Lost a friend Zhang Baotong 2016.11.4

There are only eternal interests, and there is no eternal friendship. Pen Fun Pavilion wWw. ｂiquge。 The phrase info is usually used to describe diplomatic relations between countries, but it also applies to friends. Seeing the truth in adversity means that a friend in distress is a true friend. But if you were to test and test your friends with tribulation, you would find that you would lose almost all of them. Because of personal gains and losses and conflicts of interest, even if you are unwilling to abandon your friends, I am afraid that your friends will betray you. For example, Pang Juan framed Sun Wu, Pu Zhigao betrayed Sister Jiang, and Liu Hou shot Xiang Ying, etc., all of which were done by friends. In times of crisis and conflict of interest, friends are sometimes adversaries, enemies, or even more terrible than enemies. And there are very few friends who can stand the test of true love. So, in many cases, it's not that you want to lose your friends, it's that your friends will leave you.

Thousands of dollars are easy to get, but soulmates are hard to find. Good friends are hard to come by, but it's not hard to lose. Let's take a look at some of the stories:

Long ago, Amalosakti ruled the city-state of Mahranopim in southern India. He had a worry that could never be dispelled, and that was that he had three stupid sons. Considering that all three sons had no interest in studying, the king summoned his ministers and said, "You know that I am very anxious and helpless about my sons. According to a studious man, both an unborn son and a stillborn son would be better than a son who is a fool. What good does a weak cow do? A stupid son will only bring shame to the father. How can I make them my right successors? I would like to ask for your opinion. ”

One minister recommended the great scholar Vishnushaman, who was respected by hundreds of disciples, saying, "He is the most capable man, let him tutor your children." You'll see results in no time. ”

The king summoned Vishnushaman and said to him earnestly, "O noble scholar, have mercy on me, and train my son to be a great scholar, and I will make you the lord of hundreds of villages." "Oh, king, don't tempt me to sell my studies with hundreds of villages. In the six months starting today, if I can't make your child a great scholar, you can ask me to change my name. ”

The great Vishnushaman was faced with a dilemma. If he refuses the king's request, he will offend the king, and if he agrees to the king's request, he will have to teach the three fools to become scholars. Does he have this kind of self-confidence and ability? It's like when friends are together, hello, hello, everyone, and suddenly one day, a friend asks you to do something that makes you very embarrassed or you don't think you can do it at all. Do you do it or not?

Actually, many people are your friends, but they don't want to do much for you, they don't want to do much for you. For example, Wadhharman chose an auspicious day of the zodiac for his purchases to find out the market. He began his journey in a magnificent carriage drawn by two bulls. On the way, after walking for too long, a bull named Sagiuka fell into the jungle near the Gamna River. When the merchant wanted to continue on his journey, he asked his servant to take care of the ox for him. But the servant abandoned the cow shortly after his master's departure and caught up with his master, telling him that the cow was dead.

Why would the servant do this? It is because caring for a dying cow is very troublesome, and far less convenient than being with the master. So, he gave up looking after the sick cow, saying that it was dead. Then he no longer has the responsibility to take care of the cow.

In fact, the cow, named Sagiuka, did not die. Because of the fresh air and abundant tender grass in the forest, the cow soon regained its strength and began to wander around the forest, dancing and singing merrily.

Why did the owner of the cow get tired of the long toil? Was it because the owner didn't treat him well, or did he think there was something better than pulling the cart for the master? In fact, some of our friends are like the cow named Sagiuka, who has done something for you, and you have to repay it well, otherwise he will get rid of you and leave you like the cow.

However, there is also a lion named Pinglaka living in this forest. Pingraka was so pleased with his new life in this forest that he waltzed excitedly and roared loudly. One day, Pingraka and the other animals came to the Gamna River to drink. At that moment, the lion heard the terrible roar of the bull. After a moment of panic, the lion hurried into the forest, and sat among the other animals, wondering in fear what it was roaring.

Realizing that their king was frightened, two jackals, one named Canodaka and the other Damanaka, the sons of two ministers who had been dismissed, wondered what had happened to their king.

Damanaka asked, "What could happen to the King of the Forest?"

"Why should we pull our noses to care about things that have nothing to do with us? Haven't you heard the story of the monkey pulling the wedge of a log?" asked Damanaka.

This is obviously a mentality of not caring about everything, hanging high. What do we think of our friends when we need help from others and turn a blind eye or don't care about them?

"It sounds interesting," he said. Why don't you let me tell you what the hell happened to the monkey?"

"Well, then listen to my story," said Damanaka, and began to tell the story of the monkey and the log: a merchant who began to build a temple under a tree on the outskirts of the town. Carpenters and workers had to go to the town every day for lunch. However, on this day, a group of wandering monkeys came to the scene. A carpenter saws a log and sandwiches a wedge between the two halves of the log that has been sawn, so as to separate the log, and the timber is sawn. But he left without sawing the logs.

The monkeys began to play carefree in the high places in the trees. But a poor monkey, who seemed destined not to live long, sat down on the opening of the sawn log, put his legs in the sawn hole, and pulled out the wedge between the tears with his hands, and the crack closed suddenly.

Behold, the wedge was suddenly pulled out, and the half-sawn logs were quickly merged. The monkey's legs were caught in the middle by a combined log split.

The monkey died instantly.

The wise man said: A person who interferes in the affairs of others is destined to be miserable.

The story seems to provide convincing evidence that more is better than less. But can friends do that? If you hide away from your friend when you see him in trouble, will you still be treated as a friend by others? But there are some things that are as risky as we just said. If nothing else, let's take driving as an example, a friend helps you drive for your errands, and he gets into a car accident, how to explain this and how to deal with it? Because he doesn't help you get out of the car, there won't be a car accident.

Our ancients always valued their friends very seriously, such as Liu Bei, Guan Yu and Zhang Fei's Taoyuan Three Knots; Boya and the high mountains and rivers in the sub-period, which are difficult to find; Lin Xiangru and Lian Po's "pawn and joy are friends who are neck-to-neck." It is even said, "A wife is like a garment, and a friend is like an arm." ”

Perhaps the ancients regarded friends as very important, so that the word friend is very dignified in our feelings, but in modern daily life, friends do not seem to be so important, neither the kind of bosom friends are difficult to find and the friends of the neck, nor the kind of pride and heroism that does not seek to be born in the same year, the same month, and the same day, but only to die in the same year, the same month, and the same day. So, what we often hear is the story:

Tall and Thin and Humpty Dumpty are very good friends, and one day they go hiking together. Suddenly, they met a big black bear and roared at them. The tall and thin man was in a hurry to get wise, and he climbed a tree, but the short man was too fat to climb up. Humpty Dumpty begged the tall man and said, "Brother, pull me up and let me climb up too." "No, you're too fat, and if I pull you, I'll fall down and let the bear eat you." The tall man climbed up as he spoke, and climbed higher and higher. Seeing the big black bear roaring and rushing towards him, Humpty Dumpty was so frightened that he lay down on the ground. The big black bear pounced and touched Humpty Dumpty with his nose, and Humpty Dumpty quickly held his breath and did not dare to move. The bear sniffed at him for a while, but there was no movement, and the bear thought Humpty Dumpty was dead, and wandered around for a while before leaving. Because bears don't eat dead animals. When the big black bear was gone, the tall man climbed down the tree and said to his short friend, "Oh, you're lucky to have survived." The bear smells around you, as if it were talking to you, what does it say to you?" said Humpty Dumpty, "The bear told me never to travel with the kind of person who cares only about himself, whether his friends live or die. With that, he left alone.

There are also stories of this kind, such as one evening, when a sheep was playing alone on a hillside, and suddenly a wolf came out of the trees to eat the sheep, and the sheep jumped up, desperately resisted with its horns, and cried out to its friends for help. The ox glanced at the place in the bushes, saw that it was a wolf, and ran away with its hooves raised. The horse looked down and saw that it was a wolf, and ran away in a puff of smoke, and the donkey stopped, found that it was a wolf, and quietly slipped down the hillside. The pig passed by here, found that it was a wolf, and rushed down the hillside. When the rabbit heard this, he left like an arrow. The dog at the foot of the hill heard the cry of the sheep, hurried uphill, flashed out of the grass, and bit the wolf's neck, and the wolf barked in pain, and fled in panic while the dog was breathing. When I got home, my friends came, and the cow said, "Why don't you tell me?" The horse said, "Why don't you tell me?" My hooves can kick a wolf in the head. The donkey said, "Why don't you tell me?" I roared and scared the wolf. The pig said, "Why don't you tell me?" I arched my mouth and let it fall down the hill. The rabbit said, "Why don't you tell me?" I can run fast and send a message. In this noisy group, there were no dogs. Revelation about friendship: True friendship is not rhetoric, but the hand that pulls you at a critical moment.

We should admit that everyone is selfish and hopes that others should always keep their own good in mind and be ready to reciprocate at any time, while their own good to others is quickly forgotten. Therefore, some people always feel that others owe themselves, fail themselves, or even betray themselves, but they don't remember the favors and favors of others. In fact, whether it is for friends or others, we should be more grateful and grateful. In this way, the friendship between friends can be more harmonious and strong.

There are two friends traveling in the desert, and the two friends often quarrel because the road is not smooth. After a big fight, one person slapped the other in the face. The person who was beaten felt insulted, and he did not say a word, but wrote on the sand: "Today my good friend slapped me. Because of this slap, they no longer quarreled as before, but continued to walk together. Finally, one day they came out of the desert and came to a fertile field, full of green mountains and green waters, and they decided to stay for a few days. The man who was beaten slipped his foot while wading through the creek and fell into the water and almost drowned, but fortunately was rescued by a friend. After being rescued, he took a knife and carved a sentence on the stone, "Today my good friend saved my life." His friend asked curiously, "Why do you write it in the sand after I hit you, and now you have to engrave it in stone?" The man who carved the inscription smiled and replied, "When you are hurt by a friend, write it on the sand, and the wind will be responsible for erasing it, but if you are rescued by your friend, you should write it in stone, and no wind or rain can wipe it out." ”

In fact, this is often the case between friends and with others. When you are in danger, your friend will stand up for you or draw a sword to help, but in the face of ordinary interests, he may fight with you openly and secretly. I've been in this situation before. It was when I was in the second year of junior high school, and my inseparable friend rescued me from the deep water during a swim. Otherwise, I'll die. However, at that time, we were very tired of a male classmate in the class chasing a female classmate, so we often got together to talk about him. So, someone said that we were doing a clique and sued us to the teacher. At that time, it was during the Cultural Revolution, and forming a small clique was a very serious incident. As soon as the teacher heard that we were running a small clique and that the matter was serious, he reported the matter to the school. The school sent someone to our class to investigate, and asked the students to report and expose each other. Originally, this friend of mine was the head of our gang, but he colluded with everyone to report that I was the one who took the lead. Because he saved my life, I insisted on not betraying him, so the school dealt with me as the leader of a small group. At that time, the whole country was in the period of war preparation, and our second grade was called the Second Company, and our class was called the Second Company and the Third Platoon. So, I first inspected the platoon, and then in front of about 300 people from the seven platoons of the whole company. And my sister is in the second row and five rows. It can be said that that incident was the most humiliating of my life. Since then, I have ignored that friend. I don't think his character is good. However, I am still grateful to him in my heart, otherwise I would not be alive today.

We all live in society, we need to huddle together for warmth, we need to help each other, we need to comfort each other, and we need to share happiness. We can't live without friends. Because friends are a guitar in happy days, playing the joy of life for you to the fullest, and friends are a spring breeze in sad days, gently brushing away the gloom clouds in your heart for you. Friends are a good teacher on the road to success, enthusiastically leading you to the sunny zone, friends are a bright light in the bitterness of failure, silently driving away the haze of your soul for you.

Getting along with friends is also an art. The ancients said that the friendship of a gentleman is as light as water, and the friendship of a villain is sweet. However, if the friendship between friends is really as light as water, then it is easy to have clear water and no fish, and clear people and no friends. In fact, the more friends make friends, the deeper their feelings, and the weaker their feelings, the more rusty they become, and they will no longer communicate with each other over time. Therefore, we can see that those buddies who come and go to eat and drink are very strong, and those scholars and literati have relatively few friends. But no matter whether it is light or bitter, friends should be sincere and selfless, warm and generous, modest and prudent, mutual respect, helpful, and close as brothers. Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, their own strengths and weaknesses, but as long as two people treat each other sincerely, help each other, understand and tolerate each other, then, they can become true friends. (To be continued.) )