If there is love, it must be expressedZhang Baotong 2018.11.6

If we know how much others love us, we will be filled with deep gratitude and will reciprocate in return. Love is warm, love is warm, love is warm, love is intangible. If love is not expressed in some tangible way, we may not be able to feel and perceive its existence.

There is a poem that says, "The farthest distance in the world is not that I stand in front of you, and you don't know that I love you, but that I love you to the point of obsession, but I can't say that I love you; Although this kind of love buried in the bottom of my heart is very strong, if you don't express it, can the other person feel it?

Love is not only the key to open our hearts, but also the rain and sunshine of our emotions. With love, our hearts will be full of tenderness and sweetness, and our lives will become bright and gorgeous. When we fall in love with someone, there will be wordless love in our eyes,

The brow will be stretched suddenly, and a knowing smile will hang on the corner of the mouth. At this time, we should open our hearts and say to him, "I love you", instead of burying this feeling in our hearts and letting it torment us all the time.

A colleague once told me such a story. Said to be a man in her neighbor's house, he was twenty-six or seventeen years old, handsome, dignified, and worked in a large state-owned enterprise. Seeing that he was old, many people helped him introduce him, but he insisted on not looking for him. Later, it was discovered that he was fascinated by a girl.

The girl is quiet and beautiful, well-dressed, elegant, jade and clear, much like a female student in the May Fourth period. Every morning around seven o'clock, the girl would walk down the alley in front of them with her purse. At this time, the man would keep a distance from the girl and follow behind, all the way from the alley to the street, and then he would stand at the corner of the street and watch the girl stand at the bus stop waiting for the bus, until he saw the girl get on the bus, and then he slowly turned around and walked back. This went on for three or four years, until one day, the girl was never seen in the alley again.

At first, people didn't know about it, but I don't know who revealed it and spread it. So everyone felt very sorry, and felt that this man was really an elm pimple, and since he was in love with that girl, why didn't he confess to that girl? Because he was afraid of touching the man's heart, no one asked him about it. Maybe he didn't know this girl at all, so he never made a statement or confession to her.

However, in many cases, it is clear that both men and women are very familiar with each other, and they are together almost every day, but they can also miss opportunities. When I was in college, there were two male and female classmates in the same class, the male Sven was handsome, studied hard, and had outstanding grades. The woman's academic performance is average, but she is beautiful and attractive. Originally, there were several boys in the class who were chasing the girl, but the girl liked to be with the boy, and often asked the boy for advice and asked the boy to help her practice English conversation and listening. Boys are actually very fond of girls, as long as girls ask him for advice and inquiries, he will always explain to her endlessly, and take the initiative to help her record and do exercises. However, the boy always felt that the girl's family was a high-level family, and his family was poor, so he felt that he was not worthy of the girl, so he never dared to confess to the girl, for fear that the girl would refuse. Until the eve of graduation. When the boy and the girl in the class were already in pairs, and that he and the girl were still alone, he thought that everyone would be separated from each other, so he mustered up the courage to write a letter to the girl, expressing his deep love for her in the past three or four years. When the girl saw his letter, she invited him to the grove behind the library, and said to him in great annoyance, "Why didn't you tell me earlier? "I've always wanted to say it, but I'm always afraid that if you don't agree, it will be very embarrassing for both of us." The girl sighed and said, "If I don't want to, will I be with you all day?" I have given you three or four years, but you have refused to confess to me, and I think you may not love me at all. That's why I said yes. That guy has been waiting for me for three or four years. When the boy heard this, he began to weep bitterly. However, it was too late.

In fact, in the past three or four years, the two of them have had many silent confessions or hints. However, love is a very serious and prudent thing, and it must be very solemn and unmistakably confessed. Sometimes, there should be some more solemn commitments and ceremonies. If you don't want to be too solemn, but you have to be guts, you can use a hand, touch, or even a kiss as a confession. If the woman just wants to be friends with you, it's not a big deal if you just pull her hand, stroke her hair or cheek, or even kiss her. At best, she'll look unhappy and tell you seriously that she doesn't like it. Then there's no need for you to waste any more time on her.

For most people, feelings of love are very sensitive. A look, a word, or doing something for the other person can make people feel your affection for her. If you are a sensitive and perceptive person, you will have a deep understanding of what others are saying and expressions that come out. When I was traveling in the countryside, I heard a middle-aged woman tell me about an experience she had. She said that more than 10 years ago, her husband worked in Xi'an all the year round, and sometimes he was too busy to come back when it came to harvesting wheat. Therefore, when it came to the wheat harvest, she was very worried. In previous years, she hired people to harvest. The day's wage is 50 yuan. However, that year, she couldn't hire anyone even for money, which made her very anxious. That morning, she was about to go down to the field to harvest wheat with a sickle, when she went out to see a man passing by the door, and at first glance it was a man from the mountains. The man looked straight at her with his eyes and seemed to have a crush on her. She looked at him too, and felt that the man was very strong and kind, so she said to the man, "It's hot, come in and have a cup of tea." The man immediately entered the house, and while drinking tea, he asked her, "You collect wheat alone?" she sighed and said, "No way, my husband can't come back, and I can't invite someone." When the man heard this, he said, "Anyway, I'll collect it for you." ”

When the man had finished his tea, he went down with her to harvest the wheat. The man was about the same age as her, and he worked very quickly, and in less than a day, he had finished harvesting a large field of wheat. When she returned home in the evening, the man saw that the shed of her pigsty had collapsed, so he went into the pigsty to repair the roof for her. In order to express her affection and help to men, she gave men dumplings at dinner, fried some green chili peppers and shredded potatoes, ordered noodles, and hid five poached eggs in the noodles.

After eating, it was dark. She gave the man 50 yuan to send him away, because the man still had to collect wheat for his own family. However, the man said that he did not want the money and did not want to leave, but only wanted to stay and help her harvest all the wheat tomorrow. She understood what he meant, of course, so she shoehorned the money into him and left him at home.

In this story, we don't hear a word of love, but the fact that a man wants to stay behind to collect wheat for others despite his own family during the busy season expresses a different emotion. Moreover, the man does not want money, but wants to stay and continue to harvest wheat? And the woman fried five poached eggs for the man at once and risked leaving the man at home. This is even more significant.

Human beings have many sensory organs, and they can not only hear and see the feelings and information expressed by others, but also feel them with their hearts. However, there are also delusions and deviations in the senses at times. Therefore, how to pierce this layer of "window paper" has become the key to expression and confession. Because of the window paper, the two can see each other's true intentions more clearly.

From the point of view of zoology and early human behavior, courtship is a very natural behavior, and there is no embarrassment or shyness. Modern civilization has made people more gentle and gentle, which is to protect people's personal rights from infringement. But we can't lose the courage to confess and show love to each other because we are too gentle and gentle. If so, you're sure to hold a grudge for life.

Loving and being loved is the source of our physical and mental pleasure and happiness in life, it is the rain, dew and sunshine of our souls, and the flowers of the four seasons of our lives. A heart without love is cold, and a life without love is dark. We love our loved ones, we love our loved ones, we love our lives, we love our friends, we love all the kind and honest people in this world. Because they're loving us, too. Therefore, we need to learn and know how to show our love and kindness to them. Some love and kindness can be expressed in a tactful and suggestive way, and some must be expressed in a direct and explicit way. Only when the other person clearly accepts and feels your love and warmth will he reciprocate with you. And the communication and return of love will make our mood and feelings bathed in more rain, dew, sunshine and vitality.

Each of us will spend a lifetime learning the knowledge and skills of life, but can we spend more time learning how to express the love in our hearts? Only when we know how important it is to express love will we learn it seriously.