Another engineer also sighed, "When my wife was pregnant, she didn't keep the first one, and when I was still thinking about it, she had already begun to condition her body and was ready to have another one...... The kid was five months old, I only looked at it, and if he survived, he would be taller than me by now......"

.......Although Ou Baobao didn't understand how the topic had deviated to this point, she also understood that everyone was very nervous and tired now, and they needed to chat and express their lyrical feelings to relieve pressure. As a leader, she can't lag behind and must be very cooperative.

"Is raising children really an investment?" Ou Baobao was indeed a little curious. The people in front of me are all gay men who are very capable and have a bottom line in life, and they have a very mature understanding and ideas about family, spouse, children, and even life. Ou Baobao hasn't discussed this matter with his family yet, so it's not bad to take the opportunity to ask them.

"Raising children, in itself, has a strong subjective mind, and it is easy to fall into a kind of extreme self-confidence and selfishness. For example, many parents who want their sons to become dragons and their daughters to become phoenixes can't wait for their children's planning and can't get the living conditions and physical examination rules after their children's retirement. Before being a parent, I think it's better to learn to be a human being first. It doesn't mean that good people will be able to teach good children, but people who are not qualified to be parents are generally speaking. Nor is he worthy of being a man. ”

The technician's point of view was echoed by a lot.

"One simple thing. When the child is not born, when I don't know whether I am male or female, I prepare both pink and blue clothes, and then I wear blue when I give birth to a boy, and I wear pink when I give birth to a girl, and this is how many hospitals distinguish between men and women. The room I prepared for my son was also gray and blue. I didn't realize what a cruel thing I was doing......"

The engineer who said that his wife had a miscarriage really needed to tell him to relieve the pressure in his heart, because he was really worried that he would never see the child again......

"Then one day, I took my son to the zoo, and there was a balloon seller, and he was very cautious and asked me if I could ask for a pink balloon. I still can't forget the look that made him feel ashamed and worried about being ridiculed and rejected by me when he wanted a pink balloon. I bought him five pink balloons in various shapes, and I wanted to apologize to him, but I didn't know what to say......"

The engineer sighed, "I used to buy him pink things, but after he went to school, he didn't like pink anymore. I asked him why, and he said that he was a boy and that he couldn't like girls' colors, and that he would be laughed at by the boys in the class. Luckily, he liked red later, otherwise, I really, really feel sorry for him......"

In fact, many people have expressed a lot of opinions on this point, which can be regarded as a kind of color discrimination. As a parent, he saw his child passively being influenced, giving up his favorite color, and beginning to follow the crowd and abide by the color law of the public order.

"Many parents see their children as a continuation of themselves, and Ou Dong, you have also said this before. Parents don't work hard themselves, but they want their children to work hard. This is fundamentally wrong. Parents who don't work hard rarely teach hard-working children. Because children have been watching their parents since they were young, watching their parents' life development. By the time the child realizes that he needs to work hard, he is basically in his thirties......."

Another engineer also spoke, "I always think that it is enough not to expect too much from children, but to love children." ”

"But the problem is that if you don't have expectations for your child, then the relationship will get a good release, and in the long run, the relationship will fade. Feelings need a channel, a foundation, and a sustenance, rather than appearing out of thin air. My child has grown to two years old, and until she can seriously talk to me, to be honest, I don't really have too deep feelings for her. But as soon as she was able to talk to me, I began to realize that this was my baby, and I began to expect more from her to talk to me......"

After someone retorted this, he continued, "I feel that many men still prefer sons over daughters when it comes to children. And if it is a girl, if he loves the girl's mother very much, then he loves the girl very much, and even, even if the girl is not his own, he will treat it as if he is biological because of the girl's mother. On the contrary, women do not do this, the more they love a man, the more they will hate the children he has with other women, both men and women, and even more disgusted with girls....."

This is his experience, "My eldest brother is the former man, and my cousin is the latter woman. My eldest brother cheated in marriage, fell in love with a divorced woman with children, and after leaving the house, he married this woman, and he was even better to this stepdaughter than his own daughter, and never said a word to his stepdaughter. On the daughter's side, the alimony was directly called, and there was no other ...... word"

"My family will persuade him, don't do this, be careful that your daughter will become an enemy with you in the future. But he didn't care at all, because he felt that his daughter was influenced by her mother and no longer had a good impression of him, and he didn't want to see the shadow of his ex-wife. My mother thinks of her granddaughter and cries, but he sends her stepdaughter over every time, because then her daughter won't come......."

Speaking of which, this one also revealed that he was ugly, and he had never said it before, and what was more serious was that "my cousin made her stepmother, and then coldly violented her stepson." Up to three years. If it weren't for her stepson's suicide attempt due to depression, her husband wouldn't have seen it at all. My aunt was blind from crying, and she said there would be retribution, but my cousin promised to her face, and when she turned her head and saw the child, her face changed. ”

Her husband couldn't understand at first, but it was clear that his wife was so good, and she had always been very good to her son, giving her food, clothing, pocket money, and she was always on call when her son had something to do at school, so how could such a good wife become a vicious stepmother in the eyes of her son? Later, it was my aunt who found him and made him experience the pain that his son had suffered in the past three years. Now this man is going to divorce, my cousin doesn't agree, and she's actively trying to get pregnant......"

Yu Sheng didn't understand, "Give food and clothing, and give pocket money, such a stepmother, it's very good, right? Even if there is no emotion, but everyone doesn't affect each other, isn't it good? It's better than engaging in that kind of false mother-son relationship, right?" He has also seen and heard many examples of stepmothers, compared with those stepmothers, this cousin is actually doing quite well........