Stepfather Zhang Baotong 2016.4.7

In my most distant memory, my father's impression is not my biological father, but my stepfather. Pen, fun, and www.biquge.info

It was one day after I had just gone to Xi'an with my mother to mourn my father. It seemed like sometime in the late afternoon, I broke one of the dishes while I was washing them. A strange man chased me and beat me up. That was the first impression I had of my father. But I know that my biological father is dead, and I will call him Daddy in the future. I was only four years old.

At that time, my family lived next to the construction site of the Luohe Railway Bridge in Pucheng. Except for the construction site and a river, there is not a single figure in the radius of many miles. The people we could see were the workers who were repairing the piers. And the only people I spend a lot with are my mom and my sister. My brother went to school far away in Xianyang.

I didn't know how my mother married my stepfather and started a family because I was too young at the time, but I heard my mom tell me later. My mother was only twenty-five or sixteen years old at the time, and although she was small-footed and illiterate, she was quite beautiful. But his stepfather is in his thirties, but he has never been married. He used to be the machine gun squad leader in Lu Zhengcao's unit, and when covering the retreat of the large army, all the people died, all the bullets were gone, and his right arm was also pierced by bullets. So, he lay down in the pile of dead people and pretended to be dead and escaped. Later, when he returned to the army, he could no longer shoot because his right arm was injured, so he returned to his hometown to become a farmer. After the liberation, he was recruited to the engineering bureau and began to build the railway. The stepfather was used to a hard life and lived a very frugal life. He sent all the money he saved to his sister in his hometown in Hebei. Someone once said to him that you can't always send money to your sister like this, you should find a woman, or when you are old, you don't even have a home, who will give you a pension. He woke up and decided to find a woman to live with.

At first, someone in his hometown introduced him to a young widow with two boys. The young widow was a rural person, and it was natural that she could live with the railroad workers. However, just as they were about to get married, the young widow's father-in-law came to visit his grandson and said that when the child was grown, they would take it away. As soon as the stepfather heard this, his attitude immediately changed, and he didn't want that woman anymore. Because he wanted to wait for him to raise the child, as soon as the people took him away, he didn't end up with a chicken and an egg, empty-handed, who would support him in his old age? The woman cried and refused to leave, but the stepfather drove her away very resolutely.

Soon after, my father was injured in a work-related accident. The secretary of the engineering team saw that my mother was with our three children, which was quite pitiful, so he pulled my mother and stepfather together, and said to the two of them in a forcible commanding tone, "You two must agree whether you want to or not." "Of course my stepfather was pleased. But my mom was very reluctant. The stepfather and the biological father were originally co-workers, the biological father was the class leader, and the stepfather was the deputy class leader. The relationship between the two is very good. However, my father was young, handsome, cultured, and cheerful and liked to make friends. My stepfather, on the other hand, was not only old and unattractive, but also withdrawn and silent. So compared to my father, there is a big contrast. However, my mother also considered that if she did not agree to this marriage, she could only take the three of us back to our hometown in Anhui. However, she didn't want to go back to the countryside to live, so she had to marry my stepfather.

Soon after, my stepfather took our family to a large railroad family compound. I think my biological father's death was the beginning of my life memories, and my stepfather's bringing us into the railway family compound was the beginning of my childhood. I lived in a heavy and tragic family, and it did have a great influence on the formation of my character, because although I had a stepfather, he was not a real father in my heart, but a benefactor that I must respect and be grateful for. I think my brother, my sister, and even my mom will feel the same way.

Psychology shows that children without mothers lack maternal love, and children without fathers lack guts. And our family members are more or less timid, inferior and withdrawn. Therefore, sometimes when my wife is dissatisfied with me, she will say that I am a child without a father and have a strange personality. In fact, children with dads also have tempers, but others don't say that about them.

In addition to not being close, the stepfather is still very good, he is extremely honest, not good at talking, kind-hearted, upright, but he has a big temper, but if you don't make him angry, he won't lose his temper. Moreover, he is busy with him all day long, I play with mine all day long, he doesn't care about me, and I don't mess with him. So, he barely trained me and hit me. I have always been grateful to him for bringing our family to a sunny place from the sorrow of my biological father's death and the hardships of life. So, my childhood, my teenage years, and my whole life have always been growing up under bright sunshine.

My brother and sister and I have always been supported by a state pension, but what he has given us is the warmth and environment necessary for the growth of a family or a child, which money cannot buy. In fact, he also gave us a lot of love, for example, my brother participated in the rebel organization of the school during the Cultural Revolution, and later, the victorious side of the rebellion was about to liquidate the opposing faction, and my brother was still a junior high school student at that time, and he was so frightened that he ran away from home. At that time, my stepfather was still building the Miluo River Railway Bridge, and he would walk or take a car to inquire and look for my brother after work. After searching for about three months, my brother secretly sent a letter, and we learned that my brother had already run away from home. So, the stepfather tried to send him money and food stamps to persuade him to come back. However, this kind of love of his will only precipitate into a kind of gratitude and respect in our feelings, not the kind of natural paternal affection. There's no way around it, because we don't have the genes in our blood that fuse this feeling.

On the contrary, his faults are sometimes easy for us to remember. The Railway Engineering Office is a mobile unit, running around to repair railways, and almost all the people it comes into contact with are people from their own units. Therefore, the search for objects is also in the unit. If you don't do it first, it's really possible to pick up the rest. When my sister started falling in love, she found a boy she liked, and the boy also liked my sister very much, but my stepfather thought they were still young and resolutely did not allow them to fall in love. I broke them up, but my sister didn't look for them as good as she used to be. Therefore, my sister's marriage has always been unhappy. In particular, the boy later came to the bureau as a cadre, which made my sister's resentment towards her stepfather even greater. I think if it's a biological father, this kind of thing may be easier to collude with each other, and even if the father is at fault, as long as there is love, the resentment can be easily resolved. Because love makes it easier for us to be tolerant and understanding. But because it's a stepfather, neither of the two talks to each other, so it's easy to bury resentment in your heart. Sometimes when you think about it, being a stepfather is actually quite difficult.

The stepfather's life was extremely economical, and before starting a family with his mother, he sent all the money he saved to his sister in his hometown in Hebei. Therefore, part of the funds for his nephew to set up a factory in his hometown were saved up by the money he sent over the years. After marrying a family with my mother, he began to give money to my mother. His monthly salary was 70 yuan, and he left 20 yuan for food and smoking, all of which he sent home. The cigarettes he smoked were either nine-penny packs of economy cigarettes or dry tobaccos bought from the street. I remember when I was in the third grade, I secretly took his cigarette and smoked it once, and the cigarette was so choking that it made me dizzy for an afternoon, so I got dizzy when I smelled the smoke again. My stepfather always didn't have money in his pocket, not because my mother didn't give him money, but because he couldn't spend it even if he put it on. He never took advantage of others, and others never wanted to touch a little bit of his light. He usually goes alone, greeting people when he has a good relationship, and ignoring others if he has a bad relationship. Otherwise, my mom always said he didn't have any human courtesy.

Hunan people like to eat and drink, and they are very serious about pomp and circumstance. It may be that Hebei people live a more frugal life. Therefore, he especially hated this habit of Hunan people. However, my brother, my brother and my eldest sister also live in the local area, and life has been integrated into the local customs. Besides, everyone is working, and living conditions are better. Someone in the family has come back from out of town, or it is a New Year's holiday. Everyone should set up a table and celebrate. However, at this time, he either kept a straight face and did not speak, or he nagged and said strange things. made everyone so unhappy, they didn't speak, and they left in a hurry as soon as the meal was over. When everyone left, he quarreled with my mother, saying that my mother had forgotten her roots, and now she was panicked when she had a few dollars. In fact, he meant that Sang scolded Huai and said others. Therefore, our family will be worried when it comes to the New Year's holiday, other people's homes are lively, and our family is not lively and not good-looking, especially when everyone has rushed back from other places. However, as soon as it was lively, the stepfather was either annoying or extravagant. However, my stepfather was diligent and thrifty all his life, and he didn't save a single money, and he didn't even buy a house in the family area, and my mother still lives in the old bungalow until now. Moreover, when he died, my mother had almost no money in her hands. Because he was reluctant to spend the money, someone helped him spend it.

He can't get used to this or that, and he is extremely patriarchal and prone to tantrums, so almost everyone in his family has some opinions about him. Moreover, the family area and the Agency also turned their backs on him as a stranger. However, he and I have always gotten along better, and he has repeatedly praised me in front of my wife, saying that I send a lot of money to my family, that I am promising, that I do not smoke or drink, and that I live a simple life. And he doesn't usually talk to other people, but he likes to talk to me, as if he has some common language with me. Because I never do anything that upsets him, and I never make him angry, because I respect him and thank him from the bottom of my heart, because he brought our family out of danger and brought light to me, and gave me a good childhood and a good life. I can't thank him enough for his kindness. (To be continued.) )