Mother's Lover (short story) Zhang Baotong 2016.6.25

Mom's affairs are like that, I don't want to care about it, she has something in her heart that she can't figure out, just let her think about it slowly and carefully, one day she will figure it out, even if she is helpless, she will accept her fate. Just like those noisy children, he will let him make trouble if he likes to make trouble, and when he has made enough trouble, he will stop making trouble himself. My dad is gone, and I should support the family. As long as I don't speak, my mother can't do whatever she wants.

So, I didn't go to my mom's house for two weeks, and I wanted her to know that I was angry and didn't want to care about her. But I secretly asked my daughter-in-law to take the child twice, and I heard my daughter-in-law say that my mother was fine, but she looked lonely and pitiful. Hearing this, I thought of a way to send her to my second aunt's house on a motorcycle. Isn't she idle, my second aunt's family is too busy to finish, just enough to let my mother help my second aunt smash walnuts, and then let my second aunt accompany her to chat. That way my mom won't have nothing to do. With my second aunt with my mother, I don't have to worry about my mother anymore. So, I finally got through a few comfortable days.

On this day, the township health center will give the child what vaccine, and the child's vaccination card must be obtained. However, the vaccination card was left at my mother's house the last time I was vaccinated. So, I rode my motorcycle to my second aunt's house and asked my mother for the keys, and went into her house to get her vaccination card. The vaccination card was in a drawer in a half-cabinet in my mother's bedroom. There are my mother's most important and valuable things. There are bank cards, ID cards, household registers, and some cash and gold necklaces. But there's also something in it that comes in a file bag. Touching it with your hand is like a book. It stands to reason that this kind of thing shouldn't be in this place.

So, I opened the file bag and took out the book to see that it was a book called "Sexless Marriage". The fold of the book has a biography of the author and a photograph. When I looked at the picture, it was the man my mom liked.

I didn't expect that the man my mom liked was also a famous writer. I was very surprised and curious. So, I took the book out and wanted to take a good look at it. The book is not very thick, about 200,000 words, so I use my off-duty time to read it overtime.

The book is written about Xin Jianming, a farmer who is full of ideals for love and career, and after graduating from university, he entered the district party committee office as a secretary and fell in love with Ruan Xiaoying, a beautiful girl from the district government's human resources and social security bureau. However, after getting married, not long after having a child, Ruan Xiaoying got a uterine tumor, underwent two major surgeries in a row, and almost lost her life. Although Ruan Xiaoyu's life was saved, she lost her sexual function. Without skin love, there was a crack in the relationship between Xin Jianming and Ruan Xiaoying. Xin Jianming filed for divorce several times, but Ruan Xiaoying insisted on not leaving, because she knew that once she divorced, it would be difficult to find a man like Xin Jianming, and the child would lose his father. The whole family is going to break up. Therefore, at the beginning, she refused to leave on the pretext of housing difficulties, and then said that she would talk about it when the child was older, and then she used the excuse that the child would not be affected by the college entrance examination, until the child graduated from college, and refused to leave on the pretext that the child was afraid that the child's search for a partner would be affected. And Xin Jianming is in the district party committee, Ruan Xiaoying is in the district government, and the two units are in the same compound. Xin Jianming is always faced with the opportunity of cadre inspection and promotion, so he does not dare to forcibly divorce Ruan Xiaoying, for fear that it will affect his promotion and future. Moreover, Ruan Xiaoying's father is also a director of the Organization Department of the Municipal Party Committee, and he is very familiar with the leaders of the district party committee and the district government. Therefore, if Ruan Xiaoying refuses to divorce, Xin Jianming will not dare to take strong measures and risky behavior.

During this period, Xin Jianming met a young woman who went to the city from the countryside to work, and maintained a lover relationship with this woman for more than ten years. Every two to three weeks, they would come to a hotel and rent an hourly room to live together as a couple. In order to repay Chunyan, he helped her find a job, funded her to set up a stall and do business, and rented a house for her. However, later, Chunyan really fell in love with him and asked him to divorce his wife, but Ruan Xiaoying insisted on refusing. Chunyan saw that Xin Jianming really couldn't get married, so she was completely desperate, left him, and returned to her hometown.

The story doesn't seem complicated, and there are no ups and downs, but it makes people look intoxicated and sad. Although Xin Jianming has a successful career and has been promoted from a section member to the director of the district party committee office, he is very unsuccessful and pitiful in his personal life and family life, and he cannot break free. Maybe life is like this, people are always looking forward to the future of life will be beautiful, but who would have expected that the future of life is sometimes very miserable and sad. Especially when it comes to love, people always think that marriage makes love even better. So, they took the train of love and hurried towards the station of marriage. However, once I arrived at the marriage station, I found that I had left my dream at the previous stop. However, the train doesn't stop, it doesn't go backwards, it takes you farther from station to station. At this point, you will find that you can never get your dream back. Therefore, the mood and tone of the book are rendering the theory that "marriage is the grave of love".

When I told my daughter-in-law the story of this sexless marriage, she was astonished and said, "If there is no married life, what is a husband and wife relationship? ”

I said, "Without conjugal life, husband and wife would be enemies, but sadly they cannot be separated from each other in the same way that real enemies are." Therefore, such an enemy is even more pathetic and helpless than a real enemy. ”

Skin-to-skin affection is nothing to married couples, and they can express this kind of dear feeling at any time. But for a marriage in which one of the spouses does not have such ability and interest, it becomes an unattainable thing, and over time, the two of them will be like two mutually exclusive magnets, and will never be attracted to each other again. However, the existence of this immoral marriage does not attract anyone's attention, and even some relatives who know about this state of affairs are trying their best to help Ruan Xiaoying maintain this marriage. Because they don't want to consider Xin Jianming's personal feelings at all, what they value is that they don't want their marriage to affect the face of other family members. In fact, almost no one knows that their marriage is sexless, because this kind of thing is generally not said directly, and even if they want to divorce, they will only use emotional discord as a reason. There is a world of difference between emotional discord and sexless marriage. People always try to persuade people who are emotionally discordant to reconcile, but they are greatly shocked by sexless marriages. This is what I realized in the book.

At the same time, I also have a deeper understanding of the relationship between lovers. Skin-to-skin kinship is an emotional and physical need that both men and women can't live without. Men and women do not have skin-to-skin intimacy, and there is no meaning of interdependence. The love between men and women is based on skin to skin. What makes a dear person lovely is that they can communicate their feelings and hearts through skin-to-skin contact, and put their bodies and feelings in a cheerful and happy state. Therefore, a lover who has a skin-to-skin relationship will also be intimate and dear like a pair of true lovers and lovers. Because they do not have the responsibilities and obligations of husband and wife to each other, they are always grateful and grateful to each other who love each other, and regard the closeness of each other as a kind of love and dedication. However, there will always be times when people who have been traveling are tired and want to get off the train and take a break on the platform. However, there is no stop ahead of the love train of a lover's relationship. They either crashed their cars or were forced to disperse. Their hopes for marriage sometimes never come true. So, this kind of love tragedy of lovers is because they are on the wrong ride.

My daughter-in-law listened to me talk about this story and philosophy, and felt like a philosopher, and while staring at me with wide eyes, she snatched the book from my hand, and then fought at night, and finished the book in one night. So, she began to say to me in the tone of a professor at the University of Marriage, "The relationship between husband and wife is that husband and wife have to fulfill their duties and obligations to each other, and if they can't do this, then the relationship between husband and wife will exist in name only." The relationship between lovers is to fulfill the profession of husband and wife, but they do not get the status of husband and wife, so they can only enjoy the love of husband and wife temporarily. But the moment of separation awaits them somewhere, and the emotional tribulation after separation is sometimes like experiencing a life-and-death love. ”

I said in a complimenting tone, "There is progress, a smart person like you, if you can use more snacks, let alone go to high school, even to university." ”

The daughter-in-law said, "If I go to high school and get admitted to college, can I still be a farmer here with you?"

I said, "So, God won't let you go to high school or college, so he sent you to be my wife." ”

The daughter-in-law said, "So, that man was also sent by God to be our mother's lover?"

I nodded silently.