Marriage Counselor (Part II) Zhang Baotong

The man may feel that he is wrong with the woman, so he says to the woman in a flattering tone, "Go and sleep in the chaise longue for a while." However, the woman ignored the man, and sat down on the small stool in front of the door, stopped playing with her mobile phone, and turned her face to the side in annoyance.

Wu Qian said to Ms. Xia, "Why don't we go to that little cool skin shop and inquire about this woman's situation?"

Ms. Xia said, "Okay. ”

So, the two came to the door of the Liangpi shop twenty or thirty meters away from the car repair shop and sat down. A woman in her early thirties served a bowl of cold skin to each of them.

It was past lunch time, and there were no customers in front of the shop. Wu Qian pointed to the car repair shop and asked the woman who sold cool skin, "That woman is really hard enough, it was ten o'clock that night, and I see that she is still repairing people's cars." ”

The woman who sold the cool skin said, "That woman's name is Xu Qingli, she may have done it, and she can be better." ”

Wu Qian said, "Really?"

The woman who sold the cold skin said, "If it weren't for her, their family would have broken up a long time ago." ”

Wu Qian asked, "Why?"

The woman who sold the cool skin said, "Her husband used to drive a big truck at home and pull soil for other people's construction sites, and he could earn a lot of money in a month, but her husband was so attentive that he burned bags when he earned some money, secretly took one of her nieces with him all day long, and even made a 17-year-old girl pregnant." Maybe it was God's retribution, but later, his car overturned in a ditch on the side of the road, not only broke down, but also injured the girl. Even repairing the car and seeing a doctor for the girl's fetus cost more than 100,000 yuan at once. Moreover, the loan for their car has not been paid off. Xu Qingli was angry, and ran out of her hometown to divorce her husband. However, my husband will never leave whether he lives or dies. In order to repay the money, there was no way, so she called her husband from her hometown and borrowed money for her husband to learn to repair electric cars. Over the years, they have not only paid off all the loans, but also built new houses. Otherwise, do you think this woman is quite capable?"

Wu Qian immediately said, "This woman is quite capable, but her husband doesn't seem to be good to her." ”

The woman who sold cool skin said, "It's not bad, it's mainly because men have a bad temper and love to get angry, but every time he gets angry, Qingli ignores him, thinking that he quarrels with him and is embarrassed, which affects the business of the store." ”

Ms. Xia interjected, "If it were such a man, I would have divorced him a long time ago." ”

The woman who sold cool skin said, "It's not easy to get divorced, and besides, what to do after divorce, it's hard to say if it's good to find another one, and it's hard to say, not to mention that there are children." After a while, the woman who sold the cool skin said, "I also heard that the two of them are divorcing, Qingli insisted on leaving, but the man did not agree." I don't know if it's true. ”

Wu Qian said, "I'm afraid their children are not young, right?"

"They have two children, the daughter is in junior high school in my hometown, and the son has just entered the first grade. ”

Wu Qian said, "In this case, it is really not easy for them to get a divorce." ”

The woman who sold cool skin said, "However, Qingli is a person who is alive, capable, not afraid of hardship, sincere to others, and would rather be aggrieved than let others suffer, otherwise, people who know her like to be with her, and it is estimated that after her divorce, many men will want her." ”

Wu Qian said, "But why do I think this woman is very ordinary, not beautiful at all." ”

The woman who sold cool skin said, "Don't look at her pretty, there are really a lot of men who like her." In the evenings, when she was free, there were always men and lads who liked to come and talk to her. Some time ago, there was a young man who installed doors and windows for the market, who was not married, and was two or three years younger than her, and he kept chasing her, asking her to divorce so that he could live with him. However, Qingli did not agree at all. ”

Ms. Xia said disdainfully, "Some women are born with a lot of energy, which is good for provoking men. ”

The woman who sold the cool skin immediately retorted, "Then you are wrong, people are beautiful and upright, clean and clean, and never have the slightest impropriety with men." Otherwise, there are so many men around her, and her husband has never felt uneasy. ”

Hearing this, Wu Qian felt a laugh in his heart. Because there are a lot of improprieties behind many very serious women, but they are not discovered. Either there is a saying in the love field: everyone has ugly things, and if you don't show it, you are a master.

After eating the cold skin and paying the money, the two got into the car again. At this time, the man was still busy repairing the car, while the woman squatted next to him, constantly helping the man. At this time, Wu Qian said to Ms. Xia, "After watching this for a long time, what is your impression of this woman?"

Ms. Xia pondered for a while and said, "I think this woman is quite pitiful, and I can't even hate it if I want to." ”

Wu Qian nodded, and said, "What do you think is superior to you compared to this woman?"

Ms. Xia said without hesitation, "This woman is young, in good health, full of energy, and her kung fu in bed must be good, otherwise, how could my husband fall in love with her." ”

Wu Qian was stunned, frowned, and said, "Why do you think like that?"

Ms. Xia said, "My husband's ** is very strong, when we first got married, he had to do it three or four times a night. Moreover, the reason why we have a bad relationship is that I am not in good health and cannot satisfy him, so he has been divorcing me. ”

Wu Qian said in a guiding tone, "What about the other than that?"

Ms. Xia thought for a moment and said, "Everything else doesn't seem to be very important. ”

Wu Qian emphatically said, "And this woman is diligent and clean, tolerant, hard-working, and not careful. Then, he said, "For example, you can see that although people repair cars in front of their doors, the floor is always clean. Although the man had finished repairing the car and threw his things all over the floor, the woman would have immediately packed up and put things in order. And on a hot day at noon, the man carried the chaise longue to sleep under the tree, but the woman sat in front of the door and guarded it. If it were you, I'm afraid you wouldn't be able to do it. If nothing else, let's just say that when I came to your house today, I didn't clean up much when I saw the house, and some places were so dusty that I was afraid that they hadn't been scrubbed for a long time. And the food you cooked, I can't even eat it. Think about it, if you're always like this, which man can stand it. Only your husband can put up with you, if it were me, I wouldn't be able to get along with you a long time ago. ”

Seeing that Ms. Xia lowered her head, Wu Qian said again, "I'm not afraid that you will be angry when I say this, because if you don't attract attention again, we will drive this woman away, and your husband will find another woman." We can only help you by treating the symptoms but not the root cause, and you have to rely on yourself to cure the root cause. If you can't save yourself, then no one can save you. ”

Ms. Xia seemed to wake up a little and said, "I don't blame this woman, it's because I didn't do it well." ”

Wu Qian took the opportunity to say, "It is not easy to be a woman who is loved by her husband. I think you still have a lot to do with that. ”

Ms. Xia nodded and said sincerely, "Yes, I want to hear your advice." ”

Wu Qian said, "In popular folk terms, to be a woman loved by men, a woman must be a housewife at home, a noblewoman outside, a slut in bed, and a cook woman in the kitchen." Wu Qian said meaningfully, "Don't take for granted what you don't want to do. In this world, nothing should be taken for granted. The sincerity and concern of all people for you is out of deep kindness and love. In this world, except for our biological parents, no one can tolerate us unconditionally, and no one can always be kind and give to us unconditionally. If someone is kind and giving to us, we should give it back. However, your husband's hard work for you and this family has brought you and this family a lot of glory. But how much did you give him in return?"

Ms. Xia said ashamedly, "I did not do well in the past and broke my husband's heart, but I will correct it in the future, and I must make him feel the warmth of the family." ”

Wu Qian said frankly, "It is not enough to have this desire, you must study hard, and it is best to participate in some training in this area, and really understand and learn how to be a good wife." You didn't do well in the past, but you didn't learn and educate in this area. To take the simplest example, in ancient times, when a daughter got married, the mother would put a picture album of husband and wife in her dowry, so that the daughter could learn and understand the purpose and meaning of marriage through reading the album. But who else would do that to mothers today? So, many of their daughters have become wives and wives, and they don't know much about how to love their husbands intimately. ”

Ms. Xia admits convincingly, "Yes, since I was a child, no one has ever told me that cooking is important, tidying up the house is important, and sleeping with my husband is important. And in all the years of marriage, I didn't realize how important these things were at home. Alas, I thought I was smart, but now I realize that I am actually stupid and stupid, and I am still self-righteous. ”

Wu Qian said, "You can't be blamed entirely for this. Because there is no marriage school, our education in this area is very limited, and many couples learn and grow through practice, but some people learn faster, and some people don't learn so fast. ”