008, and then handle the dispute
All at once it exploded.
It is said that "the dead also make money, it's too bad, although now it's a fluke to survive, I'm afraid it's a curse!"
It also means "whether we can do it or not, we must not worry about it, others say that they are free to plan!"
It also means "Anyway, it's coming, there is always a clear sight to collect the love money, otherwise it's not easy to get it!"
There are voices that sit idly by, wait and see, or express support or opposition, after all, the probability of such a thing happening is too low.
In the past, the funeral was done after it was over, but now it is done twice, which doesn't seem to be very good, but for those who have already received love money, and those who have not confiscated love money, it seems unfair, especially no matter what those bands do, whether it can be done or not, the money will naturally not be refunded by others, at most it is less than two meals for cooking, but it is just a matter of saving some money.
But the cost of this funeral is not small, including the mourning clothes before and after, shoes, etc., although it is a one-time payment, it is also a cost, and this size of the expense naturally cannot be from Zhao Qin's family.
Anyway, the size has to be shared with some money, and there is always a point.
And love money is often the majority of it, so if you spread it out, everyone's economic pressure will be better.
Therefore, there is an atmosphere that I think it's okay, mainly if my own family is like this, the funeral will be less expensive, but it's not easy to say it directly, after all, it doesn't seem to be authentic, and I'm afraid of other people's gossip.
Especially in rural areas, if these things are not done properly, others are easy to poke their backbones.
Naturally, they all love face, so even if they don't want to come over, ask for leave, it's a big deal, and they don't want to be criticized.
As for the band or something, I am afraid that others will take the blame for their gossip and unfilial piety.
The funeral of the dead, in fact, is for the living, and they are all gone, and they will not know or feel how it is done.
Naturally, more money is involved in activities, as well as crying and mourning is also the effect, after all, some people are sad in their hearts, and they don't show it much, but they are often easy to be said to be unfilial.
There was a meeting of talks, but there was no response, and there was no progress in the gossip.
Then Hu Xiaolian's youngest son said, "I'm casual, it depends on what everyone means, but we won't stay here anymore, I'm afraid that if we get it, it won't be good to give people guidance on the back." ”
His meaning is naturally afraid of people talking, after all, people are terrible.
The eldest son naturally didn't have any ideas, "Follow my mother's wishes, everyone can do whatever they want." ”
He is very happy that his mother Hu Xiaolian is alive, and he has no idea about these things.
"Aren't you a member of the family? As the biggest in the family, why don't you listen to what you say!"
"I'm a rough person, I don't understand this, you look at it and feel good, it's just like that, I don't have any ideas, no!" As Hu Xiaolian's eldest son, the boss, he seemed casual.
"The biggest, you should have an idea!"
That's what some people think.
It's just that he can't carry the burden.
If he said that he would carry a few bags of rice, or go to do this or that farm work, he would not be too dirty and tired, but he did not understand these heart-to-heart things, and after a long time, he always did trivial things in the fish pond and field alone, but gradually he did not have the ability to negotiate with others, and he seemed clumsy and slow to speak.
A few words.
Xu Tianming slapped the table and motioned for everyone to be quiet, "That's it...... According to what I said, just do it, everyone is relaxed, for those who have already paid for it, then those who don't pay later, is it not fair?!"
Then, Xu Tianming watched everyone turn their heads to each other, and some nodded in agreement.
Xu Tianming continued: "Everyone is just afraid of gossip. So, let's make a record first, what about the gift list for paying the money?"
Zhao Qinjia waved his hand.
"That's good, it's hard, you can have one more person to help record, one person to collect, record well, those that have been collected, don't accept it, next time you come to idle it, just chat and eat, if you don't collect it, just accept it, it's fair, isn't it?"
After that, let's see if everyone seems to have any opinions.
Then go to Xu Tianming and said, "Wait for the money to be determined twice, or this time it will be evenly divided, if it is not enough, and then it will be spread again next time, this can be done, anyway, since the old mother is fine, it is a good thing, everyone will do these trivial things well, so that this matter will end successfully, and it will not be seen by people, and it is not good to underestimate it." ”
Soon there were voices of agreement and opposition, and the reason was that they were still afraid that it would not be good and that they were afraid of gossip.
In the end, someone said, "Since this main person is here, and these things are also done around her, you might as well listen to her, she said to do it, we will talk and cry with joy, and the later ones, if they ...... Don't do it...... So everybody...... Then think about it, anyway, if you don't do it, it will naturally not cost too much to get this table again, what a treat!"
As he spoke, everyone instigated, and also looked at Hu Xiaolian, and said that they would listen to her.
When Hu Xiaolian heard this, she actually had a plan in her heart, so she had to be generous now, "This time, I bother you to come and see me, who is about to enter the ground, half of my body has gone to the grave!"
Immediately, he said in words, "Don't say that, you will live a long life!"
This kind of speech is echoed.
Then Hu Xiaolian continued, "I didn't think that the heavens would confiscate me, and Lord Yama wouldn't keep me, so I had to stay in the sun...... Right now, everyone is tired and tired, if you want to come and see me again, just take a look, I may not have seen a few times!"
Saying that, I don't know if I was moved by myself, or if I thought of something, Hu Xiaolian choked up.
Talking about comforting now, saying no, she didn't die so early, since she hasn't gone over there now, it's a blessing, and she must live at least a few more years, more than ten years.
And Hu Xiaolian chattered, "I don't know how many times I can see you, I really hope you are all happy, just live well, it doesn't matter if you look at me as an old woman or not!"
Saying this, everyone looked at each other and was a little embarrassed, so they could only repeat that Hu Xiaolian was not so easy to die, and she was blessed.
I don't know who said, "I want to see, I definitely want to see him, so I'll do it, let's do it, let's see everyone, and see more of my relatives, have fun, and be lively!"
Then when everyone hasn't expressed their position, Xu Tianming said, "Then do it, do it, come to see the old mother at that time, usually don't come, it's too boring not to come at such a time, those who don't come hurry up, on the road, come over to reminisce, eat and leave, and come back to gather in a few days, lively and lively, the house is always popular, dilute this bad thing." ”
Xu Tianming said, as if he didn't remember that he didn't come in the words just now, he had to come anyway, he forgot that he didn't want to come, he was also the one who didn't want to come, this slap in the face, snap.
However, Xu Tianming didn't care about it either, and he didn't notice it.
The corners of his mouth inadvertently rose slightly, and what he was brewing was coming step by step.