The starting line of life, Zhang Baotong 2018.1.21

There are many factors for a person's success, including time, place, people and factors, as well as his own talent, personality and family background, that is, the combination of objective environment and subjective will. Survival of the fittest, survival of the fittest. This is the law of biological evolution. Maybe you adapt to the school environment and your academic performance will be excellent. However, you may not be able to adapt to the workplace environment, and you will encounter a lot of trouble. There are many people who are highly talented students in school, and who have worked in the unit for decades and are still clerks. I have been in educational institutions for more than 10 years, and most of the leaders of the institutions and departments are college students or undergraduates who have studied in party schools, while many of those highly talented students who have graduated from regular colleges and universities are still working as staff members in the departments. Some of the people who entered the organs from the station workshop and elementary school teachers became section chiefs at the age of 24 or 5, while some highly talented students in colleges and universities are still working as section members when they are about to retire. Because the higher the level of professionalism, the more people value professionalism and less on interpersonal relationships. In the unit, if you don't understand interpersonal relationships, no matter how high your professional level is, you won't be promoted.

Obviously, the environment and requirements in society and workplaces are completely different from those in schools. In school, students are trained to follow the rules and follow the rules. And what is sometimes needed in society and in the workplace is to take risks and break the rules. For example, if you send a weak scholar to outwit Weihu Mountain, you will 100% fail. And if you want to send a tiger hero to go undercover in the military aircraft of the national army, I'm afraid it will also be inappropriate. I can give you an example of this. I've taught thousands of students in high school, middle school, and elementary school, to say the least. However, it was not those who were admitted to graduate school and studied abroad that mixed the best, nor those who had served as class presidents or league secretaries, but the students who gave me the most headaches. I met him when I was teaching in the second year of junior high school, and he had already stayed two levels in the second year of junior high school. Originally, the school generally does not allow him to repeat grades, but because some teachers do not want him to be promoted to the third grade of junior high school, because the third grade of junior high school will face the high school entrance examination, they are afraid that he will affect the classroom discipline and promotion grades of the third grade of junior high school.

This child's family is relatively bad, his father is a stevedore at Xi'an West Railway Station, and his mother has been running away with others for many years. His father usually didn't care about him, but whenever something bad happened, he would beat him with a belt. This child didn't study at all, but his father was afraid that he would learn badly if he stayed in society, so he put him in school. Not only did he not study in the church, but he always tried to disrupt the class and deliberately make the teacher angry. If he could sit in the back seat and play poker with his table mates without making noise in any class, it would really make the teacher feel that the sun was coming out of the west. Therefore, the teacher often coaxes him out of class, and he has to find someone to accompany him, otherwise, he is bored outside alone, and he will make trouble with you in front of the class door and make you uneasy.

Later, he graduated from junior high school and worked as a temporary worker in his father's unit, pulling and delivering goods on three wheels to other customers. Later, units engaged in a contract system, and they had to contract out the vehicles and personnel for transporting goods to individuals to operate. At that time, because of the fear of losing money, no one dared to take this risk and was willing to contract. However, this kid was bold and reckless, took the initiative to contract, and pulled up a pole. As a result, more than ten years later, he started by pedaling a tricycle and became the big boss of a company with dozens of trucks and hundreds of employees, and the company's assets are tens of millions. To say that the most important starting line in his life should be at the time when the unit contracted, but no one raced and competed with him at that time. Therefore, he ran smoothly in front, made a fortune, and became a big boss. And those who study well and are admitted to university can only be hired as employees in his company. It can be said that current events have made him, and opportunities have made him.

Is there a starting line in life? Sometimes there is, sometimes it doesn't. After graduating from university, one of the two highly talented students in the same class was assigned to the Ministry of Education and the other was assigned to a mountain school. The teacher who was assigned to the mountainous area struggled all his life and never left the mountainous area. The classmate who was assigned to the Ministry of Education later became an official of the Ministry of Education. The two of them had the same starting line in college, but the starting line after graduation was very different. One ran to the mountains, and the other went to the top. There are also people who have worked in a position all their lives and are still clerks, but some people have just been in the first year or two and become their bosses and leaders. This phenomenon of coming from behind and coming first has made the starting line a virtual reality.

Looking at the overall situation of life, more than 98% of people belong to the grassroots public, and elites can be said to be very few. And even these elites don't necessarily win at the starting line. Therefore, we don't need to take the phrase "don't let your child lose at the starting line" too seriously. The reason I say this is to make parents aware that children are not a waste of time when they play. Maybe he's imagining, maybe he's looking for happiness, and imagining and finding happiness is an indispensable part of a child's development. Let them learn to recognize things, learn life skills, and learn interpersonal relationships from play and pleasure. This is very important for their future growth. Western education has always encouraged children to learn to play and learn to imagine, which is very important for cultivating children's imagination, sensibility and creativity. Moreover, a childhood without happiness is very detrimental to a person's growth, he does not feel happy, hates learning, is not interested in anything, feels that life has no meaning. People do not live for the sake of learning, but through learning to enrich and make their lives richer and happier.

However, many of us were unhappy in our childhoods, burdened by heavy schoolbags and schoolwork, memorizing many poems, memorizing many formulas, taking many classes, doing many questions, and writing many words. And it's all rote memorization and reinforcement training, so many of our kids are almost going to be machines. In this regard, we can think about why the professors who teach writing in prestigious universities can't write classics? Because they don't have such rich experiences and tribulations, they don't have such rich emotions and imagination. Rich experiences, feelings, and imagination are definitely much more important than being able to memorize hundreds of Tang and Song poems and make a lot of mathematical problems.

Knowledge is something that can be learned and mastered at any time, but the joy of childhood is irreparable. However, our schools and parents are always afraid that their children will not be able to learn this or that, and they keep instilling all kinds of knowledge in their children. Nowadays, children start learning English in kindergarten, in elementary school, in middle school, and in college. In this way, how many times do children learn English, and how much time and energy should be wasted on such repetitive learning, and how much mental burden does it add to children?

I remember that we started learning English in high school, but I didn't like English, so I didn't study it well, and after high school, I could barely write all 24 letters. Later, when I was in the teacher college, I took the Chinese major, but I don't know how the school assigned me to the English major. At that time, my English level was very poor, and I didn't even know the International Phonetic Alphabet, but I got up early and went to bed late, and I was desperately angry, and in only half a year, my academic performance caught up with most of my classmates. Later, I was admitted to the National Normal University for an undergraduate.

For many of us, the major you study in college is not the same major you will use when you work in the future. But it doesn't matter much. As long as you put your mind to it, you can learn it quickly. For example, I was transferred from middle school to the Education Commission and was in charge of news reporting, but I didn't know anything about news reporting, so I read a few newspapers and started to contribute to the newspaper. In many cases, you don't know where your next starting line is, but as long as you have the willingness to forge ahead, a healthy body and tenacious perseverance, good at running, and self-improvement, no matter where the starting line is located, we can run our own lives, and every good start will become a good start for our success in life.

"Don't let your child lose at the starting line", as a concept that allows parents to pay attention to their children's education, it should be right, but this starting line is not to force children to desperately recite poems, learn pinyin, learn arithmetic, learn English, or learn to play the piano, learn to sing and learn to paint, but according to the child's age characteristics and hobbies, moderate guidance and enlightenment. Let children have a good childhood and emotions, and have a good body and habits. In this way, he will not lose at the starting line at any time.