After understanding the psychological causes of the patient, it is necessary to adopt different methods of psychological counseling for the patient. People with different personalities and psychological states adopt different ways.

Xu Jianan is a professional psychiatrist, and she knows very well that human psychological trauma cannot be solved and cured with a few words of "want to open up" and "mourn and change". The reason why most of the pains accumulated over the years cannot be eradicated is not because the patient "can't think about it", but because they can see everything clearly, but they still can't get out of the haze in their hearts. That's the hardest problem to solve.

Therefore, in the face of people who are particularly obsessed with psychology and cannot rationally adopt opinions, the next policy of the psychologist is to make psychological hints to the patient. Hinting at him in hypnosis, everything is over, all the pain is gone. Doing so is risky, but effective.

Xu Jiannan once witnessed his old professor make successful psychological hints for a patient who always felt tingling in his left foot. His approach is very similar to that of Mai Dugu, in which he tells his patients that there is no need to bother with such stings, they are just like socks, take them off, and they don't exist. As a result, after receiving strong psychological cues, the patient really took off his socks every day and changed them, and gradually no longer felt the sting.

At first glance, this may sound mysterious. But in fact, if you think about it, it is also inevitable. Because the pain, numbness, and even paralysis and loss of the five senses in patients with mental illness are not caused by real pathological or organ damage. Since the cause comes from the psychology, then it goes from the psychology.

For patients like He Jie, Xu Jiannan does not intend to adopt such cumbersome and tough methods. Because she felt that He Jie was a sane and sober person, she accepted her father's death and continued her life, while also taking care of the feelings of her mother and others. For such a person, psychological suggestion is not as effective as thoroughly understanding the cause of the disease with her.

After deciding on the way and plan, Xu Jiannan said frankly to He Jie: "I'm sorry for reminding you of this painful memory." But from this memory, we can already know the cause of your illness, are you ready to listen?"

He Jie's eyes changed from sadness to clarity, and she nodded to Xu Jianan: "It's okay, Doctor Xu, just say it." ”

"Good. ”

Xu Jiannan put away the sympathy and sadness of the observers, and said to He Jie with the absolute rational attitude of a doctor: "Your childhood experience has caused the whole focus of your life to be on your father's love, and your mother lacks care for you. When he dies suddenly, the pain and blow you endure is almost equal to the loss of both parents at the same time for ordinary people. You repeated twice the time from the father's illness to his death, twenty-six days. The process is so short and fast that before you can be ready to accept it, he dies. But his death is not like an instantaneous disaster such as a car accident. You don't have much time to take care of him or find a life for him, while at the same time you witness day after day the death of your once-majestic father at the end of his illness. In this process, every minute and every second is the ultimate damage to your soul. So, in the process, you try to find a way to make your father, no, or rather, a little more comfortable with yourself. You hold him every day and let him lean on you, although it makes no difference to a person who is already semi-comatose, but this will at least make you make up for it subconsciously, and your consciousness will feel that this will make your father comfortable, and he will feel better, and you will be better. Supporting his father's sick body, he watched his appearance change and his breath weakened until he finally died. If I'm not mistaken, when he died, you must not have cried and cried filial piety, but calmly and rationally handled the aftermath for your father, and at the same time took care of your mother, right?"

He Jie looked at Xu Jianan with some admiration and admitted: "Yes, on the day my father died, I didn't cry heartbreakingly. I don't know why, I can't cry at all...... Maybe it's because I still have my mother...... My dad is gone, and someone has to take care of her...... I can't fall before her, there's a lot of work for me to deal with. My dad has loved cleanliness all his life, and I have to do a good job in his last journey. ”

When He Jie said these words, her tone was unusually calm.

Xu Jianan frowned slightly, smiled and said, "You can't cry, it's not because you really accept death and loss calmly." On the contrary, that's a fact that you can't accept at all. Subconsciously resisting this fact, you can't even receive the news that your father has died. You are numb and calm and do everything in order, but in fact, it has nothing to do with your father. Our human consciousness is like a guard of the spiritual world. It will make all kinds of offensive or defensive actions in your daily emotions to maintain our mental health. But once the pain and blows are menacing, and it has no time to react and resist, it will choose to close the gates and defend against foreign enemies. This approach will make you not so sad, and even some people will suddenly forget this period of the past, which is often referred to as staged amnesia. ”

He Jie nodded as if she understood, but then asked puzzledly, "That'...... Why am I unconscious?"

Xu Jianan explained: "That's what I'm going to say next, our spiritually conscious soldiers closed the city gate out of defensive instincts, so that you can be less uncomfortable. But the blow will still happen in the end, and after all, no one will be able to bring the dead back to life or change what has happened. So, how do you vent these powerful emotional shocks when they are blocked out of the city gates? You don't cry or make trouble, you live quietly, you work as always, make friends, take care of your mother, and your life looks like it's the same as before, it's the same. Such a strict state of camouflage has caused those who are blocked outside the city to have no gap to erupt and vent. But they are always there, and they don't leave on their own. So they change course and transform all their grief into another way to invade you. That's why your left hand is numb. You hope that arm can support your father's sick body, you hope that your arm can cling to your father's lost life, you hope that your arm can relieve even the slightest pain for your father, but none of this is as you wish. Everything that should have happened happened, and your left hand 'died' with your father the moment he died. In this case, all your hopes will not be there, there will be no hope, and there will be no disappointment. Miss He, you are not relieved, you just vented all the pain that you can't help but say on that 'useless' left arm. ”

After listening to Xu Jianan's words in a daze, He Jie slowly raised her left hand, which was originally white and slender, because of "numbness", was already scarred and riddled with holes. As Xu Jianan said, she is punishing this "incompetent" arm, and she is also punishing her own "incompetence".

Looking at this somewhat terrifying, scarred hand, He Jie suddenly laughed, it was a self-deprecating laugh. The laughter grew louder and louder, and tears flowed from laughter and laughter. She cried and laughed and laughed, as if she was laughing at the left hand, and as if she was laughing at herself.

Xu Jiannan didn't do anything to stop it, such a crazy catharsis may be the first time in a year and a half that He Jie. The opportunity is rare, and of course she will not bother her to vent her pain and emotions.

After laughing for a while, He Jie cried and said, "People...... On the surface, it seems to be omnipotent, standing at the top of the food chain. But in reality, the most vulnerable, the most useless, and the most incompetent...... We have too many things to do and nothing we can do. I watched him suffer and suffer, and I couldn't even do half of it for him!!, let alone I wanted to save his life...... It's simply impossible. ”

"He Jie, you want to suffer for your father, you want to punish yourself for your incompetence, you are angry at the fragility and uselessness of human beings, no matter which one it is, this year and a half is enough. Your father completed the cycle of life in twenty-six days, and you spent almost six hundred and twenty days punishing yourself, and in that respect alone, I don't think he suffered more than you. I think you should think about his last appearance, no matter how sick his body is, but his spirit is still strong and strong. You hold up his hand, and you should not forget the power he has conveyed to you. On the contrary, you should have more strength, inherit the spiritual power of a thousand powers, and live in the direction that he has always supported you. ”

He Jie looked at Xu Jianan intently, listening carefully to every word she said, but the uncontrollable crying never stopped.

Although Xu Jianan is a doctor, rationality is like professional ethics. But looking at He Jie's piercing pain, it was inevitable that his heart would be sour. Not all mental illness treatment is for the mentally ill, and sometimes, the stories behind those "crazy and deranged" are often embarrassing.

Dr. Xu ...... I ......" He Jie cried so much that it was almost difficult to say a word.

But Xu Jiannan said with great understanding: "Do you suddenly feel very tired and sad? It doesn't matter, this kind of feeling, you should have had it more than a year ago, it was the spirit that changed your situation at that time." Get a good night's sleep when you get home, and when you wake up you can go to the cemetery to see your father. When you are able to face his tombstone, your left hand, comes back. ”