"Hello Miss Yang, I'm Yuanjia, please come in. ”

Yuan Jia raised his hand sideways to invite guests, the distance between the two was about one meter, this distance ensured the other party's private space, he did not take the initiative to shake hands, many guests are not used to shaking hands with strangers.

Sure enough, this small detail made Miss Yang relax a little.

"Hello Dr. Yuan, I'm really sorry for being late. ”

Miss Yang looked ordinary, wore glasses, and was about twenty-five years old, so she did not enter the office immediately, but took a slight look at the environment inside at the door, holding the strap of the bag with her right hand, even if the bag was very stable, her left hand was slightly clenched into a fist, and her thumb was shrunk in the encirclement of four fingers.

For psychological counselors, observation is always an important ability, and through the client's subconscious facial expressions and body movements, the client's personality traits can be preliminarily determined.

This girl is insecure.

This is Yuan Jia's first impression of her, of course, in the subsequent contact, it will be constantly revised.

The countdown in his eyes did not affect Yuan Jia's vision, but Yuan Jia found that since the countdown appeared, his eyes were able to capture more details.

"It's okay, please be seated. ”

Yuan Jia brought her to the office, and there was no one else in the office, so he didn't close the office door, and the unfamiliar confined space would also make the guests feel uneasy, especially the girl who was initially judged to be insecure.

Miss Yang took the cup of warm water handed to her by Yuan Jia, the water temperature was just right, and she could warm her hands in her hand without getting hot.

Her first impression of Yuanjia was very good, although she had not yet made formal contact, she inexplicably had a very safe and reliable feeling.

"Let me introduce myself first, my name is Yuan Jia, graduated from Sunan University with a master's degree in psychology, I am good at emotional psychological analysis and help, Miss Yang can trust me. ”

"Hmm...... Dr. Yuan, I'm here today to ask you to help me...... I felt like something was wrong with him, but I didn't know what to do, so I was ...... Uncomfortable. ”

Yuan Jia smiled and said, "You can call me Teacher Yuan." ”

Don't look at the teacher or doctor is just a title, for the guest, the meaning is completely different.

Miss Yang nodded, she had gradually adapted to the strangeness of the environment, and she saw that she was emotional, her eyes were slightly red, and she seemed to ask with some difficulty.

"Teacher Yuan, he takes care of playing games every day after work, and I don't like to answer when I talk to him, do you say he doesn't love me anymore?"

As she said this, Miss Yang put her legs together, her calves shrunk under the chair, and her hands held her lower abdomen, which made Yuanjia even more convinced of her insecure judgment.

In other words, those second-rate psychological counselors, at this time, they are probably going to start brainwashing with poisonous chicken soup, what 'your boyfriend often plays games and ignores you, I think this kind of man is really not worth loving', 'if he loves you, he will definitely give up the game for you', 'this kind of man is very immature and psychologically naïve'

Then he started selling courses again: "You should try to make yourself better", "Capture a man's heart", "Don't tie your mind to him", "When you are excellent, he will come to you naturally", "I have a training course here that will help you change yourself"

"This kind of question is also a problem for many girls, but everyone's situation is different, can you tell me in detail? When did you first know each other?" Yuan Jia nodded slightly and said in a soft tone.

So Miss Yang started from Pangu to open the world, and talked about her love routine, no matter how big or small, sometimes her eyes were red when she talked about it, and Yuan Jia intimately handed her a tissue.

Unlike ordinary listeners, Yuan Jia did not show a little impatience, nodded from time to time, and asked a few small questions from time to time, Miss Yang was going to treat him as a best friend.

......

Time passed imperceptibly, and from the beginning of the consultation, the countdown in Yuan Jia's eyes was gone, 36, 35, 34...... 1

Yuan Jia's eyes were slightly condensed, and he rarely walked for a while in the chat with the guests.

When the countdown drops to zero, the Three-Body Man did not arrive, but came to the common system in the novel!

【Human Psychoanalysis and Learning System - Activation Successful】

【Yuan Jia: General Psychological Counselor】

【Points Available: 1000】

[Class Attributes] :(50 for ordinary people)

Love: 90/100 (Excellent)

Respect: 90/100 (Excellent)

Acceptance: 90/100 (Excellent)

【Vocational Skills】:(20 for ordinary people)

Observation: 35/100

Listening: 42/100

Empathy: 25/100

Troubleshooting: 35/100

【Vocational Training Courses】:

{Hands-on experience of exam syndrome} (not studied)

{Personal experience of social phobia} (not learned)

{Personal experience of depression} (not learned)

{Personal experience of persecution paranoia} (unstudied)

{Hands-on experience of binge eating disorder} (not learned)

{Hands-on experience of OCD} (not learned)

{Hands-on experience of transvestite behavior} (not learned)

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The previous data is okay, it is some personal information panel about Yuan Jia's own, and when he saw the item [Vocational Training Course], Yuan Jia's face was full of strange colors.

What's going on with these hundreds of courses? There are even some weird psychological behaviors that Yuan Jia has never heard of, and the most important thing is the four words 'personal experience', does he want him to experience all these hundreds of weird psychology?

[Activate the system for the first time - give a senior counselor experience card - 60 minutes]

As soon as the system's voice fell, Yuan Jia felt a clear mind, and at this moment, his scores for the four abilities of observation, listening, empathy, and worry resolution all increased to 50!

At this time, when he looked at Miss Yang in front of him, Yuan Jia seemed to be able to see a slow-motion amplified playback.

The redness of her fingers, the rustle of her shoes against the floor, the sound of her voice listening to her emotions, and the clarity of every word as if it had become a network map, outlined her as a person on a psychological level.

Especially empathy!

Yuan Jia seems to be able to put herself in Miss Yang's situation, so as to feel and understand her emotions!

Empathy is the most precious and most difficult ability of human beings to improve, after all, everyone's experience is different, and there is no way to put yourself in the other person's shoes to experience his emotions.

Lu Xun has a saying: "The joys and sorrows of human beings are not the same, I just think they are noisy." ”

But now, Yuan Jia clearly perceived Miss Yang's emotions and the uneasiness in her heart.

Miss Yang didn't notice Yuan Jia's abnormality, but she felt more and more that Yuan Jia listened to her words and trusted him more.

Yuan Jia is now clear-headed, and his ideas for solving it are also clear.

He quit the system and continued to help Miss Yang solve the problem.

......

"Just last week, I couldn't get angry, so I pulled out his power, he said he was playing in a group, and yelled at me very loudly, especially fierce, and then he ignored me for a week now, Mr. Yuan, do you think he wants to break up?"

"Yes. ”

Yuan Jia gave her an affirmative answer, and saw Miss Yang's tears coming out like water bursting the embankment.

"How could he do this!"

"Isn't the three-year relationship still as good as that LOL?"

"What should I do...... I don't want to lose him ......"

Seeing that the guests had completely released their emotions and opened the protective shield, it was easier for Yuan Jia to find the problem.

"How's your parents' relationship?"

"They divorced when I was very young, and I grew up with my dad. ”

Yuanjia found a breakthrough and continued to ask about Miss Yang's past, it turned out that she was a girl who grew up in a divorced family, and her father often beat and scolded her for some trivial things, and behaved inappropriately, and often saw him hugging and hugging strange women.

Miss Yang, who grew up in this environment, became very insecure and had low self-esteem, because she was not outstanding in appearance, and felt that she had no merits, so when she was with her boyfriend, she asked him all day long, 'What do you like about me'

And it's very clingy, her boyfriend has to report her whereabouts wherever she goes, and if she doesn't reply to her messages and doesn't answer her phone in time, it's easy to be cranky about a little thing.

"Miss Yang, I have a general understanding of your situation, and the reason for this kind of problem is because you lack a sense of security, you don't trust yourself and others enough, and you look at 'loss' very seriously. ”

Yuan Jia sorted out the results of the psychological analysis, and the more he spoke, the more trust in Miss Yang's eyes grew.

"Teacher Na Yuan...... What should I do...... I used to think I was insecure, but I just couldn't change it. ”

Miss Yang is very distressed, the reason why she comes to do psychological counseling, she must be aware of her own problems, basically every customer is the same, they will not tell the psychological counselor the most real situation, but through some things, I hope that the psychological counselor can analyze the results, and consistent with their subconscious judgment, then trust is established.

"First of all, you have to admit your heart, admit that you need someone to care and accompany you, feel your inner emotion, face it, live with it, the more you resist this emotion, then the deeper the fear will be......"

Listening to Yuan Jia's analysis, Miss Yang nodded again and again, and after venting her emotions just now, she finally calmed down and reflected on herself.

"Teacher Yuan, how can I restore my relationship with him...... You just said he wanted to break up with me...... I ......"

"He must love you, if you are another boy, when you are in a group, the power supply is unplugged, and I am afraid that you will break up on the spot. ”

Listening to Yuan Jia's words, Miss Yang breathed a sigh of relief.

"Did you tell him about your insecurity?"

"No ......"

"You can learn to express yourself and let him know that some of your insecurities are just the result of these insecurities, so that he can understand your emotions and behaviors better, and he can help you face and deal with these feelings together. ”

Yuan Jia continued: "Blindly being jealous or chasing him on the phone and WeChat is just your inner feelings, so from now on, what you need to learn is to communicate with him in a more effective way." ”

"In addition, you have to learn to give yourself space, but also to give others space, everyone has their own space, and your boyfriend is the same, don't oppress yourself too much, do what you like, when you can enjoy it, you will naturally find the charm of life. ”

"Insecurity is usually a lack of energy in your heart, you have to learn to love yourself, understand yourself, and when your heart is strong, the sense of insecurity will naturally fade, and you can learn how to deal with your various feelings and thoughts. ”

That's all for Miss Yang's psychological consultation, which took an hour and a half and cost 480 yuan, which is really cheap at the level of Yuanjia!

Miss Yang paid the fee very happily and added Yuanjia's WeChat, hoping to consult him when she had a small problem.

Now is the most difficult period for the 'I Know You' psychological counseling firm, for the successful cooperation of customers, Yuanjia is not stingy with this little favor, after all, you have to rely on them to help open the reputation.

"Teacher Yuan, thank you very much! No matter what, after talking to you today, I feel a lot more comfortable, you are really professional! If you have a friend in need, I will introduce you to you!"

"You're welcome, I'm glad I can help you. ”

"You really know me!"

This is the first time that Yuan Jia has been a psychological counselor, and a customer has said to him, 'You understand me very well', and he feels very satisfied to be recognized.

After sending Miss Yang away, the system voice sounded.

【Complete Consultation - Points +60】

[Gain customer favor - extra +50 points]

【Available Points:1110】

Yuan Jia gritted his teeth, and after experiencing the abilities of a senior psychoanalyst, he no longer doubted the system.

There is also a very important function just now, I haven't seen it, the points mall!

What can I get in exchange for these points?

Yuanjia is looking forward to it......

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