"Do you want a filial child in the future, or do you want a child who is alienated from you but has the ability?" After a long silence, Canglong's tone changed, no longer heavy and thorny, and softened a little.

Parents look at each other, whether they are entrepreneurs, civil servants, ordinary citizens, private owners, migrant workers or locals, their identities may be different, but they all hope that their future children will be filial, and secondly, they are capable.

It's just that Canglong's words alerted them, because their education method is indeed guiding their children to a path that will alienate them in the future, maybe not as terrible as Canglong said, but the impact is definitely great.

And the eighteen-year-old students in Class 9, they couldn't imagine that their parents, who were almost unreasonable on weekdays, were actually persuaded by Teacher Cang's words, and even there were many thorns in these words, although they still couldn't understand the true meaning of these words, but they knew that Teacher Cang didn't betray them.

didn't say anything about handing in the blank papers, which made many students feel guilty in their hearts, and if it was them, I am afraid that the first thing they thought about was to get rid of themselves and put the responsibility on others.

"Teacher Cang, we misunderstood you!" Zuo Yu's father stood up first and saluted Canglong with a standard military salute, "No matter what the identity of our parents is, but the child's education, I hope Teacher Cang can bother more in the future." ”

Canglong just nodded, being able to get the understanding of parents is actually the greatest relief for teachers, and other parents also stood up to apologize and let Canglong bother more.

Even Yun Feiyang's aunt squeezed out a smile, although Canglong's words were not listening, but the truth was there, and if Canglong didn't take strong medicine, for parents whose values had been formed, it was just a gust of wind in their ears, blowing over, and it would pass.

"In fact, the truth, you all know, but once put on your own children, it is completely different, and what I want to tell you is that in fact, the school is not the best education point, the family is the best education point, you are the closest person to the child, but also their teacher, there is no barrier between parents and children, there is an old Chinese saying, one day as a teacher, a lifetime as a father, in fact, it is not only that teachers should treat students as their own children, another layer of meaning is that parents are the best teachers for children, but few people can understand this layer。 Canglong said lightly.

Just as Canglong said, what in this world can compare to his own biological parents, such a teacher? They give birth to and raise them, in fact, their behavior is a kind of criterion.

Parents' education of their children is also the most influential part of their children's lives, teaching him good, he will naturally have a filial and upright heart in the future, and teaching him bad will naturally trigger his rebellion in the future, especially rebellion against his parents.

"So what do we do?" one of the parents suddenly asked.

"I can't teach you this, because if I tell you to put down your work, spend more time with your children, and care more about them, you will definitely say, you are busy, right?" Canglong smiled.

This sentence not only makes parents embarrassed, but even the students of Class 9 are also deeply touched, because in their memory, most of the time, parents are in quarrels for various reasons, or simply divorced, few people can take care of their children's feelings, many parents feel that their children are not sensible, they don't understand at all, but in fact, as long as the children start to remember, they understand.

It's just that these things are stored in their memories, becoming the deepest memories of their childhood, and affecting their lives, for many small children, childhood memories are happy, because they have a good parent, a parent who understands this, and for most children, their parents are in various states that they cannot understand.

"But we're really busy. One of the parents said, "The pressure of life is already a little breathless, and now the child's comparison psychology is getting stronger and stronger, and he is afraid that he will be wronged at school, so he always wants to give him the best." ”

"That's because of your education problems since childhood, but also because you say busy, alienated from them, because you are busy, so you give them a lot of things that they don't need, so these things, become their capital, this kind of education will only make you fall into the endless bottomless pit, because people's desires are endless, the more children grow up, the more they demand, the greater their dependence on their parents, you think that giving them these is the best education for them, in fact, it is not, love, is the most important thing parents should give to their children, not cold toys。 Canglong glanced at all the parents.

Whether the family situation is good or bad, almost all inherit this concept, that is, give the children what they want and make them satisfied, but in fact, they will not be satisfied, only their appetite is cultivated, so that they become more and more dependent on their parents.

"Teacher Cang, I don't agree with what you say, we are busy, but we also have time at home, our husband and wife work every day, just to make money, just to let him eat and dress well, so that he is no worse than anyone else, what else does he need? I can't understand why other people's children are so sensible, why our children are ......." One of the parents stood up and said.

"Other people's children?" Canglong shook his head, "Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, I think my own children are the best, there is no need to compare my own children with other people's children, so many parents here can compare their hearts, whose children are perfect? Maybe you always say in front of people, how are our children, but when it comes to the family, is the child really perfect?"

As soon as this sentence came out, the parent looked at the other parents, whether the family situation was good or bad, and stopped talking, in fact, it was okay to compare between parents on weekdays, and everyone acquiesced to this, and it was precisely because they felt that their children were excellent, so they compared them with other people's children.

I got a high score in the exam, so I had to compare, what awards I won, I had to compare, and I was admitted to a key high school, and I had to compare.

So, children learn from their parents, and if they have any good things, they have to show off, which naturally arouses the competitiveness of other children.

The reason why they don't speak is precisely because every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, in fact, their children are not so good, but sometimes whether the children are good or not is related to the reputation of the parents.

But the reality is like this, most people succumb to reality, because they are afraid, because they are their own children, they dare not do this, and sometimes because of their own face.

Therefore, in the childhood of many people, there is a "child of someone else's family" who can never be surpassed

This child of someone else's family is always superior to himself and does everything better than himself, as if he was not born to his parents, and the child of someone else's family is born to his parents, and it is precisely because of this contrast that the children are traumatized, so that they begin to alienate their parents, so that they finally rebel.

"Really for the good of your children, give them more wordless love and care, accompany them more, let them learn to choose by themselves, instead of you arranging a road for them, let them go on, children naturally have their own way to go, parents only need to help them walk when they can't stand up, and in the end it is they themselves who have to finish their lives, you can't dictate which one they take, and you can't restrict their freedom to walk, because you will always get old, and then you can't catch up with them, you can only watch him get farther and farther away from you。 Canglong said lightly.

"Is this really possible? They are still ignorant, how can they let them choose by themselves?" Yun Feiyang's aunt suddenly disagreed, "Really let them choose by themselves, what if something happens, and it is not our parents who are responsible in the end?" Teacher Cang, your words are too light, and you have no children, your words are not enough to win people's trust." ”

For a while, everyone looked at Canglong, even the students, Teacher Cang has no children, can you really believe what he said?

"There is an old Chinese saying, called the authorities are confused, the bystanders are clear, you say that I have no children, but I also grew up as a child, sometimes outsiders can see more clearly than you parents, because you are parents, so you dare not let your children leave your side, dare not let them run by themselves, run their own life. The last five words, Canglong dragged out in a very heavy tone.

's own life has silenced all parents.

But there are still people who don't agree with this statement, because it is too unacceptable to let children choose by themselves, how can such an older child judge right from wrong? But they didn't hear Canglong's words, helped them walk for a while, and then let them go by themselves.

The parents are too deeply poisoned, and the values have been solidified, even if Canglong wants to change them, it is difficult, and Canglong has never thought that he can change them, but I just hope that today's words can make the parents of Class 9 remember it in their hearts, and they can try to try it in the future.

People have this mentality, once someone says that a certain method works, they will try it, so they can go to great lengths to say so much.

Otherwise, he slapped the table directly at the beginning, revealing his murderous aura, and there were definitely few parents who could look at him, even a glance.

When the parents had left, the students of Class 9 returned to the classroom, all with their heads bowed.

Teacher Cang not only did not betray them, but from their point of view, he gave all their parents a political lesson, which was entirely for their efforts, and the most touching words in the latter were not the parents, but the students of Class 9 sitting here, because each of them had been compared to the "other people's children......