Zhang Baotong, a woman who took off her makeup, 2018.12.1

I often think of girls I once liked in my dreams and memories. These girls are not only beautiful in appearance, but also in temperament, pure, gentle, elegant, and quiet, and no matter how you look at them, you think they are very cute. Because these girls are my classmates in elementary school or middle school, I haven't seen them for more than 40 years, I really don't know what they have become now, but their youthful, beautiful and feminine appearance still remains in my heart.

However, women cannot be young forever, beautiful and feminine, they will be like silkworms shedding their skin, taking off their purity and becoming mature. In fact, mature women are also very cute. As long as they can maintain a pure and beautiful temperament and mentality.

Women generally begin to be reborn after marriage, transforming from a young girl to a woman. The most beautiful moment for a woman is at the wedding, wearing an angelic beautiful wedding dress, beautiful makeup, long flowing hair, a sweet smile on her face, and a radiant appearance, which makes the man's heart fascinated. However, after getting married, the woman began to remove her makeup. Some women begin to indulge themselves, even indulge themselves, and slowly become less pure and elegant, and even become reckless and vulgar, at this time, she is no longer so quiet and elegant, pure and lovely.

Not long ago, I went on a trip with a friend in a small van with seven or eight people, all of whom were from my friend's railway unit. Among them, there was a man who had just been divorced, and everyone asked him about his divorce. The divorced man is about forty or fifty years old, and when he talks about his ex-wife, he is full of anger and contempt. He said, "Before getting married, she was quite particular, she wore makeup every day, changed her clothes three times a day, dressed herself up all day long, spoke softly, and didn't even make a sound when eating." However, as soon as I got married, I changed, I couldn't put on makeup, I didn't change my clothes, I spoke in a rough voice, I no longer paid attention to life, I hiccuped and farted while eating. If you want to talk about her, she will say that it is her personal freedom. But she only knows her personal freedom, and she doesn't care about the feelings of others. ”

After saying this, another man took over and said, "You are still good, which is like me, you can't leave, you have to live and live badly, you are half-dead, I don't know when you can be liberated." Then he said, "My guy likes to have noodle soup in the morning and noodles for lunch and dinner. The noodles were to be boiled to a pulp, and they didn't eat vegetables, just sprinkled a handful of salt on the noodles. I told her almost every day that she couldn't eat like this, and that she would have to get sick in the long run. But she was very stubborn, saying that it was her habit and asked me to ignore it. I quarreled with me as soon as I cared about her. As a result, less than two years after getting married, she got bowel cancer, underwent major surgery, and almost died. After the operation, although my life was saved, I either caught a cold or had diarrhea for more than ten years, got sick almost every day, and went to the hospital every day, which annoyed me very much. I asked her to change her lifestyle, and she argued with me, and said confidently, 'Who can not get sick if people eat whole grains?' But who doesn't eat whole grains, but who can get sick every day like her? I think if I continue to live like her, maybe one day I will get bowel cancer, and I will have to divorce her. However, she will never leave whether she lives or dies. ”

Then, another man said, "Then you haven't met Yunchang's daughter-in-law yet, if you meet Yunchang's daughter-in-law, I don't think you will be able to survive a day." You didn't listen to Yunchang, just because she was lazy and rude, and she didn't manage and cook well, you knew that you were going to divorce her by playing cards all day long. She refused to leave, so she cut her wrist, and took the knife to cut Yunchang's wrist, saying that she would die with Yunchang. was so scared that Yunchang didn't dare to divorce her anymore. Before she could finish saying this, someone immediately said, "That woman is a shrew, and when she played cards in the mahjong parlor, some people said that she was cheating and cheating, but she didn't say anything, so she splashed a cup of tea on people's faces." ”

If you want to talk about the presumptuousness and rudeness of women, I'm afraid everyone will have a different impression. Once, when I was out on the bus, I heard two middle-aged women scolding and arguing together. The two didn't know who was squeezing whom, and it developed from a quarrel to a curse. One of the two is from Shaanxi and the other is from Henan, and the scolding words are more ugly than the other, and even use words like "let you give X to a man". Let the men in the car blush when they hear it, and make the women in the car feel their hearts beat when they hear it. I really learned that if a woman spoils a woman, it is much more vicious and vicious than a man spoiling a woman. Another time, a middle-aged man and a young woman got into an argument at the market. As they scrambled, women scolded men, and men began to scold women. The more they scolded, the more fierce they became, and they both attacked each other with the most vicious and vicious swear words. The young woman felt that she had suffered a loss, and it was a slap in the face to the man. When the man saw that the woman had done it first, and hit him in the face, he threw down the food in his hand, so he rushed over to hit the woman, but fortunately he was stopped by everyone.

Usually, the women we see are always neatly dressed, gentle and decent, so we always have a good impression of women, thinking that they are gentle and elegant, amiable and lovely, so we are willing to let them in everything and everywhere, and are willing to help them when they are in trouble. We even think that wives are good for others. However, one thing changed my mind. I have a neighbor who dresses himself up all day long, dancing here and there. However, one evening, when I went shopping at the mall, I passed by the square in front of the mall and saw her hysterically scolding the police. The reason is that the police got a report from the mall and did not allow them to square dance here. So, the police went over and persuaded them to leave. However, she led everyone not only did not leave, but scolded the police to the point of blood. At that time, I was very surprised, thinking that this woman usually seemed to be very cultivated, but she was so fierce when she scolded people.

Sometimes, I really can't figure out why a woman has so much loveliness when she is young, or before she gets married, why she casually discards it after marriage. Isn't that cuteness precious to them? But men fall in love with them because they have those lovely qualities. Perhaps it is because marriage has left them from the strict control of their parents and made them feel more freedom, so they do not want to continue to restrain and limit themselves.

Actually, what woman doesn't have all the faults? But they can't be shown casually. This is the essential difference between a good woman and a bad woman. This year, I went back to my hometown to attend a class reunion, and my classmates hadn't seen each other for more than 40 years. There is a female classmate who impressed me deeply, although she is retired, she still maintains the innocence and atmosphere of her student days, likes to read, pursues beauty, has a gentle tone, rigorous manners, and her figure and appearance still retain the style of the past. On the contrary, another female classmate made me feel that I had changed too much. She smokes and drinks, is obsessed with mahjong, speaks in a rough voice, and opens her mouth to make money come and go, which makes people sound very disgusted.

A woman should make people look like flowers, whether it is a blooming flower or a withered residual flower, it should make people have a sense of beauty. If a woman has a flower mentality, she will take care of herself and pay attention to self-care. This kind of maintenance has the appearance and figure, but also the quality and soul. You need to eat reasonably, keep exercising, dress appropriately, be full of vitality, and you also need to study and cultivate your mind, and love beauty and progress. It is a charismatic project that requires a lot of perseverance to maintain and complete.

Everyone has a love for beauty. There is no woman who does not love beauty, and if she loves beauty, she must treat herself as a flower in the garden, and she must prune, tidy up, and dress it up every day, so that she can love herself like a garden full of spring, and let others love it. Why do some women become disgusting and unbearable at a young age? And some women still make people feel respectful and lovely even if they are not young. This is because some people have lost the mentality of flowers, while some people have always maintained the color of beauty.

Don't think that you are no longer a girl, you can let yourself go, and don't think that you can be desperate in front of your own man. Your every move and smile will leave a different impression and feeling on others. So, don't let your every move and smile change and ruin the good impression and feeling that others have of you. The relaxation and sinking of life begins with this move and a smile. Don't think that men are careless, don't think that men don't care, because feeling beauty and hating ugliness are everyone's natural feelings. It's like people want to soak in clean air and avoid polluted air.

Look at the French woman, who also pursues beauty and romance when she dies, and look at the Japanese woman, who never lets go in front of men. Some people think it has something to do with a person's cultural literacy. In fact, it has nothing to do with a person's culture, but is closely related to a person's family environment, ideological understanding and self-feeling, as well as the perception of beauty and the desire for beauty. Sometimes a rural girl will do a better job than a university teacher.

Men can't like the new and hate the old, let alone see different ideas. In fact, most men don't want to take this risk, and as a woman, you can't give them that opportunity. Husbands and wives are in the same room, getting along day and night, and some things are difficult to hide and avoid. But as a woman, you still can't be laissez-faire and casual. There are some things that can be done in the presence of men, and they have to be avoided. This requires women to leave a space for themselves to live and study, and also for men to leave some space for life and study. Let men know what you can't tolerate and dislike, and be clear about what men can't tolerate and dislike.

Both men and women will make mistakes, but they need to be able to tolerate and understand each other. When a man and a woman love each other and become a family, they accept each other, including each other's strengths and weaknesses, and each other's good and ugly. However, mistakes and ugliness can only be made by chance, not the norm. That would be intolerable. Life may be uneventful, but it can't be upsetting. Life may not be perfect, but try to maintain a state of beauty and awareness. Therefore, in the love of the two, the two should be happy and attracted to each other, don't let those ugliness run out of the locked cage, and don't let it become a wild horse that escapes from your control.

A woman will only attract a man's attention if she dresses herself up to the eye. This is a manifestation of a woman's self-love and a dedication to a man. The more beautiful you dress, the more men will love you. For you are pleasing to him, to pleasing him.

The ancients said: Women are pleasing to those who have been pleased. And men are the most moved and moved by the beauty of women. If you are beautiful, don't say that men will treat you as a baby, even if you go to the soup and fire. So, don't say that a man doesn't love you and want to divorce you, but take a good look at whether you have lost your desire and desire to love beauty. If you don't, if a man doesn't love you and wants to divorce you, it's a man's stupidity. Because a woman's beauty is precious. And beautiful women are even more difficult to find, one in a thousand.

Therefore, women must know how to dress up and beautify themselves, and at the same time, they must also know how to maintain a beautiful face when removing makeup, so as not to make men feel like you have changed a person, and this person does not look like the woman he has loved at all.