Old husband and young wife (peculiar marriage four) Zhang Baotong 2016.5.1

It's a disgusting marriage I've seen with my own eyes. In fact, they will not be able to have a legal registration. Because the father of the child is the maternal uncle of the child's mother.

It was May 1993, shortly after I came to the school as a secretary, and a woman with a Henan accent and two children came in front of the school to enter, but the porter wouldn't let them in. I saw that the woman and the child were dressed very shabby, and the woman looked to be not yet thirty years old, and her complexion was brown and dark, and she was very rough, and she looked like a very poor person. So, I called them to my office and asked about the situation. She told me about her life story in front of her two children. She said that she was a farmer in the mountains of Nanyang, Henan, and she had no mother since she was a child, and her stepmother was very cruel to her, not letting her eat enough or buying her clothes. The clothes she wore were all worn out by others and given to her when they were not needed. And her father doesn't care much about her, he listens to his stepmother for everything, and beats her at every turn. When she was sixteen years old, her uncle muttered to her stepmother for most of the day, and then asked her uncle to take her out to work.

She was taken on the train by her own uncle, and took the train all night on the train to Xi'an. rented a dilapidated hut in a field on the outskirts of Xi'an, and that night, her uncle raped her. In order to prevent her from running out, her uncle also locked her in the house all day and did not let her out. Because at first she didn't know where she lived, and she hadn't been to school for a few days, and she didn't dare to run out casually, because her uncle scared her that as soon as she went out, someone else would kidnap her and cheat her. Later, after giving birth to her first child, her uncle relaxed with her, because he knew that she couldn't let go of the child even if she ran out. She said that she hated her uncle very much, and always wanted to get rid of him, but she never had a chance, and later, she had a second child, a son. Therefore, it is even more difficult for her to escape. Now, she is enrolling her seven-year-old daughter in school. Hearing her situation, I knew that she couldn't have any money, but the school charged 2,000 yuan for each student. So, I asked her to wait in the office, and I went to talk to the principal to see if I could waive her daughter's entrance fee. When the principal heard this, he only agreed to waive half of the fee, but did not agree to the full waiver, fearing that the full exemption would cause a bad reaction. However, she couldn't even come up with a thousand dollars. Because they grow vegetables in the farmer's vegetable field and raise two children, their income for a year is almost barely enough to make ends meet. I had no choice but to call the principal of a rural primary school not far away, because they only charged 600 yuan. Later, they also reduced half of the cost for her child, charging only 300 yuan.

She was very grateful to me for this, and told me that her name was Wang Fengni. One Sunday afternoon, I rode to her house to check it out. She happened to be pulling vegetables in the vegetable patch. She pointed to the dilapidated hut in the middle of the ground and said that this was where she lived. I wanted to go in and have a look, but she said that the man was over there, and the man wouldn't allow her to talk to other men, otherwise he would whip her with a belt. I looked at the man in front of the hut. The man was tall and thin, fifty-five or sixteen years old, with a fierce face. He happened to be looking at me with very vigilant eyes, as if I was going to run away with Wang Fengni at any moment. I know that it's not good to talk to Wang Fengni too much, so it is easy to arouse the suspicion of men, and then Wang Fengni will be beaten. Wang Fengni also told me to come over in the morning when I was free, because men have to pedal three wheels to the market in the morning to sell vegetables.

After two or three weeks, I came over in the morning and brought some notebooks and school supplies for her child, which had been given to the school brigade headquarters by other units. But I still didn't go into her house, and I was afraid that if others would see it, I talked to her for a while, and she told me that she had a relative on the other side of the road, and she was very kind to her. I asked her what she was going to do in the future. She said that she is saving money now, and when she has saved more money, she will run away with the child. She said that every time he gave her money to buy something, she would save five dimes and one yuan, and over time, she would add up to a lot. I said it was too slow.

After two or three years, the second child is also facing school. She told me she was going to take the child away. I asked her where she was going with the kids, and she said that his relatives had some people he knew on the other side of the bridge. About another month later, when I rode my bicycle to the place where they were planting vegetables, I saw the old man alone in the vegetable patch. I asked the others about Wang Fengni. People said that Wang Fengni had left long ago with the child. As for where they went, no one knows.

About three months later, a stranger called me, and as soon as I heard that it was Wang Fengni, I asked her where she was now. She said she rented a house in the village behind the three bridges. You want me to go over and take a look. So, in the afternoon, I bought some fruit and drove there. She took me to her house at the station and made me dumplings with the shepherd's cabbage she picked in the wheat field. She told me that she had obtained a marriage license with a man who worked in the local railroad department, but that the man could not have children, and that after sleeping with her, she was going to regret it. I said that you have no source of livelihood now, and your child needs money to go to school, and you have to rely on him to die. She said that his family had a house, but he didn't let them move in, and he didn't give her money, and she couldn't pay for her children's schooling. I said you have to find a way, if it doesn't work, go ask him. She said she was embarrassed to ask for money. I said that if you get a marriage certificate, you will be husband and wife, and your child will be his child. I left in the evening, and after I left, I gave her the two hundred dollars I had brought with me.

Because it is quite far from the northern suburbs to Sanqiao, it is not very convenient to take a car, so later, I have never been there again. She didn't call me again. But I've been to the place where they grow vegetables, and I heard others say that the old man looked for Wang Fengni everywhere but couldn't find it, so he went back to his hometown in Henan.

After that, I haven't contacted Wang Fengni again, and I think she may have lost my phone number, or she wouldn't have stopped calling me for so long. And I didn't go to the Three Bridges again, because I knew she hadn't been there for a long time, and she hadn't paid the landlord for two months. I really hope that the man who got the marriage license with her will treat her and the children well so that they can live in peace. However, I think she will be able to get better even if she has gotten rid of that nightmare marriage.