The original color of life, Zhang Baotong, 2016.8.26

Decades of life have come all the way, which can be described as a mixture of joy and sorrow, love and hate, which makes us sigh and sigh, with a deep aftertaste, but it is finally safe and sound, true. Pen ~ fun ~ Pavilion www.biquge.info Sometimes, you will unconsciously think of a lot of sadness and frustration. Because we didn't get what we longed for, and we lost something we shouldn't have lost. As we get older, those things are never lost. It makes our life full of regrets and unfulfillment.

But life is like this, clouds and sunshines, blessings and misfortunes, birth, old age, sickness and death, injuries and separations, ancient and modern, Chinese and foreign, no one can be spared. Although we have lost a lot, we have survived without those things. When you think about it, those things don't seem to matter to us anymore.

In fact, what is important or not depends entirely on how seriously we attach it to it. If we think it's important, maybe it's important, and if we don't think it's important, then maybe it's not. It's like a guy having an affair outside, and if you take it as a big deal, you feel like the sky is going to fall. If you don't take it into account at all, it's a trivial matter. Whether we value something lightly depends on how much we experience and feel about it. And the reason why our lives have evolved into what they are today is completely determined by our family origins and life experiences. Because it governs our perception of life and our attitude towards life.

When a female college student went to Tibet on foot, she came to the house of an old Tibetan aunt and saw that her house was dilapidated and destitute, and she felt that the old aunt was really pitiful. However, when the old lady heard that she had come to Tibet on foot from Beijing, she said to her, "Son, you are so pitiful. "Because in the Tibetan people's understanding, trekking is the hardest and most strenuous thing in life. However, in the minds of female college students, a dilapidated house is poor and pitiful, and in the hearts of Tibetan aunts, hiking is difficult and pitiful. But these are nothing to the nuns, who think that the most pitiful thing in the world is that no one cares, no one needs and no one loves them.

Each of us has our own life experiences, and the difference in life experiences also creates our different understandings and perceptions of some things. The understanding and understanding of life are different, and the values of life are also different. For example, after I retired from the second line, I often played and got along with some retired people. Because they are retired, they don't need to go to work, so they are either watching TV, playing stocks, playing mahjong, or going out to exercise and idle at home all day. I thought they were wasting their time, so I locked myself in my room all day writing. Because I've always wanted to make a difference in writing. In the past, I didn't have much time when I went to work, but now I have stepped back to the second line, and I have more time, so I should make full use of it. However, when they heard that I was writing at home all day, they said to me, "I'm retired, so I don't have a good rest. Someone even said to me, "What is Fei Na's brain, it is better to make up for the students." "Because I'm not a celebrity, it's still uncertain whether anyone can read what I write, but it's very realistic to earn at least 100 yuan for a student to make up for one hour of class. Moreover, my wife has repeatedly persuaded me to go out and take another job, so that I can increase my income every month. Because there are a lot of retired workers around us who are looking for work outside the home, and my wife is helping others to open a store. But I think I have a monthly salary, so why should I go to work? And my monthly expenses are very limited, and I don't have to give all the money to my son in the end. This can easily breed the idea of spending lazily and relying on laziness. So, I stick to what I love.

Everyone's preferences are different, and their values will be different. If we love to play football, we think football is important, and if we don't like to play basketball, we don't think basketball is important. People who love to play mahjong say that mahjong can prevent Alzheimer's disease. People who don't like to play mahjong say that playing mahjong is a waste of money and labor. Some people may advocate the kind of leisure and freedom of "picking chrysanthemums under the east fence and looking at Nanshan leisurely" and "talking and laughing with Confucianism, and there is no white ding". That's because we're annoyed by the cliché and the hustle and bustle of the market, and if we were to really live in that environment for a year and a half, we would feel extremely lonely and lonely. Just like some people think of poisonous snakes and rats as fear, while others regard poisonous snakes and rats as a delicacy. It's like a rural person who sees a city person running, and says that he has enough to eat. And the people in the city look at the rural people in the cave houses, saying that they are barbaric and rude.

Yes, a person's attitude and perception of life are indeed closely related to his life environment and life experience, which cannot be influenced and changed by others. For example, we have experienced a lot of hardships and hardships when we were young, so we have very low requirements for material life and attach great importance to the progress of life. I earn four or five thousand yuan a month, but I never buy three or four hundred yuan a piece of clothing. How many years has my wife been clamoring to buy a good pair of shoes. However, I just don't want to buy it. She saw a pair of 200 yuan shoes in the store and liked it very much. In order to encourage her to buy it, I gave her 500 yuan of my own private money, but she still didn't want to buy it when she went to the store. However, our son did not know how to learn, and he did not earn much money himself, but he never bought bargains, and he almost had to buy clothes and shoes for a thousand yuan a piece. He wants to buy a car, so we will let him buy a 100,000 yuan. Because most people's children buy cars at this price. However, he insisted on buying more than 200,000 yuan, and he changed his way to talk to us for more than half a year, saying all kinds of reasons, and finally moved us. Later, I found out that many of his friends were in business, and they often talked about food and drink together. Therefore, our thrifty lifestyle did not affect him at all. And his understanding of life is that he must have what others have, and he cannot let others feel that he lives worse than others. In this regard, I have also tried many ways to influence him and educate him, but it is useless at all, because his feelings and understanding of life are completely different from ours.

It is precisely because each person's life experience and understanding are different that the perception of things will be different. It's like if you like a girl who wants to introduce someone to someone, but they don't like it at all. Because other people's aesthetic tastes are not the same as yours. It's like you like to play ball, others like to fish, you like to read books, and others like to listen to songs. So, you can't impose your preferences on others, and others can't impose their wishes on you. The reason why this is happening is because nothing in this world is perfect. Everything has its good side and its bad side. It's like someone working on a flying car. If this kind of car is built, it will solve the congestion on the road, but at some point, a runaway car will fall from the sky and hit our heads.

Life is actually uneventful and uneventful, but we often compare ourselves with others. When compared like this, it feels different. Because people always have to compare themselves with people who are better than themselves, and who are better than themselves. Some people have made a fortune, how many houses and cars, and how many tickets. Some people have prosperous official fortunes and become division chiefs, bureau chiefs, and even district chiefs. Some people teach their children well, and their children go to Tsinghua University, Peking University, and become corporate executives, and they can get tens of thousands of yuan a month. Compared with these people, we can only sweat, feel ashamed, and even feel that our lives have really been in vain.

In fact, there is no need to compare with these people, because everyone's family birth, life experience and personality traits are completely different. After all, there are only a few people who can achieve these great achievements, and they all have very special abilities and extraordinary luck. Moreover, every position and every role has its own pressures and worries. It's just that we envy them so much that we always see too much of their bright side and ignore the responsibilities and risks they face. Just like when I was a child, I always thought that middle school teachers were so good, they could teach and learn at the same time, and they could play ball in school all day, so I longed to be a middle school teacher. However, after becoming a middle school teacher, I found that teachers competed very much with each other, and it was difficult for students to manage, so I thought that the education committee would do a good job, so I didn't have to compete with my peers and didn't have to manage students. However, when I arrived at the education commission organ, I found that everyone was intriguing in order to compete for power and profit within the department. Actually, the king has the king's worries, and the beggars have the beggars' worries. No one can sit back and relax on a whim. Unless you can go back to your childhood.

Even when we were looking for a wife, when we fell in love, we always felt that she was the best, but after we got married, we found out that we had found the wrong person. As everyone knows, marriage is like this, if you just find any woman, the result will not be much better than the current one. Because liking the new and hating the old is itself a common human nature. Moreover, people's hormones will always slowly fade down. So, you can only accept this fate.

Therefore, we should accept our fate when we live in the current situation. The life I'm talking about is our family birth, our genes, and our life experiences. It combines and achieves our character and our ideological understanding, and also determines our life path and our destiny. If you use an image of things as an analogy, life is a pool of clear water, and the ups and downs of fate are wind and waves. This pool of water has had many winds and waves and ups and downs, and finally it will always return to calm. This is the meaning of life and the destination of life. Knowing this, we will no longer regret and suffer, and we will no longer complain and hate others.

Thousands of people, thousands of faces, hundreds of people. Everyone's experiences and hobbies are different, and the lifestyle choices they make will be different from others. So, there is no need for you to envy others, and there is no need to underestimate yourself. Because your lifestyle is the best choice for you. This is your uniqueness and personality, the true feelings and true colors of your life. You give meaning to life, and life will bear fruit for you. Life can also be complicated, or it can be simple, the right to choose your lifestyle is in your own hands, no one will control you, only you can control yourself. But no matter how complicated or simple life is, it should be fulfilling and beneficial. In this way, we can feel fulfillment and joy in our daily lives.