If you love her enough, Zhang Bao translated 2018.6.3

My friend John's wife, Janet, passed away not long ago. After battling cancer for 8 years, she was eventually killed by the disease.

One day, John took out a folded note from his wallet and told me that he had found it in a drawer while he was tidying up at home. This is a short love letter left by Janet before her death. The content of the note is very similar to that of a schoolgirl casually describing her dream boyfriend. Just didn't draw another red heart with the names of John and Janet written on the slip of paper. This love letter was written by a woman with seven children. And this woman is fighting for her life, and her dying day is only a few months away at most. What makes this love letter special is that it tells the touching secret to making a marriage last.

"Love me, take care of me, worry about me. This is how Janet begins to describe her husband in a love letter.

John was very caring and considerate of Janet. Sometimes when he came home from work in the evening, he would drive her to her favorite restaurant to eat when he saw Janet in the midst of the ailments that cancer patients often suffered.

"Anytime to take care of me during my illness. This is the second line of the love letter. Apparently, Janet wrote it in some frightened and calm moment after her illness, when her condition was relatively stable and would have allowed her to have a short but wonderful time. Because the pain has not yet erupted, everything is almost the same as before. But all hope in life is gone, perhaps forever.

"Always be considerate of me. ”

"Encourage me. ”

"Always praising me. And for everyone, it is a sacred obligation to give criticism. That's a good piece of advice.

"Make sure I have everything I need. She went on to write.

Then, she flipped over the back of the note and continued, "Warm, humorous, benevolent, thoughtful." She describes her husband, with whom she has lived to this day and whom she has loved dearly for most of her life, "He was there for me whenever I needed him. ”

"Friends. These are the last two words she wrote, and they are all her summations.

Right now, John is standing right in front of me, and I can't pretend not to know what it's like to have a close friend like John feel after losing a beloved wife like Janet, and I'd love to hear what he has to say.

I asked him, "John, how can you live with a woman for 36 years and still be haunted and tormented by illness? I wonder if if my wife was sick one day, and for so long, would I be able to bear it and be by her side all the time?"

He replied calmly and affirmatively, "You can, if you love her enough, you will definitely be able to do it." ”

Love Motto:

1. If you can lift and put down, it is called weightlifting, and if you can't lift it, it is called weight-bearing. It's a pity that most love is burdened.

2. Each of us lives in our own past. People will spend a minute getting to know someone, an hour falling in love with someone, and a day falling in love with someone. In the end, it will take a lifetime to forget a person.

3. Happiness is not immortality, not big fish and big meat, not power and opposition. Happiness is the fulfillment and fulfillment of every tiny wish in life. You have to eat when you want to eat, and someone to love when you want to be loved.

4. Don't forget what you once had, cherish what you can't get, don't give up what belongs to you, and keep what you have lost as a memory.