"In my eyes, the nursing home is divided into two different worlds, one is a double room, where the elderly who are mildly disabled and can take care of themselves live, and the life of my brothers and sisters is relatively rich. ”

"Some brought electronic keyboards from home...... Some will also get together to play mahjong...... Some old people started looking for a partner after they went in......"

Aunt Pang said with a smile: "The way we old people express our feelings is very simple, unlike you young people who are vigorous and want to die or live. For example, I often talk to an old lady, care about her health, or give her half of the fruits and snacks sent by the family......"

"That's love!"

Shen Feng smiled knowingly, plain is true.

"The most pitiful are the severely disabled, who need 24-hour intensive care, which looks more like a hospital room, with five or six nursing beds in one room, and even fenced on all sides. ”

"Small cards, call bells, oxygen cylinders, wheelchairs, toilets, small tables for eating, ......"

"As long as people lie inside, they will wait to die and go to prison!"

The more Shen Feng listened, the heavier he became, this is no longer a matter of having money or not, no matter whether he is rich or rivals the country, or the Ninth Five-Year Honor, who can escape birth, old age, sickness and death?

It's just a little bit more to choose,

It's just more comfortable to wait for death.

"It's nice to live in a nursing home, but it's actually going to jail. Aunt Pang said helplessly: "From the first day I moved in, people lost the freedom to enter and exit independently. The management of the doorman is very strict, and if you want to go out, you must be accompanied by your children. ”

"Many times for fear of accidents, caregivers will also restrict the elderly from going out of the scope of their care, and the range of activities every day is a small space around the bed, at most they will eat, read newspapers, listen to the radio, and ...... on the small table at the end of the bed."

"Once in a while, I go to the hallway outside the door and sit for a while, and the sun is already considered a benefit. ”

Aunt Pang analyzed: "Actually, you can't blame the nursing home for its strict management, after all, once something happens, no one can afford to be responsible, right?"

"Several nursing home directors told me: it is best for the elderly to stretch out their hands and eat to open their mouths, and if they move too much, it must be more dangerous, and if the family is held accountable, it is still the responsibility of the nursing home. ”

"Who can protect 24 hours a day?"

Shen Feng couldn't laugh at all, he could already imagine a certain scene: waiting for lunch after breakfast...... Waiting for dinner after lunch...... Wash your feet and go to bed after dinner......

Close your eyes and mumble to yourself, and the day has finally passed again!

Is this proof of being alive?

It seems to be a kind of reversed paternalistic style and authoritative protection, because in the eyes of many children, the elderly not only lack the ability to live independently, but also lack the ability to recognize and judge independently, so they need to act as full agents for their daily life arrangements.

"Hey, the change of living environment can easily make the elderly feel depressed, anxious, lost, and even homeless and abandoned!"

"I've seen a lot of old brothers and sisters who have just moved in with tears and even nightmares at night, and they are still clamoring to go home after a year or two......"

"I understand that they don't necessarily prefer multi-generational living, but that they have become accustomed to living at home for many years, with emotions and memories that they can't let go of. ”

Aunt Pang said emotionally: "I will be sixty soon, if I really go to the nursing home, what I look forward to the most is the visit of my children." Even if you always say: don't worry too much, don't come to ...... often"

"I used to work on the streets, and I saw a Grandma Cui in her nineties, and her daughters were very filial and often bought all kinds of things for her to eat. Every time her daughter left, Grandma Cui would tremble and staggered to the corridor outside the door with a cane, standing in front of the window and watching her daughter go away. ”

Shen Feng's nose was sour, and his eye circles were red!

Taking a deep breath, he asked, "How are the caregivers treated?"

"It's usually called Auntie. Aunt Pang explained: "The treatment is much lower than that of the confinement lady, and the income in the capital is barely five or six thousand yuan. ”

"On the one hand, there is little money, many people feel that this job has no face, and they are embarrassed to tell their relatives and friends, as if they have done something unseemly?"

Shen Feng nodded, it is understandable, after all, taking care of the elderly is because on the one hand, it is necessary to help the elderly take a bath and change diapers every day, and it is inevitable to come into contact with the body and even excrement of the elderly.

On the other hand, it is often reminiscent of the maid and old mother in the old society, which is indeed not very decent.

The confinement sister-in-law is holding the heart and soul of the whole family.

It's fragrant, soft and fun.

And what about the elderly?

"I asked them that the most important and heavy thing in every day is to deal with urine and urine. Many severely disabled people need to be picked up from the bed by the aunt and slowly helped them to the toilet next to them. ”

"I have to change diapers every two or three hours, and many people feel very uncomfortable and uncomfortable wrapped in adult diapers, and often subconsciously tear ......"

"There are also some who feel frustrated and ashamed because of incontinence, and always try to clean up by themselves, but it is easy to stain the whole bed!"

Shen Feng sighed, isn't this just the old man taking care of the older person?

"It may be that there is a lot of social pressure, and there have been more and more dementia in recent years, and they all say that old children and old children are exactly the same. ”

"I've seen aunties coax them like kindergarten children, saying "good girl, go to bed quickly" or "hurry up and eat and compete with that old lady"

"Sometimes you have to pretend to be angry and intimidate them, such as stop crying and cry for the nurse to give you an injection. ”

After saying that, he took out a photo, Shen Feng was taken aback, only to see a skinny grandmother actually tied to a chair?

"There's no way, the old man scratches and scratches, and he can't control it at all!" Aunt Pang sighed: "It's because I can't stay at home, I can only send it to a nursing home, what else can I do besides tying my hands and feet?"

"An aunt has to take care of five or six people at the same time, in order to ensure the efficiency of care, it is impossible to focus on one person all the time, right?"

"When helping other elderly people dress and feed, once an elderly person accidentally falls or injures himself, who can stand it?"

"Finally, in order to prevent safety risks and ensure efficiency, constraints can only become a means of protection for nursing homes. ”

Shen Feng looked at the so-called restraint gloves in the photo, with a rope on them to tie the handle to the bed rail. These are all bought by the family and sent to the nursing home.

Who watched their own father and mother suffer in their hearts?

But what can be done?