Yuan. ”

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