In fact, the vast majority of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts are men's problems in the final analysis.

If that man can carry things clearly and can do things, then the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, two women who have nothing to do with each other, will not have so many entanglements.

And many of the so-called "foolish filial piety" stem from men's selfishness.

When it does not harm his own interests, a man is happy to be a filial son, and he doesn't care that his "filial piety" may hurt his wife and children.

And once they themselves are affected, they are clearer and more aware than anyone else.

Anne has traveled through so many worlds and met all kinds of people, so she can see through Zhang Dahai's selfish nature at a glance.

For such a superlative, Anne didn't do any strategy, and simply threw the bait directly-

Dear, do you want a virtuous helper who can help you become stronger, or continue to indulge your unreasonable and partial-minded mother-in-law?!

Zhang Dahai really lived up to Anne's expectations and made a very rational choice.

This time, there was no need for Anne to roll up her sleeves to go into battle, Zhang Dahai ran to her mother upside down and said, "Mother, Dani and I are in a military marriage, and we can't divorce easily, otherwise we will make mistakes." After all, she has no bad deeds, on the contrary, she is still a good comrade who is selfless and selfless. ”

"What's not bad? She is not filial to her elders!"

"Mother, why is Dani not filial? She beats and scolds you and your father? Besides, when she does this, can outsiders see her?"

“......”

"Mother, between you and Dani, in fact, it is just a small contradiction, even if it goes out, it is just a family dispute, not to mention the leaders of the troops, even the people in our production brigade may not think Dani is bad. ”

“...... The sea, you, why are you suddenly-" Becoming protective of her daughter-in-law? Mrs. Niu was a little dumbfounded, staring at her son in a daze, as if she didn't know him anymore.

Zhang Dahai wiped his face and continued to smile: "Mother, Dani and I still have four children, divorce is impossible." If you really don't want to see Dani, then why don't I take the five of them to join the army. ”

"What? No, I—I don't agree!"

If Antani was with the army, wouldn't that be out of her control?

Also, Antani is with her son, and her son's allowance may be divided by Antani.

Thinking of the receipt of more than 20 yuan a month, as well as all kinds of rare military tickets, Mrs. Niu shook her head like a rattle.

"Mother, this can't work, that can't work, tell me, what do you want your son to do?"

Zhang Dahai was also a little impatient, what his mother was thinking, he actually understood very well.

Isn't he afraid that after Dani joins the army, he will give all the allowances to Dani, and lose the family's share?

But the problem is that his allowance is handed over to his mother, and it is his duty not to pay it.

How can my mother take it for granted?

His mother took his money and things to supplement his younger siblings, and Zhang Dahai was not unclear.

At that time, he didn't know that Andani had such a great ability, just as she was an ordinary peasant woman.

Therefore, he followed his mother and became a filial son praised by everyone. On the side of wives and children, they will also suffer if they are wronged.

When he heard Andani complaining and crying, he would endure impatience and persuade him. Then continue to maintain the character of "filial son".

It's different now, Zhang Dahai obviously feels the changes in his body, and he doesn't want to let go of the opportunity to become stronger and go to the top.

The mentality has changed, and when I look at the problem, I have a completely different feeling about the same thing.

For example, in the scene in front of him, if it were changed to the past, seeing Mrs. Niu tearfully playing the emotional card, Zhang Dahai would definitely feel distressed and blame himself.

But now, Zhang Dahai only has impatience and complaints in her heart: her mother is really old and confused, and she is becoming more and more eccentric, she only thinks about her eldest daughter-in-law and money, she doesn't want to think about it, other sons are reunited with husband and wife, small families and Meimei, her eldest son is fighting outside, but there is no one around to take care of her!

The separation of husband and wife is not only for women, but also for men.

Zhang Dahai is ambitious, thinking about how to develop in the army all day long, and temporarily ignores the various needs of being a man.

But every time he came back from a mission, he occasionally passed by the family home, and saw those comrades, superiors, the love of husband and wife, and the harmony between father and son, he was not envious.

He is a rural baby, with no background and no great skills.

Relying on enlisting early and going to the battlefield, he was promoted to company commander.

But Zhang Dahai knew in his heart that this was probably his limit.

With his ability, let alone trying to rise again, it is also a little difficult to sit firmly on the throne of the company commander.

By chance, Instructor Xu discovered his foolish and honest side, and although his colleagues and superiors talked about him, they became closer and closer to him.

Again, filial piety is not bad for character.

His parents are so eccentric, Zhang Dahai can still be consistently filial to his elders, and he would rather wronged himself, his wife and children, but he must continue to support his parents and younger siblings, which shows his good character.

Such a person can be trusted. In addition, although Zhang Dahai was not heroic enough on the battlefield, his performance was decent, at least he would not hold back his comrades.

Therefore, his comrades regarded him as a person who could be entrusted with his back.

Zhang Dahai was a "filial son" out of instinct before, but later, his "filial piety" was mixed with some utilitarian colors.

But now there is no need to use "filial piety" as a magic weapon for his survival in the army.

Because, he has a more powerful weapon - the army is a place where strength speaks, and nothing is more important than becoming stronger!

Realizing this, Zhang Dahai was no longer so obedient to Mrs. Niu, and there was even a hint of dissatisfaction in his tone: "Mother, I went to the mountains to practice last year, but I was accidentally injured and lay in the hospital for half a month. At that time, I didn't even have anyone around to serve me. ”

"Mother, I have been married to my daughter-in-law for more than ten years, but I have always been alone. In the past, the conditions did not allow it, and I had no choice but to endure it. Now that I've been promoted to company commander, I'm able to join the army...... You, you feel sorry for me!"

When Zhang Dahai and Mrs. Niu were talking, Old Man Zhang kept sitting in the corner and smoking dry cigarettes.

Hearing Zhang Dahai's words, Old Man Zhang's hands trembled for a moment, and then he coughed violently as if he had choked on smoke.

Mrs. Niu and Mr. Zhang have been married for many years and understand each other very well.

As soon as he heard that this voice was wrong, he hurriedly swallowed his cry and pleading for his eldest son, and asked pretending to be concerned: "Old man, are you okay?"

Old man Zhang waved his hand and coughed several times before he said in a dumb voice, "Dahai, your mother just thought that you were busy in the army, but forgot that you also need to be taken care of. Cheng, now that you have the qualifications to join the army, then take Da Nier and the child over. ”

"Old man—" Mr. Niu was too anxious, and he opened his mouth to remind his wife.

Old man Zhang gave Mrs. Niu a fierce look.

Mrs. Niu was suddenly frightened.

"The sea, my father and mother gave birth to five children, you are the eldest son, and you are also the most promising, so my father and mother have nothing else to think about, I hope you can do a good job in the army. ”

Old man Zhang looked like a loving father, and said heartily, "Over the years, thanks to your care, the family has built a new house and married a daughter-in-law to the second and third children, even the two younger ones, and they can only be raised so well by the money and things you send back." ”

"The sea, my father and mother have such a good son as you, and I really have accumulated virtue in my last life. However, you are not alone, you have married a daughter-in-law and given birth to children, and you will have to think more about their mothers and children in the future. Dad understands all this!"

"You just take them to the army, send them a stipend, don't send them home, your younger brothers and sisters have grown up, and they can support themselves on their own, and they can't drag you down anymore as a big brother......"