1: I suddenly felt that it was really difficult for adults to fall in love.

Most people are anxious, anxious to be together, anxious to declare a relationship, and then get along with contradictions, so they are anxious to break up, and in the final analysis, they still don't like it that much.

The little bit of liking that I had at the beginning, in the long time together, was quickly run-in to the point that there was not much left.

Even if you stumble, you finally meet someone you really like.

But sincerity does not necessarily exchange sincerity, and unilateral efforts are not enough to maintain a relationship.

And a little luckier, like my friend, who has been together for five or six years, likes each other, and in the end has to consider more practical issues, I didn't think so much about being together when I was a student, but now I have to consider:

What about the other party's family, what if there is no house or car, and what if the parents do not agree.

And most people are not yet to the point where they are facing these problems, and they haven't even met the people they really like.

It doesn't take a long time to get to know someone, it takes a long time to get close to someone, and it's too tiring to get to know someone slowly, even if you have enough patience, it depends on whether others are willing or not.

We've all passed the hazy age where we like someone and just need a little response from the other person to be satisfied.

Anyway, love is so rare, if you can't meet it, it's not surprising.

It's a little sad.

2: "I still love you, but I don't like you anymore. ”

I guess what this means is,

You still make my heart flutter beautifully,

But I don't have the courage or strength to hug you.

I can still die with you,

But this life is no longer for you.

This passage touched me very much,

It's like you're still in my heart,

occupies a very important position,

But I don't have any illusions about you anymore.

I can't control my unforgettable feelings for you,

But there's nothing to expect from you.

Although I still miss you, I don't have to be you.

I want to talk to you well,

Put yourself in your shoes,

But you want to be so gentle as I will,

When I lowered my posture like this, I said things that hurt my heart even more.

You never knew what I gave up,

My pride, my stubbornness, my self-esteem, my bottom line.

You'll never know what I've done for you,

Just like a smoker can never smell himself,

The loved one never knows how hard it is for the person who loves you.

Let's go~

I will give it back to you,

The heart is back to you, the freedom is back to you,

The sweetest dreams about you are returned to you,

Peace is back to you, thoughts are back to you,

Single-mindedness and all hope for the future will be returned to you.

3: The only reason you're afraid to get married is because you haven't met the right person yet.

You say no, I'm afraid of the bride price bargaining, and I don't know each other like businessmen. I'm afraid that swearing at the wedding that I love you, and in the blink of an eye, arguing and opening my mouth is divorce. I'm afraid of having children, I'm afraid that our love won't last the first three years of having children. I was afraid to deal with his parents and was forced to compromise. I was afraid that the countless economic pressures after middle age would bring me back to the pre-liberation period overnight. I'm afraid of the growing numb feelings, and one of the parties will always have an affair first. I was afraid that he had taken my hand and not accompanied me to the end.

I'll admit that any of your worries can happen, but that's not the whole story of love.

You say "I'm afraid of getting married", it's so good, there are even some cuties, I'm afraid that you say "I'm not afraid of getting married", that kind of fearless and heroic look makes people feel worried about you, feel sorry for you, love is not a journey that sees death as home, you are afraid, that's right.

Life is not familiar, there are always unaccustomed to eating, tickets have to be changed, the plane will be delayed, the hotel is not pleasing to the eye, the scenic spot is full, but, there is a guide to travel, go to Chongqing Internet celebrity hot pot restaurant to check in, go to Beijing roast duck restaurant to check in, go to Shanghai to squeeze a City God Temple can squeeze out the sense of ceremony, but, what about marriage, where do you go to check in? The first stop is the Civil Affairs Bureau, the second station, the delivery room, the third stop, the kindergarten? To tell the truth, you and I are the same, for the unknown life, panic is greater than surprise, confusion is greater than excitement, who wouldn't get married, but it's too difficult to live a lifetime.

You're afraid of getting married, that's right.

In fact, you are in awe of marriage, you are worried because you really want to live a peaceful life with a person, so, you are afraid of disappointing each other, but also disappointing yourself, you see that there are so many problems in marriage, you panic, you feel that you are not good enough, not worthy of being loved by a person, you want to work hard to become an excellent person, I understand, but, do you know? Marriage itself is two imperfect people, encouraging each other, comforting each other, supporting each other, and slowly getting better.

You don't have to blame yourself for not being good enough, everyone is not perfect, so when the person you like passes by you, you must take his hand.

You said that you were afraid of getting married, because you have tasted the bitterness of love, you put all your love on an impossible person, and later, he did not marry you, and walked into the sea of people without looking back, I am afraid that you will no longer have the ability to love others. I think that the person you loved for the first time didn't catch it, don't regret it, he has given you all the tenderness, and you have also loved with blood, since the fate is not enough, then let it go. No way, we were too stubborn when we were young to catch that amazing person. Fortunately, later we all understood what cherishing is, so the lover who came later was called a lifetime.

When you say, "I'm afraid of getting married," I know that you're one step closer to marrying love.

Make a list of the options you are afraid of, eliminate them one by one, sometimes, love is wonderful, have you ever played a game like matching? That is to say, you meet a lot of troubles in love, in fact, they are the same, one day, three of them met together, and they disappeared by themselves.

Many people joke that when you get married, your quality of life will decline. After having a child, the quality of life will decline even more.

You see, everyone uses marriage as a safe haven, thinking that if they get married, they will have the guarantee of eating a big pot of rice, and who will work hard in the future, anyway, there is the other half to carry it. So, later, when you complain about the reality of marriage, haven't you also never raised your salary in the few years you have been married? Ask those people who say that the quality of life will decline when they get married, have they really worked hard for their marriage?

That's not how marriage is done!

You go to see those couples who get married, get better and better, they have never slackened, work hard to make money, and strive to provide a more comfortable life for their children, who can live an easy life, if you don't want to suffer the hardships of life, then go to the hardships of studying, a marriage, not to mention that 1 plus 1 is greater than 2, even equals can't be done, what do you want to do with that kind of marriage, I don't believe it, two self-motivated people will make a marriage worse and worse.

What does it mean to improve the quality of life?

Many people laugh and tell you that the house is rented, but the life is not. You see, the rental houses that people have exploded and renovated are mostly poetic and picturesque, and the lives are mostly petty bourgeoisie. Look at you, you became a house slave, people watched a musical original price ticket, and bought it without even blinking an eye, what about you, pay off the mortgage, and buy a group purchase movie ticket at most.

Believe it or not, the landlord can make him live on the street with his life with a phone call, and he is in a panic to find out where the nearest budget hotel is.

The house bought by the young couple, no matter how badly decorated, is also called home, and no one comes to disturb it, this kind of comfort is to improve the quality of life. After getting married, I love each other more and more, and I feel more and more that the other party is a lifetime of happiness, which is to improve the quality of life. It doesn't matter who you eat, drink and have fun, what matters is who you eat and drink with.

What is the quality of marriage? It is not to see how much she has suffered, but if you look at her state, you will know that she is super happy.

For other people's marriages, everyone is an outsider, you just saw that the steak on her plate was replaced by yellow stewed chicken, and you didn't see her happy chatting with her husband while eating. You only see her hesitate in front of the lipstick counter and turn around to buy a big pack of diapers, you don't see how happy she is when she holds the baby and kisses. You only saw her complaining in the circle of friends after coaxing the child and said that she saw the sun at four o'clock in the morning, and you didn't see the book she quietly put on the bedside table.

There are many lives that you don't see.

Don't be afraid to get married, those who work hard to live will be treated gently by life.

4: I no longer dig out my heart when I meet someone, I start to care about whether the pay is proportional to the return, and I start to care about whether that person is worth it.

In the eyes of many people, I have become very mature and selfish, the good news is that I have learned to love myself, the bad news is that it is difficult for me to love others anymore.

Growth is like this, keep saying goodbye, keep meeting, you have indulged in the sweetness of love, and at the same time you have suffered betrayal from your lover.

Along the way, I have met many different types of men, selfish and distracted, and after arguing again and again, I am tired and fed up with injuries.

I slowly learned to build a high south wall for my heart, like a small pot cow, hiding in that little corner of the inside, just to better protect myself.

Yesterday, I saw a topic on Weibo called: Do you still believe in love? Many people give a reply that they believe in love, but it's hard to believe that they will meet.

I also found that it seems that the older I get, the more difficult it is to take out my heart and give my blood when I meet someone I like.

Even in order not to be hurt again, he began to become a little cold, a little selfish, and knew how to put those conspiracy theories in love into practice.

You've learned to wait and see what happens, to give him a little sweetness and hope when you're sure he really likes you, and you've learned to keep him fresh from you by pretending to be a bit of a detached person.

I also learned to weigh the pros and cons and began to analyze all his values and whether they were in line with what I wanted.

I was finally no longer hurt and was able to leave freely when I couldn't get love, and I began to feel numb to love, so I found that my happiness became less and less