He Xue looked at Zhou Yan fixedly and stopped for a while.

"Xiao Zhou, you think about it carefully, and then answer me a few questions. ”

Seeing Zhou Yan nodding, He Xue asked the content of the question, "What are the personality characteristics of your child in the process of growing up? What is the academic performance in primary school? Do you and your husband worry about or interfere with his studies?"

Subsequently, He Xue immediately added: "You are not in a hurry to answer, recall the memories first, and then tell me, the more careful the better!"

"Hmm!"

Zhou Yan lowered her head and pondered.

Son Li Dabing, since birth, to kindergarten, to primary school, and to junior high school,......

Scene by scene, like a movie, fast-forward in your own brain.

Especially the lovely son, at the critical juncture of growth, excellent performance, was the pride of the whole family!

Where emotion comes to mind.

The son called out the first mom, took the first step alone, went to school on the first day, scored 100 points on the first exam, and ...... for the first time

Zhou Yan's eyes flashed with tears, the corners of her mouth turned up, and she smiled,......

Even who was the first time to pee, what color was the first time to poop, and the first time I fought with a child......

She didn't feel angry, but full of happiness.

Until He Xue's voice sounded in his ears, "Do you still think that your son is not angry, are you still angry about these things?"

Zhou Yan shook his head and did not answer.

"Then let's talk about those questions just now, I'll give you the right medicine!" He Xue continued with the question just now.

"My stinky son!" Zhou Yan opened his mouth to call his son a stinky son, but his tone was full of love, and he could even hear a trace of pride.

He Xue looked at her with a smile and listened quietly.

"The character belongs to the kind of ordinary boy who is timid and likes to follow the trend. ”

Seeing that He Xue was listening carefully, Zhou Yan also smiled, "When I was in elementary school, my academic performance was okay, I was above average!"

Speaking of grades, Zhou Yan's face showed a look of guilt, "I'm not afraid of your jokes, Teacher He, it may be that my husband and I worry too little about his studies, plus the child is greedy for fun, when he was in elementary school, he was not good enough." ”

"Originally, I thought that in junior high school, the children would be older, more conscious, and better in learning. ”

At this time, Zhou Yan's face gradually changed into a look of remorse, and she sighed, "Alas, it seems that we are thinking wrong, this stinky boy, in junior high school, is like herding sheep, playing crazy, it's just ......."

The more Zhou Yan spoke, the more excited she became, and the emotions that had calmed down were about to be ignited again.

"Alright, Xiao Zhou, alright!"

He Xue made a stop gesture to stop Zhou Yan from continuing.

"Xiao Zhou, I heard it, your son is normal, and it's still too late to educate now. ”

As He Xue said this, Zhou Yan's eyes immediately flashed again.

It seemed that there was still hope for her son, she made up her mind in her heart, and said to He Xue, "Teacher He, you say, this time my husband and I will listen to you, as long as my son can study hard, let me do anything......!

"I see that you two are very determined! It's not that serious, you listen to me tell you slowly. ”

"There is an educator in the West called Montessori, who said that the first three years of life are better than the subsequent stages of development, better than the sum of three years until death. In fact, in our Huaxia, there is also a saying that the three-year-old looks big and the seven-year-old looks old. ”

"Explain what, human character, is what determines life. ”

Seeing Zhou Yan pondering, He Xue paused for a while.

"Your child, there is no problem with his personality, he belongs to the type of good child, as for playfulness, it shows that he is smart. ”

"All smart children are playful, and if children don't like to play from an early age, they like to learn and learn, but they are even more abnormal. ”

"If you think about it, it is precisely because of human greed, laziness, and desire that social progress has been promoted. ”

In He Xue's later narration, Zhou Yan slowly became enlightened.

The growth process of a child is very similar to the growth process of a tree.

Therefore, there is a saying that people are planted in a hundred years and trees in ten years.

According to He Xue, this process is not only not easy to see it, but also easy to see it.

It's not easy to say that it doesn't happen overnight, it takes a long time to accumulate and precipitate!

Easy means that you don't need to keep an eye on everything you want, you just need to leave the work to time.

What parents need to do is to intervene a little at important junctures.

The growth of trees can be divided into germination, seedlings, stereotyping, flowering, fruiting, and maturity.

Parents, as guardians, just need to understand what to do at each stage.

In childhood, it is to germinate and sprout to ensure nutrition.

In adulthood, it is about to blossom and bear fruit, help find a partner, and complete the marriage.

Zhou Yan's child, Li Dabing, the first grade of junior high school, is the period when small saplings are planted and stereotyped, and they need to prune, set goals and directions, and be parents to do a good job of guiding and optimizing environmental problems.

"Xiao Zhou, you just need to help your child solve two problems. ”

"One is to guide and help him set goals in life, and you can talk to him about whether he will be a doctor, a teacher, a scientist, a soldier, or any profession that is beneficial to society. ”

Of course, once you have chosen a goal, you should encourage him to work towards it, and remind him that it is not easy to achieve it. ”

"Well, my son said that he wants to be a doctor in the future, like Dr. Zhao, don't look at him timid, he likes the feeling of cutting meat with a knife, and I also said that he is sick. Zhou Yan interjected in the middle.

"That's right, it should be encouraged!"

Next, let's help him solve the second problem, that is, making friends carelessly, entering middle school is the stage of the biggest change in life. ”

When she said this, He Xue was a little emotional.

"Children at this stage are the most rebellious, they have already begun to have their own ideas, and even decide that once their ideas and practices are criticized and opposed by adults, that is, parents or teachers, they will not handle them well and there will be problems. ”

"Although, I am a primary school teacher, and I have received a lot of feedback from the parents of students who have entered middle school, and there are many painful lessons, some have run away from home, some have slipped-down slopes in learning, some have addicted to Internet cafes, and some are keen on early love,......

"Alas, there are all kinds of things, there should be some that shouldn't be, there may be some that go to crime!"

Zhou Yan was a little surprised, and couldn't even understand, "Are there any junior high school students who commit crimes?"

"Why not?"

"That's horrible!"

"So, we have to solve the problem of carelessness in making friends. He Xue directly pointed to the point.

This is a social problem, Zhou Yan frowned, in her opinion, this problem is difficult to solve.

After all, parents have to work, children have to go to school, and they can't keep an eye on him all the time.

After thinking about it, there was no reasonable solution, she shook her head helplessly, "Teacher He, this problem is not easy to solve!"

"Actually, it's not difficult!" He Xue was still smiling.