Psychological Balance, Zhang Baotong, 2018.9.

Man is the master of this world, so people's joys, sorrows and sorrows are very important to this world. From ordinary quarrels and quarrels, to sudden changes in the situation and wars, all of which are the cause of joy, anger, sorrow, and happiness. The reason for people's joy, anger and sorrow is often due to psychological imbalance. This shows how important mental balance is to people.

Recently, Nobel laureate Elizabeth and others have summed up a way of longevity in life, that is, in the life expectancy of people, the role of reasonable diet accounts for 25%, others account for 25%, and the role of psychological balance accounts for 50%. "The Yellow Emperor's Neijing" also says: "All diseases are born from anger." Anger is angry, joy is slow, sadness is angry, shock is angry, and labor is exhausted", therefore, Chinese medicine has the saying that "treating the disease first heals the heart". Moreover, modern medicine has found that 65%-90% of human diseases such as cancer, arteriosclerosis, hypertension, peptic ulcer, and menstrual irregularities are related to psychological depression. You can see how important mental balance is.

Mental balance is easy to say, but it is not easy to achieve. Otherwise, there are always so many people in society who have so much resentment, there are always people quarreling in the family and work, and even there are constant conflicts between countries.

Two days ago, when I was taking a taxi, the driver suddenly asked me, "What do you think of this society?" and I said, "That's good." He interrupted me and said, "Okay, okay." I was stunned and asked, "Why do you think it's bad?" He told me that his family was in the countryside of Baoji, and he came out to drive a taxi for others, and only earned more than 4,000 yuan a month, but the children went to school in the city for tens of thousands, and a family of three rented a house in the city, and the rent alone cost 500, so they were nervous every month, and they didn't even dare to get sick, and they had to spend hundreds of dollars to get sick. Life is so stressful.

Hearing this, I said to him, "Although you are a migrant worker in the city, your standard of living is compared to that of the middle class in the city. The average salary in Xi'an was 2,070 the year before last, but you earned more than 4,000, which is the standard of the middle class in Xi'an. If you think that the nearby primary school is not good, you will have to spend a lot of money if you want to go to a good school. It's not just you, it's just us. ”

Hearing this, he fell silent, and then I said to him, "A peasant cannot be compared with a city man, just as a worker cannot be compared with a bureau chief." Take our railway unit as an example, the salary of ordinary workers is 3,000 or 4,000 yuan, but the section chief not only has a monthly salary of more than 4,000 yuan, but also an annual salary of 200,000 yuan. If this is the case, who will be able to balance their psychology? If Duan Chang were to be compared with the chairmen of those state-owned banks with annual salaries of several million yuan, would he also feel very unbalanced?"

People's psychological balance is mainly determined by their own mentality and life values, and the main reason for breaking this psychological balance is the contrast between each other. For example, before the reform and opening up, we lived in peace and stability for many years, but after the reform and opening up began, we saw that Western countries were so rich and developed, and then we found that our life was so poor. Another example is that in the past, everyone was used to their poor life for many years, but suddenly some people became rich and became 10,000 yuan or 1 million yuan households, and people's psychology was unbalanced.

Let me give you another example: in the past, I was in charge of the teacher ethics assessment in the school, and the teacher ethics assessment score accounted for 20 points of the teacher's total assessment. The assessment is conducted by the mutual evaluation of teachers and the scoring of members of the administrative team. Every month, individual teachers will be deducted 0.2 or 0.5 points from their moral score. If you cash in the performance pay, you will only deduct three or five dimes at most. However, because everyone else has a perfect score, but I am not a perfect score, some teachers always come to me crying and ask me why I deducted their points. Once, a female teacher was deducted 0.2 points, first crying and running to me, then to the principal, and finally calling her husband to threaten me to make me clear. But how could I tell her who deducted her points? To say that this 0.2 points is really insignificant, but because compared with other teachers, everyone else is full marks, but she was deducted points, so she feels very psychologically unbalanced.

Most of the psychological imbalances are caused by contrast. The same was true of the taxi driver, who felt that he had a hard day driving, while the people in the city could easily live more comfortably than he did. However, he saw most of the prosperity and comfort of the city people, but he did not think that there were many poor people in the city, and their lives were even poorer and more helpless than him. In fact, most of us should be less than the top and more than the bottom. For there are many people who are richer and better than us, and there are not a few who are more difficult and miserable than us. However, people always like to compare themselves with those who are richer and better off than themselves, but rarely compare themselves with those who are not as good as themselves. Human psychological imbalance is the result of seeing others give less than oneself and gain more.

However, there is no such thing as absolute fairness in the world, and differences and injustices of all kinds can be seen everywhere. Some units work easily and comfortably, with a monthly salary of seven or eight thousand yuan, but some units are so tired and tired that they only get two or three thousand yuan a month. Peasants can only earn 5,000 or 6,000 yuan a year by working hard and working hard all year round, but people in the city can earn 3,000 or 4,000 yuan a month if they find a job to do. Who do you go to reason with this difference and injustice?

At the same time, people are easily confused by superficial phenomena and do not look at the essence of things. For example, a sufferer feels that he is not as well paid as a doctor, but he ignores the hardships and hardships that doctors had to endure before becoming doctors, and that the work of doctors is itself full of challenges and toil. A worker thinks that the boss can easily make a lot of money by sitting there all day, but he does not think about the difficulties and risks of the company's operation.

In fact, every family has a difficult scripture, and everyone has troublesome things. Nurses feel that their work is dirty and tiring and their status is too low; teachers feel that students are difficult to manage and are too demanding; when workers feel that their wages are too low and they work too much overtime; and that civil servants feel that their work is boring and boring and has no new ideas. Even in their own homes, they often quarrel and quarrel because it's time for you to brush the pot today, and tomorrow it's my turn to cook. Because everyone wants to get as much as they can and give as little as possible.

The division of labor and the benefits of society are all set by people, and the people who set the rules and prices are not likely to think about it perfectly, only roughly the same. Even if it's perfectly thought out, you won't feel perfect, because everyone will have their own opinions and preferences about every rule and price. At the same time, there is also market regulation.

If you can be happy and content, there is not much difference between earning 100 yuan a day and earning 150 yuan, and it will not affect our mood and quality of life. If you don't have the right mentality, you will earn 150 yuan a day, but when you compare yourself with others and see that others earn 160 yuan a day, you will still feel psychologically unbalanced and feel that you have suffered a loss.

There is no end to man's desires and desires, just as standing on this mountain will look at that mountain higher. That's right, because there are mountains outside the mountains, and it's only natural that a mountain is taller than a mountain. However, our lives and abilities are limited, and there will always be many people with high hearts and low lives beyond our strength. Therefore, our desires and desires cannot go beyond the reality in front of us. After all, there are only a few people who can really live an enviable and prosperous life. And the vast majority of people are going to live the life of ordinary people. And there is nothing bad about the life of ordinary people. Although the basic level of daily life is not high, it is peaceful and content. In this way, your mind will be calm and balanced, and you will not be surprised by the gains and disgraces of life. When you are calm and balanced, your worries and worries will be gone, and you will be able to live a healthy and happy life. Isn't this the greatest happiness and joy in life?

Think about how many people in the world are missing arms and feet, how many are blind and deaf, how many are bankrupt and bankrupt, how many are homeless, how many are sick and incurable, how many are worse than death, how many are poor and helpless, and how many are still in the midst of war. How lucky we are compared to them!

Think about it again: How many people in the world have sacrificed their rich and noble lives for the sake of world peace and tranquility; how many people have done good deeds all their lives and devoted their limited lives to serving the people unlimitedly; how many people have saved their lives and donated their life income to the country's charity; and how many people have devoted their lives to the prosperity of the country and the strength of the people without asking for anything in return.

Whenever we encounter something unfair or unpleasant, and we feel unbalanced in our hearts, we think about some people who have been planting trees on the Gobi Desert for 40 years in order to control the sandstorms; some people have spent their whole lives guarding isolated islands; some people have stayed in underwater submarines for months to protect their families and country; and some people have been enthusiastically waiting for their bedridden spouses for decades and never giving up. As long as we think about this, what will be the imbalance and unhappiness in our hearts?

Psychological balance marks the broad-mindedness and ambition of a person's mind, and marks the maturity and nobility of personality. It will surely make our lives richer and happier, more fulfilling and beautiful.

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