"Hello Auntie, I'm Yuanjia, Gardenia's friend, I'm here to send her some textbooks. ”

Bai Yan came back to her senses and hurriedly opened the door, not to mention Gardenia, even she didn't expect that Yuan Jia would personally run to send a few books.

"Hello hello, Gardenia often mentions you to me, she didn't expect you to send it in person, and asked me to help with the courier......"

Bai Yan was a little cramped, and invited sideways: "Yuan Jia, come into the house and sit......"

Yuan Jia smiled and said: "No, in fact, I am good at advocating and sending the book by myself, I didn't tell her, I was afraid that she would be nervous, in fact, I came this time, mainly to see you." ”

Bai Yan was a little surprised, "See me?"

"Yes, I wanted to talk to you about Gardenia. ”

Yuan Jia nodded and said, "Her condition has improved a little recently, but there are some things that need your help, Auntie, so I came uninvited." ”

Bai Yan naturally wouldn't mind, especially the things that could help Gardenia recover, where would she say badly.

The two did not enter the house, so they walked slowly together and talked, sitting and chatting at the gazebo in the courtyard.

Yuan Jia now has a very high ability to recognize people in person, and he observes Bai Yan while talking to her.

From her tone of voice, as well as the changes in her eyebrows, sitting gestures and other small details, it is not difficult for Yuan Jia to judge that Bai Yan is also a very introverted woman.

Personality is hereditary, and a large part of Gardenia's personality should be inherited from her mother.

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Gardenia didn't notice Yuanjia's arrival, this was also the closest she had been to Yuanjia in ten years, but she never thought that Yuanjia was at her house.

She was quietly reading a book in her room, and took out her mobile phone to send a message to Yuanjia.

Gardenia: "The delivery seems to have arrived! What are you doing?" ”

Yuan Jia sat down on the gazebo seat, and when he saw the mobile phone message light in his hand turned on, he clicked on it and called her back.

Yuanjia: "I'm outside, I'll talk to you when I'm home." ”

Gardenia: "Uh-huh!"

The content of the chat with Bai Yan basically revolves around Gardenia's illness, Yuan Jia knows very well that Gardenia refuses to tell him many things, especially when she encounters some difficulties, she will only tell Yuan Jia happy things, and rarely say sad things.

If Yuanjia wants to understand this, he can only use Bai Yan, and only by knowing Gardenia's situation more comprehensively can he better help her.

Bai Yan knows that Yuan Jia is a psychological counselor, and she also hopes to get his help, especially if her daughter is willing to contact him, no psychologist can help Yuan Jia as much.

Yuanjia took the initiative to meet this time, which created an opportunity for mutual communication.

Bai Yan started when Gardenia was a child.

"Actually, her father and I blamed ourselves, at that time, we just thought that our daughter was introverted and her business was just starting, so we neglected to take care of her......"

Speaking of the past, Bai Yan's expression also looked very painful and remorseful.

By the time they discovered that gardenias were not 'introverted', the seeds of phobias had already taken root and sprouted and were growing wildly.

In the early stage, they also took Gardenia to see a lot of psychological counselors, but it was almost useless, because Gardenia subconsciously resisted outsiders, she didn't trust each other at all, and others couldn't help her, plus some physical defects, she stammered when she was nervous, whenever she was nervous, fear immediately overshadowed her reason, and she didn't know what to do, so she could only escape the crowd again and again.

After dropping out of school, Gardenia almost never left the house again, and used to live in the downtown area, and then also moved and came to live here.

It's been ten years in the blink of an eye, and her peers have all graduated and started working, and Gardenia is still working hard to get out of the house.

Once, five years ago, Gardenia plucked up the courage to say to Bai Yan that she wanted to take a walk outside, so Bai Yan accompanied her, and when she walked to the yard, she was already pale and cold hands and feet, and she fainted less than three meters out of the house, and after that time, Bai Yan never dared to let her come out.

It can be said that Gardenia is now walking freely in the yard and has planted watermelons, a change that Bai Yan never dared to think of before.

Bai Yan said a lot, and Yuan Jia listened carefully, remembering every word and sentence in his heart.

At the same time, he also told Bai Yan some of his thoughts, and what reassured him was that Bai Yan and his wife were already very wise, and they had done almost everything they could in how to take care of Gardenia's daily life.

At least at home, gardenias don't have any psychological burden.

But if she wants to go outside, the concepts of 'parents' and 'home' can't help her more, she needs her subconscious to have more expectations, greater self-confidence, and the greatest expectations for the outside world.

In this process, other people's 'push' is useless, even if you drag her and accompany her outside, it is useless, she will still feel scared outside.

If you want to change, you must make Gardenia's own subconscious, generate 'source power', she wants to go out from the bottom of her heart, she wants to go out to meet others, she wants to go out to live.

Self-consciousness and subconscious are two concepts.

In Gardenia's self-consciousness, she has always wanted to go out, but this is not her subconscious desire, but she is afraid of her parents' worries or social ethics, so she feels that she should go out.

And in her inner subconscious, she rejects the outside world and people outside, so when she goes outside to contact people, she instinctively fears and fears.

She consciously knew that it was not good to hide at home, but subconsciously she felt very comfortable and safe, so there was a huge conflict in her heart, and the pain also arose.

But fortunately, with the understanding and reassurance of her parents, Gardenia's depression is controllable.

It's a very difficult thing to make Gardenia have a 'source of power', Bai Yan used to chat with Gardenia, and she also heard the words of other psychological counselors, such as telling her more about outside things, and depicting the outside world, but I didn't expect it to arouse Gardenia's 'source power', and even almost had the opposite effect, making Gardenia even more depressed because she couldn't go out.

This is because in the concept of gardenia, father and mother are part of the family, and it is difficult for them to act as the 'source of power' to go to the outside world.

Yuanjia's existence is special to Gardenia, he acts as the 'source power' for Gardenia to go to the outside world, which is different from pushing outside in 'home', he hands her a rope outside, so that Gardenia can pull herself out because of 'source power'.

Not everyone can afford this role, everyone likes to get along with positive people, but not everyone can be like Yuan Jia, who is willing to take care of a girl's fragile heart all the time.

It's easy to run two kilometers with a wooden block in your hand, but with a piece of tofu that breaks when you touch it, you have to walk carefully.

The hard work required for this process is far beyond imagination.

Yuanjia doesn't care, because he likes it, and if he likes it, he likes it.

No one can say exactly why they like someone, and a long list of reasons you can say are all deduced from the premise of liking.

When you like someone, you will think that his slamming is thrifty, and her unreasonableness will feel that it is frank, anyway, everything is a plus, not because of these 'advantages' and you like each other, but because you like each other, so these are all advantages.

Yuanjia doesn't like blind dates, it's like putting two people on the table with a clear price.

He actually has a romantic plot, and there are actually vacant seats on the first day of school, but when he walks into the classroom, the first person he sees is her shrinking in the corner, so the ghost almost walked over and became her tablemate.

It's just that I didn't know at that time, and I was ignorant in adolescence, and when I came back to my senses after so many years, I suddenly realized that I had made so many changes unconsciously because of her.

If you don't like it, why give her gardenias, if you don't like it, who will keep each other's textbooks for ten years, if you don't like it, who will choose this unpopular psychology to death!!

But Yuanjia really did all these things in a daze, and then only now reacted, oh, it turns out that I had someone I liked at that time.

"This is the most important thing I want to communicate with you today, in fact, what you need to do is to create a relaxed, positive family environment, which is equivalent to stabilizing the 'home' as a safe haven for Gardenia, and then I slowly help her out, this process cannot be achieved overnight, it may take a long, long time, but it is definitely the most effective way." ”

"That's why I came over quietly and didn't tell Gardenia or meet her, in fact, I really wanted to see her......"

"It only makes sense for me to see her again when she convinces herself, when she is ready for everything, when she wants to meet me and takes the initiative to tell me. ”

And this is also the first step of Gardenia's success. ”

Yuan Jia really wanted to meet Gardenia and see how she had changed in the past ten years, but when he thought that he had experienced high school, college, and work, and that it had been ten years since then, and Gardenia was still stuck in that year, he felt particularly distressed.

A person's life is so long, and she was swallowed up by mental illness for a whole decade.

Bai Yan nodded, after this conversation, she already knew something about Yuan Jia, and she could naturally see his sincerity in treating Gardenia, she had experienced so many things, who was hypocritical and who was sincere, she could see it at a glance.

"Gardenia her...... She loves you very much......"

Bai Yan said softly, "She often tells me about you, although she doesn't admit it, but I can see that she really likes you......"

Yuanjia knew what Bai Yan was worried about, and he said, "I will always be there." ”

"That's good...... That's good......"

Bai Yan's eyes were slightly red, and she raised her head slightly and blinked, not letting the tears come out, "Yuanjia, the matter of Gardenia will trouble you...... She would be very happy if she knew you were coming......"

Yuanjia shook her head and said: "Auntie, don't tell her that I've been here, her rhythm is already very good and stable now, don't make her nervous because of this, today is mainly to chat with you, usually in the chat with Gardenia, she often talks about you, so I need you to cooperate with me to do these things together." ”

Bai Yan nodded in understanding.

She pointed to a balcony on the second floor and smiled, "Gardenia lives in that room, she often paints on the balcony these days, but when someone comes to the house, she immediately hides in the room." ”

Gardenia's room has a view of the courtyard, but she is not interested or afraid to come out to see who it is.

"Auntie, can I take a look at the watermelon field of Gardenia?"

"Of course you can ......"

Gardenia, who was hiding in the room, didn't know that the boy she liked secretly went to see her watermelon......

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