Vietnamese woman Zhang Bao Tong 2016.11.3

The United States uses the Statue of Liberty as the symbol of the American nation. She symbolizes freedom and freedom from tyranny www.biquge.info In France, Mariana is the symbol of France, and she shines with the light of freedom and reason. The women of a country are themselves the embodiment and symbol of their nation. I gained my knowledge of Vietnam as a neighbor through an in-depth understanding of Vietnamese women.

I really started noticing Vietnamese women during a trip to Guangxi a few years ago, when we took a limousine from Guilin to the Detian Waterfall on the Sino-Vietnamese border. It originates from the Guichun River in Jingxi County, Guangxi, has water all the year round, flows into Vietnam and flows back to Guangxi, and falls down into a waterfall through the cliff in Detian Village, Daxin County. The main waterfall is 100 meters wide, 60 meters deep, 70 meters drop, and Vietnam's Panyo Waterfall as a whole, the total width of the waterfall is 208 meters, it is the largest natural waterfall in Southeast Asia, and also the largest transnational waterfall in Asia and the second largest in the world.

There is a boundary monument on the other side of the waterfall, and there is a small market next to the boundary monument. The market should be in the territory of Vietnam, because further on that side is the Vietnamese farmland, and the outpost of the Vietnamese soldiers can be seen on the side of the mountain farther away. The market is surrounded by Vietnamese small traders selling a wide range of alcohol, tobacco and food to Chinese tourists. But the tobacco, alcohol and food they sell are of poor quality and very cheap. A large bag of banana chips only costs six or seven yuan, while in China such a large bag of dried bananas costs at least ten yuan. A pack of Vietnamese-made panda cigarettes costs only two or three yuan, and two or three yuan cigarettes are rare in China. Because the market uses RMB, the Vietnamese dong is rarely used. But Vietnamese vendors sometimes get us a little bit of VND, mainly as a souvenir for tourists. But the value of the Vietnamese dong is very low, as if 2,000 dong is not as good as one yuan. Later, I heard that 10,000 dong is only worth three yuan.

Although the market is not very large, it is very crowded with tourists. As a result, Vietnamese small traders and vendors are constantly shouting and selling their goods to tourists. Visitors are almost all Vietnamese women, almost all of whom wear clothes made in Chinese, and only a few wear cheongsams that resemble those worn by Chinese women, but with their mouths open from the sides of the waist down. All of them speak Chinese, and they speak Mandarin more authentically than the local Chinese. I bought a lot of things at the stall of a girl who, although only thirteen or fourteen years old, spoke Mandarin more fluently than the Chinese, and looked and dressed exactly like the girls in China's big cities. When I saw her gushing and peddling to tourists, I was curious to ask her why she didn't look like a Vietnamese girl at all. She told me that her family is in the countryside near Vietnam, and that her family depends on her to do business, and that she has to come to the wholesale market on the Chinese side twice a week to buy goods, and she deals with Chinese in everything, so after a long time, she has exercised. She also told me that she had been to Hanoi and Saigon, as well as Guilin and Nanning in China.

Actually, there are many Vietnamese men in the market, but they are all standing in the open space by the market and do not talk to each other. Next to them was a large patch of parked motorcycles. These cars are very old and have Vietnamese license plates. Presumably, they are only responsible for pulling and transporting goods, and it is their women who do business in the market. In contrast, these men were very unsophisticated in their dress, like the local peasants, but their women were much more sophisticated in their dress, and they seemed much more sophisticated than they were.

In the past, I always thought that Vietnamese people were poor, but in the market, I saw a Vietnamese woman take out money from her pocket, and it turned out to be a large bag of renminbi for the Red Exhibition, at least 30,000 or 40,000 yuan. I was surprised, because most people don't carry that much money with them. Therefore, how can a Vietnamese woman who I used to think be very poor feel that she can easily take tens of thousands of yuan from her pocket.

Vietnamese women are similar to Guangxi women, it seems that there are not many beautiful women, thin and small are their common characteristics, dark skin, big forehead, but they are not as fierce and tough as I used to think, they are very shrewd, very capable, and very gentle.

On the way out of Detian, the car was driving for a long time on the road across the river from Vietnam. The creek is only thirty or forty meters wide, and at its narrowest point, it is probably only about twenty meters. On this side of the river, in China, there are wide roads and beautiful villages, and there are long queues of large cars and small cars on the roads. On the other side, the Vietnamese side is just a very narrow dirt road. After watching for a long time, I saw a person on a motorcycle driving by on the road.

Along the way, the tour guide pulled us to a food supermarket across the river from the Vietnamese village, and the tour guide mobilized us to buy more things, because the guide and driver could get a commission from it. The food is almost all Vietnamese trademarks and packaging, and the price is not too expensive. As I was shopping for food, I asked my boss if they were regular with the Vietnamese people across the street. The boss told me that the food was delivered from the other side, but usually at night they brought it by boat. I also asked them if they had intermarried. The owner said yes, but very little. Only those whose families are very poor and cannot find a local daughter-in-law will marry Vietnamese women. And marrying a Vietnamese woman is very cheap, as long as you give someone 2,000 yuan, you can marry a Vietnamese girl home. The usual price of a local wife is generally nearly 100,000.

Then, the tour guide took us to the largest jade shop in Detian County. The store is really very big, not to mention anything else, the "smooth sailing" sailboat with jade sculpture in front of the door is worth more than 30 million yuan. When we entered the store, a young proprietor in his early thirties presented each of us with a copper coin made of jade, and then introduced us to his shop. He said his jade was mined from Vietnam and shipped to China for processing. He said he had a wife in China, but he also had a wife in Vietnam, because he often had to go to Vietnam to buy goods. Moreover, he still said that a friend of theirs Detian was very nervous about living in China for 3,000 yuan, but when he arrived in Vietnam, he rented a house and raised a Vietnamese girl, and he lived comfortably, and only used 1,000 yuan a month.

Hearing this, some of us asked him, if you marry a wife in China, and then marry a Vietnamese wife, it is bigamy, and it is illegal. But he disagreed, saying that although Vietnam practices monogamy, as long as you can afford it, you can marry as many wives as you want. But the procedure for marrying a wife is the same, a ceremony must be held, relatives and friends must be entertained, and most of the wives will live together after marriage, but in a legal sense, a man can only get a marriage certificate with his eldest wife, and the other little wives are driving without a license. But regardless of whether they have a certificate or not, the government treats all children equally, and all of them can be registered normally, and there is no problem of black households or fines in China.

He also said that no matter how many wives you marry, you must be treated the same, for example, if you want to buy a house or a car for one of them, you must buy the same house and the same car for all the other wives. Moreover, they also have a very interesting name for each wife. They call the eldest wife rice, the second wife two rice, the third wife rice noodles, the fourth wife noodles, and the fifth wife instant noodles. Because rice is indispensable for everyone as a staple food. Although there are some changes in the composition of rice, rice is still a staple food after all. Rice noodles should be considered a supplement to staple foods. Noodles can be used to satisfy your hunger when you are hungry. Instant noodles are very casual things that you can take to soak when you want to eat them, and put them aside if you don't want to eat them. In Vietnam, the status of men is very high, and they say nothing at home. Vietnamese women uphold the traditional virtues of gentleness and virtue, and are good at running a family.

This point was fully confirmed by the movie "Green Papaya Love" that I watched not long ago. The heroine, Xiaomei, is a child from a poor family who has been working as a maid for a rich family since she was twelve or thirteen years old. She has a gentle temperament and an optimistic nature, and she is busy all day long, doing things seriously and obscurely, neither talking much nor making her master angry. Later, she grew up, at the age of eighteen or nineteen, she was delicate and delicate, slim and elegant, cleaned up the master's house all day long, and thought of ways to improve the life of the master, and later made the male owner who practiced and composed music all day in love. From the growth process of this Xiaomei, you can see that the status of Vietnamese men is very noble, while the status of Vietnamese women is very low.

Speaking of Vietnamese women, it is impossible not to talk about the transnational marriage of Vietnamese women. A Chinese man can marry a Japanese, French, Russian, or even Ukrainian woman. Of course, marrying these women can cost a lot of money. Therefore, a man who does not have much money wants to marry a Vietnamese bride. There have been many cases of fraud and the like about marrying Vietnamese brides. The most common report is that a Vietnamese bride marries somewhere, and a large group of Vietnamese brides are introduced. However, one day, all these brides disappeared from the earth. Even if these brides do not engage in human vaporization, the possibility of staying in the local area permanently is very small.

Think about it, almost all of these brides were cheated or bought. They have no formal marriage certificate, no local hukou, no language barrier, different customs, no relatives and no reason, they are lonely and helpless, and the local police station will arrest them. Apart from their husbands, they have little to rely on. If their husbands are no longer good to them, then why should they stay here for the rest of their lives?

There is a family surnamed Wang in Henan who can't afford to marry a daughter-in-law locally, so he married a Vietnamese bride through an acquaintance. In the early days of their marriage, the two were barely reconciled, but after a long time, the situation changed. The husband didn't go out to work, he stayed in the village every day to play mahjong and gamble, and his life was very poor and bad. For this reason, the two quarrel and fight all day long over trivial matters in life. The woman felt that she couldn't live this day, so she wanted to go home for three days. However, the man's family said that she would not be allowed to go home without children, and they were afraid that she would never come back once she returned home. Then the woman gave birth to a girl. The man's family agreed to take her back home with the child, but she had to be accompanied by the man's father.

The man's father took the mother and daughter to Vietnam with great difficulty, and changed trains many times before returning to the woman's maiden home. The woman's family is in a remote rural area, with six children, and the family is very poor, the house is in disrepair and leaking rain. Taking advantage of the fact that the in-laws came over this time, the woman's parents offered to support the in-laws with 40,000 yuan to rebuild the house. Henan's in-laws were originally very poor, and if it weren't for poverty, they wouldn't have married a Vietnamese bride, but if he didn't give money, his daughter-in-law might not return to China. So, my husband asked his family to borrow money and loans, and he collected 40,000 yuan and sent it to his in-laws in Vietnam. In this way, the Vietnamese in-laws forced their daughter to return to Henan with her husband with the child.

Fujian's Ah Fu also married a Vietnamese bride, but he and his Vietnamese bride Ah Xiu fell in love and were busy in his own shop all day long. Their son is five years old, and although he does not have a hukou, they still managed to get his child into kindergarten. There were also four or five Vietnamese brides who married with Ah Xiu, but they all lived well. They often get together to chat and laugh, and none of them want to leave their homes.

Although a Vietnamese bride is not expensive, what can you do if you marry her? It costs about 50,000 yuan to marry a Vietnamese girl. But are their ID cards genuine? Will they really love you? Will you be able to get an official marriage certificate? What will happen to her household registration? What will happen to your children's household registration and identity in the future? And your language barrier and different habits, will this make you adapt and agree? There are many, many questions that you can't help but consider. Moreover, Vietnamese women, like Chinese women, also yearn for happiness and wealth, as well as love and be loved. Can you give them these things for the rest of your life?

So, I thought of what the supermarket owner had said, that although a Vietnamese girl across the river could marry for 2,000 yuan, people were still willing to pay 100,000 yuan to marry a local Chinese girl. Because although it costs a lot of money to marry a local Chinese girl, it will not cause so much trouble, and it will not make you encounter a lot of worries and troubles.

Later, I joined a six-day tour of Vietnam, Cambodia and Laos with my unit and went to Saigon in Hanoi. Saigon can be described as the most beautiful and fashionable place in Vietnam. On that day, I visited the Presidential Palace in the morning, ate Vietnamese specialties at noon, and cruised the Mekong River in the afternoon. During this period, I paid special attention to Vietnamese beauties because there are many pictures of Vietnamese beauties on the Internet. I wanted to see if Vietnamese beauties were as beautiful as the pictures on the Internet. But what disappointed me is that there are really not many beauties in Vietnam, and they are really bad compared to our Xi'an. While visiting the presidential palace, I happened to meet some middle school students, who should be the most beautiful girls in their youth. However, I really didn't see a few who were very pretty, and generally short. I heard that Vietnamese girls like whitening and pursue a thin waist, and it is true that Vietnamese girls are rarely fat. Many of the clothes they wear are the kind of cheongsam that is slit to the waist, and the thin white waist will loom out, which is very attractive. But Vietnamese girls are really not as pretty and glamorous as I see online. But Vietnamese women are the most stoic, hardworking, and sacrificial. In fact, this is the most respectable and lovely thing about women. (To be continued.) )