Marriage of Love and Freedom Zhang Baotong 2016.6.2

Love is the most precious and wonderful emotion in our lives. Whenever we see and read a beautiful and moving love story, we will be moved to sigh and cover our tears. In contrast, we feel that our love is mediocre and bland, as if we can't be moved at all.

Yes, love in reality is completely different from love in fiction or on screen. Love in fiction and on screen is fiction. In order to achieve the purpose of touching, the author will try his best to render the atmosphere, shape the characters, make the storyline ups and downs, and let people's imagination expand infinitely. In real life, our environment, people, and thinking are limited to a certain range. If you go beyond that, then you are out of touch with reality, and you feel that you can't move an inch and you can't achieve anything. We can imagine what would happen to Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai, Romeo and Juliet in our real life?

In fact, love itself is a part of our ordinary life, just like a glass of cold boiled water. When you're not thirsty, it looks bland, but when you're thirsty, it's sweet. It's not like in a novel or on the screen, one moment it will make you cry, the next it will surprise you. As the saying goes, "Kindness and love are duty, and plain is true." "Although we love the ups and downs of love stories, we want our love and marriage to be sincere, simple, and stable. And love and plainness will be stable and long-lasting.

But a plain and stable marriage can sometimes make us feel tired and bored, and make us yearn for the Western-style marriage model. In Western society, marriage and love are like two friends together, maintaining a relatively independent state, sharing each other's happiness and freedom. When the spring is not there and the honeymoon is over, the two living together is no longer a symbol of love, and even causes pain to each other, so they break up and say goodbye freely.

However, can two people who love each other find new love after they divorce, and many emotions and lovers will not feel precious until you lose her. When winter turns to spring, and the time and feelings of love germinate and rekindle in the heart, can the scars of pain and regret be healed again? When two people do not love or divorce, sometimes it is not the fault of either party, but the psychology of human beings themselves who like the new and dislike the old and think of different things is worshipping. Mistakes in marriage are a regular thing, and they can be cured just like the diseases of our body, so don't say goodbye lightly until love really dies.

The concept of love and marriage in Western countries is relatively loose and romantic, so their divorce rate remains high, and many people have been divorced several times. The famous American movie star Elizabeth Taylor has been married eight times. This is simply unbelievable in our country. And marriage and divorce require a certain cost and financial resources, and most of us Chinese do not have such financial resources. In particular, divorce can sometimes lead to the other party's lack of livelihood, so that the children cannot be raised normally and receive a good education, and so on. None of these factors can be left untaken into account, because sometimes responsibility is more important than emotion. Therefore, divorce is not an easy thing for Chinese. Chinese and foreigners also face the same problems of marriage and love, but most Chinese will not divorce because of emotional problems like foreigners, because the environment and conditions do not allow them to make such decisions lightly.

So, some people thought that we could not get divorced, but if only we could marry four wives like ****** brothers. But again, the problem arises, four wives will have four parents-in-law and their families, not to mention whether you have the energy to deal with such a complicated situation, let's just say that these four wives and a large group of children, can you afford to raise them? God is like this, he will give you a spear, he will also give you a shield, he will give you some benefits, but he will also give you some trouble. Marriage and love have always been a major cause of people's emotional life, and for thousands of years, it has been like this, and no one has many good tricks.

Love and freedom in marriage are sometimes seen as a contradiction, like a two-choice answer: if you want to love, you can't be free, or if you want to be free, don't get married. However, marriage, love, and freedom are all civil rights that we have. No one loses their freedom for the sake of marriage and love, and no one gives up love and marriage for the sake of freedom. So the three should not become a contradiction. We are married to love someone and live with him or her. The two are together to love each other, live together and grow better, not to confine and bind each other. To give freedom to a loved one is to give him trust, and if you can't even give freedom to the person you love the most, then who else can you give freedom? The practice of treating the other person as a canary to nurture and restrict is an immoral and irrational practice, and an immoral and irrational practice can easily lead to the death of love and the dissolution of marriage.

But this freedom may be limited and constrained, that is, you can't do things that make the other person unhappy and unhappy, such as you could chase other girls before marriage, but you can't now, for example, you liked to smoke before marriage, but now for the sake of her health and feelings, you better not smoke. Because marriage and love do not belong to one or the other, the habits and feelings of both must be taken into account at the same time.

People fall in love and marry in order to live better and be happier. Therefore, we should be kind to marriage, be kind to love, and help and love each other through marriage and love to make our minds more mature and make our lives richer and better.