The wedding date is set for Valentine's Day, which sounds like a year away, but the New Year is just around the corner, so it is less than half a month before the wedding day is full.

So when Dong Zhilan heard it at first glance, she felt very hasty, because she hadn't prepared a wedding gift for her good friend seriously.

"It's a hurry, but the in-laws are in a hurry and want to do it quickly," the grandmother explained, "Originally, according to her mother-in-law's wishes, it was going to be done before the year, but it was too hasty to think about it, so after discussion, it was set for the new year, but it's okay, the Xiao family has arranged everything, and it's in time." ”

"Grandma, it's good that Yuzu is getting married in a blink of an eye, and I'm really happy for her. Dong Zhilan said sincerely.

The Xiao family went from disagreeing to urging marriage, which is also a good change, it is better than twisting and pinching and procrastinating without mentioning this matter.

Xiang Yuyu's marriage can go so smoothly, as a good friend, Dong Zhilan is happy for her from the bottom of her heart.

Grandma smiled, "Yes, Yuzu's life has to rely on, and her mother and I are also happy for her, but I am reluctant to think that she is going to get married." ”

Although she had a smile on her face, Dong Zhilan still heard her grandmother's loss.

The girl who got along with each other day and night, when it comes to marrying someone else's family, she is reluctant to be sure.

Don't talk about grandma, even she feels a little reluctant, in fact, it seems that marrying Yuzu has not changed anything, friends are still friends, and the two of them are still friends after marriage, but psychologically they just feel quite reluctant.

"Grandma, what's so reluctant, Yuzu is not married far away, they are all in the same city, and they can still come back often. Even though she thinks the same as her grandmother, Dong Zhilan still comforts her with words.

"Yes, yes, fortunately not far away. "Grandma is a little pleased.

Maybe people are afraid of separation when they get old, so they don't dare to imagine the scene if Xiang Yuzu marries to other places.

Fortunately, Xiang Yuyu married not far away, and Xiao Muchun was also very filial, which made her feel a lot more at ease.

She can understand the thoughts of Xiao Muchun's parents, she is in such a hurry to let her child get married, she should also want the family to be lively, now Xiao Muchun has been living here, and the Xiao family has only one child, and it must be very deserted.

After getting married, Xiao Muchun and Xiang Yuyu should live there, and Xiao Zhen and Mu Yu can enjoy the joy of family and tease their grandson.

Although Mu Yu also said that the children can still come and live after getting married, after all, they will not live as long as they do now.

But grandma also understands their thoughts, who doesn't want children and grandchildren around their knees.

Whether you are poor or rich, people think the same thing.

And the Xiao family has done enough, promising them that they can come back often to live after marriage, and in this regard, grandma is very grateful to them.

But the two children were dangling in front of their eyes all day, and the thought of moving away in a few days was so uncomfortable.

In response to that sentence, I understand the truth, but it is difficult to open it.

Even she, an old man who has been through half a lifetime, wants to adapt to this change is not a momentary thing.

Although the mood is complicated, it cannot be denied that it is a great joy.

Therefore, I was happy and reluctant.

Perhaps only those who are about to marry their daughters can understand this contradictory feeling.

After talking about Xiang Yuyu for a long time, my grandmother suddenly remembered Dong Zhilan, this girl has been going around for so long for emotional problems, and I don't know if it has been solved now.

So, he cared, "Lanlan, what's going on with you, has your father let go?"

Dong Zhilan's face suddenly darkened, and she shook her head.

Grandma sighed softly, "It's not a way to be so screwed up at home, you're also back, take advantage of the Chinese New Year, sit down with your dad and have a good chat." ”

Dong Zhilan was noncommittal, silent for a long time, and said, "It would be nice if my dad was as reasonable as you and your aunt." ”

Grandma persuaded, "Your father is good, not unreasonable, maybe he hasn't turned a corner for a while." ”

"In this matter, he is really unreasonable. Dong Zhilan frowned.

In the past, she thought that her father was a reasonable person, although sometimes he was very domineering, and he liked to arrange everything for her and let herself go according to his arrangement.

But if she is reluctant, the two sides can finally reach an agreement.

At least he can listen to the objections, and if the opinions are convincing enough, he can still be persuaded to change his mind.

But on the issue of Luo Ze, he didn't get in, and Dong Zhilan tried everything he could to no avail.

Whether it's messing with him, arguing with him, not going home, going abroad, everything that can be used is a convenience, but her father is still as solid as a rock and does not move.

And there is not the slightest possibility of negotiation.

is always a tough word, and she is not allowed to be with Luo Ze.

There is no reason and there is no willingness to communicate.

Dong Zhilan now feels that her father is the most stubborn and unreasonable person in the world.

If it weren't for this, she wouldn't have done anything like running away from home and going abroad.

After all, her mother is no longer there, and her father is the only person she is closest to, and if there is a little way, she is not willing to do this.

"Lanlan, you are a sensible child, what about us, sometimes we have to learn to empathize, otherwise the parents don't understand the child, and the child doesn't understand the parents, standing in your father's point of view, maybe he also thinks that you are disobedient and don't understand him. Grandma said earnestly.

She could see that when she mentioned this issue, Dong Zhilan was obviously depressed, not that she wanted to pick up people's scars, which was unpleasant.

But this matter is a knot, dodging is not a way, if you don't spread it out, if you don't solve it, it will always be a knot there, and this knot will get bigger and bigger, the more knotted it will die, and after a long time, it will be more difficult to untie.

In the eyes of her grandmother, Xiang Yuyu is her granddaughter, and Dong Zhilan is also like her junior.

Two girls of the same age, seeing that Xiang Yuzu is about to enter the palace of marriage, for **, becoming a mother, Dong Zhilan is still single, grandma is really concerned, and I especially hope that Dong Zhilan's problem can be resolved as soon as possible.

This kid has changed so much.

I used to talk and laugh, my face was sunny, so bright, but now I am much more melancholy, and I always have sadness between my eyebrows, even when I am laughing.

So my grandmother couldn't help but want to talk to her about it.

In this regard, Dong Zhilan did not resist.

She has no one to talk to, except for Xiang Yuyu, and her grandmother can be regarded as the object to confide her heart in.

Because this old man also understands her family, cares for her, and can also put himself in her shoes.

So Dong Zhilan said her thoughts and practices without reservation.

"Grandma, I thought about my dad and seriously considered this matter from his standpoint, so even if I didn't understand what he did, no matter how much I thought he was unreasonable and unreasonable, I still listened to him, and I wasn't with Luo Ze. She said abruptly, "The reason why I did this is that I don't want to hurt my father's heart and make him feel that he has raised my daughter for nothing, but what about myself? My heart is already full of holes, I can only hurt and endure it myself." ”

Grandma stroked her hair, "Poor child, I'm sorry for you." ”

originally wanted to reconcile the father and daughter, so he said those words to Dong Zhilan, but he didn't expect it to be like this.

As Dong Zhilan said, it's really not her fault, she thinks about her father, but her father doesn't compromise at all.

It's hard for this kid too.

Dong Zhilan's strength collapsed in an instant as soon as her grandmother said this.

She sobbed a few times and endured her sadness, "I don't know how to communicate with my dad, and I don't know when my dad will figure it out, I think he may not agree for the rest of his life, but I have already prepared for the worst, and I will be single for the rest of my life." ”

Grandma said, "Silly boy, you really want to be single for the rest of your life, your father must not die in a hurry." ”

She has also heard of someone who chooses to be single, what is called Dink, but her grandmother thinks that it is too trendy, as far as the national conditions are concerned, there is no parent who does not want their children to start a family and wants their children to be single all the time.

And if the child is single or due to his own factors, he will definitely blame himself, how much ideological baggage parents have.

"He can't help it in a hurry," Dong Zhilan said quietly, "I can do what he says, whoever made him my father, but I can't let him start a family with peace of mind and find a man without love to live with." ”

If not being able to be with someone you love is painful, then living with someone you don't love is even more painful.

In the face of getting along day and night, without love, what do you rely on to spend a long time?

Rely on hardship, or rely on death?

Besides, she also has a bottom line.

Not being with Luo Ze is her biggest limit.

She is not unconditionally obedient and blindly retreats.

So Dong Zhilan had already thought about it, she couldn't be with Luo Ze, so she chose to be single.

Anyway, it is absolutely impossible for her to marry a man she doesn't like, and then pretend to be doing well, and her life has not been affected in any way, just to make her father feel at ease and not blame herself, she can't do it.

If her father really blames himself for this, it can only be said that he paid for his own mistakes.

In the world of adults, every step counts, every choice made is responsible for the consequences, and no one can make mistakes without having to pay anything.

Seeing that Dong Zhilan was so resolute, her grandmother couldn't say anything.

Because she understands that this kind of thing is best if it can be explained, if you can't, you can't force it, otherwise it will backfire.

After all, others can only persuade them to make their own affairs, and there is no substitute for making any decisions.

And Dong Zhilan is a very assertive child, in fact, she has already thought about it very clearly, but it is just a matter of trade-offs.

When it comes to the people you love the most, which side to take or which side to give up is a painful decision.

"Then did you come back and tell your father?" asked Grandma in a different way.

Dong Zhilan bit her lip, "I haven't informed him yet." ”

"You kid, what's the notice, go straight home. Grandma gave her an idea, "It's Chinese New Year's Eve soon, have a Chinese New Year's Eve dinner with your father." ”

said a thousand things and ten thousand, grandma still hopes that Dong Zhilan can talk to her father again, and the Chinese New Year is a good time.