When making friends, you must be cautious and Zhang Baotong 20181118

Choosing friends is naturally much more important than choosing jewelry. A good friend is worth a lot of wealth, and wealth cannot be exchanged for a friend's good conduct and pure friendship. And it is this good conduct and pure friendship that makes our dealings with others pleasant and fortunate.

The ancients said: The acquaintance of people is important in knowing each other, and the acquaintance of people is precious in knowing each other. When choosing friends, you must know the roots, know your face, and associate with those who are of noble character. Such people can often become our mentors and friends, influencing our lives and behaviors. We often say "rely on your parents at home, and rely on your friends when you go out". We often leave our parents at a young age and rely on friends for most of our lives. Friends are sometimes like our own brothers, getting along day and night and taking care of each other, so the virtue and conduct of friends are very important to the growth and development of our lives.

I used to have a good friend who loved to be with me. However, when I left for the entrance examination, he was with the rest of the unit. Those people like to drink and play cards, and my friend has contracted this habit of playing cards and drinking with those people after work. As a result, before the age of 40, the person died of a sudden cerebral infarction. A friend of mine had a son who was relatively smart and honest when he was younger, but after graduating from high school, he joined the workforce and often ate and drank with a few buddies in the workplace. Once a buddy got into trouble and asked him to help, and as a result, he beat people up to serious injuries all at once. Not only did he lose his job, but he was also imprisoned for three years. This is the consequence of carelessness in making friends.

As the saying goes, those who are close to red are Zhu, and those who are close to ink are black. The story of "Meng's mother's three migrations" is enough to show that who she is with is very important. Someone once said, "It doesn't matter who you are, it's who you're with." "If you want to fly as high as an eagle, you have to fly with an eagle, not with a bird. If you want to be a giant, you can't compete with a gnome. There are two great blessings in life: one is to read good books, and the other is to make friends. A person's interests and literacy are often determined by the friends around them. This is the truth of "thrushes and sparrows have different voices, and golden roosters and crows have different nests".

A good friend is someone who is wiser and better than us, and we can be motivated by his wisdom and virtue to make our actions more noble. They have more wisdom and nobler sentiments than we do, which prompts us to constantly improve our spiritual realm and moral level. Learn from the best of others and be the best version of yourself. Borrowing the wisdom of others to achieve oneself is the way to success in life. During the Three Kingdoms, Zhou Yu brought hundreds of people to pass in front of Lusu and borrowed grain from Lusu. Lu Su had two hoards of rice at home at that time, so he borrowed one hoard of rice to Zhou Yu. Zhou Yu was very grateful to Lu Su and later recommended Lu Su to Sun Quan. In the Battle of Chibi, Lu Su fought as a military general, led the three armies, and made great contributions. In 210, Zhou Yu died of illness, and before his death, he recommended Lu Su to Sun Quan to succeed him as governor. There is also the friendship between the Tang Dynasty poet Bai Juyi and Yuan Zhen, which can be described as friends in distress. The two reunited after a long absence in Chang'an, and often talked together for a long time, chanting poems and rewarding peace. Yu Boya and Zhong Ziqi met during the Warring States Period, and the two not only became good friends, but also became bosom friends of "mountains and flowing water". However, not long after Zhong Ziqi died, Yu Bo lost his voice due to toothache, and he was so sad that he dropped his piano and vowed to never play the piano again.

In the Analects, it is said that "there must be a teacher for the threesome, choose those who are good and follow them, and change those who are not good." This means that we should not only be teachers of the good, but also of the ungood. There is a profound philosophical truth to this statement. Whether we benefit or lose friends, we will be educated. Whether it is a boyfriend or a girlfriend, it can nourish our noble or humble personality, can sublimate our conduct, and can also degenerate our souls. Although some friends are not chosen, we still have to choose our friends. Otherwise, it would be very inappropriate and irresponsible for us to interact with others at will. Making friends must have principles and goals, otherwise, blind friends will easily lead you astray.

The deeper the relationship and camaraderie with friends, the greater the influence of friends on us. This kind of friendship and affection can sometimes make people noble, make people have an angelic solemnity and sacredness, but sometimes they can also make people depraved, and make people have a kind of devilish evil. The power of a friend can powerfully save a person, or it can easily destroy a person. Therefore, making good teachers and helpful friends is to sow virtue, and what is reaped is naturally virtue. So, good friends are helping us sow virtue, while bad friends are prompting us to sow evil.