What parents should give their children Zhang Baotong 2016.12.26

Chinese parents have a very heavy heart for their children, and they spend their money on their children when they are alive. Even before he died, he hated to leave a mountain www.biquge.info of gold or a treasury to his children, so that his children and grandchildren could live a prosperous and prosperous life. However, contrary to your wishes, even if you leave them a treasury of gold, how many of them will be able to get rich for three generations? It is easy to fight the country, but it is difficult to sit on the country, and it is easy to break the wealth and accumulate wealth. If your sons and daughters don't value the wealth you left behind, they can be ruined overnight.

A person's life is a life process, and it is also a process of accumulating wealth. Most people can only make ends meet for the rest of their lives, and at most they can leave a dilapidated house for their children. Only those who are shrewd and able have made a fortune through frugality and ingenuity, and have become rich or rich. Some even become high-ranking officials or magnates. You can leave a huge fortune to your children. This is what we call the "second generation of officials" and the "second generation of rich" today. Whether these "second generation officials" and "rich second generation" can continue the property and wealth they inherited from their parents depends on their morality. However, judging from the historical changes in China over the past thousands of years, historians have summed up an incisive sentence, that is, "no more than three generations of wealth".

The Tang Dynasty poet Liu Yuxi wrote in "Wuyi Lane": Wild grass and flowers by the Vermilion Bird Bridge, and the sunset at the mouth of Wuyi Lane. In the old days, Wang Xie Tang Qianyan flew into the homes of ordinary people. This is a nostalgic poem. Relying on the prosperity of the Zhuque Bridge on the Qinhuai River in Nanjing and the Wuyi Lane on the south bank during the Eastern Jin Dynasty. Wuyi Lane was originally the place where the nobles of the Six Dynasties lived, the most prosperous, now the famous Vermilion Bird Bridge is overgrown with weeds, and there are no cars and horses in and out of Wuyi Lane, only the sunset obliquely shines on the deep wall of the past. Feeling the vicissitudes of life, life is changeable. Wuyi Lane is not only a place where high-ranking officials and giants gather, but also a place where the "second generation of officials" and "rich second generation" gather. These eunuchs and the children of rich families spend all day drinking, drunk and dreaming of death, and they do not learn and have no skills. Therefore, with the sudden change of the times or the change of dynasties, these eunuchs and the children of rich families have no basis for life. The atmosphere of wealth and prosperity disappeared immediately. This is the true portrayal of "no more than three generations of wealth".

A person can have a lot of wealth, no matter how wise and great he is, but his life is only a few decades. When you die, you have to give your property to your children to inherit. However, it is difficult to say whether his children will still be as thrifty and shrewd in their finances as he is. Because his children may not have experienced the hardships of poverty and entrepreneurship like him, the rich and prosperous life since childhood has made them stretch out their hands and eat their mouths, how can they appreciate the hardships of life and the difficulty of wealth coming from?

The same is not true of many of China's royal dynasties. The founding emperor was born and died, and he fought a hundred battles to defeat the country, but which one of them was not defeated by their children and grandchildren? There are also those great writers, great artists, great poets, and scholars, whose talents and talents are so profound, but their children and grandchildren are mediocre and ordinary. Because their talents and talents cannot be inherited. Even if you can inherit those genes of talent, you can't inherit the genes of diligence. And a person's success and success mainly depend on hard work, not talent.

This determines that a person or a family cannot rely on the bequest of elders or ancestors to become rich for a long time. For example, Jorge Guino, one of the "three losers in the world", became the richest man in Brazil at that time after inheriting an inheritance of $2 billion after his father's death. However, due to excessive profligacy and lack of planning for the future, Jore spent the last 15 years of his life living in a small apartment in a remote neighborhood, living on government career grants until his death. The other two famous losers were Howard Hughes, a wealthy American businessman, and Onassis, a Greek ship king. They're all money-spender dudes. They used their own examples to warn the world that no matter how much money they have, they can spend it in their lifetime. However, when Onassis was dying, he told his children in a serious way: "If I could have invested some money and bought insurance, I would still be a rich man now." "Nowadays, many rich second generations say that their families are very rich and have endless money to spend. In fact, this is an extremely naïve statement. Many rich people went bankrupt overnight, and the examples of people going from a lot of money to a debt-ridden one day tell people that no matter how much money they have, if they can't have a good plan, they will run out one day.

Of course, there are many examples of the opposite, such as the Rockefellers in the United States. America's premier wealthy family has been prosperous and powerful for six generations. The family owns huge shares in metallurgy, munitions, automobiles, aircraft, chemicals, rubber, food, insurance, and other industries. The strength of his family even had a huge impact on the domestic and foreign affairs of the US federal government.

The old Rockefeller was very good at teaching his children. Whenever he had free time, he taught his son how to write business letters, how to make payments accurately and quickly, and how to keep accounts clearly. He is well aware of the reality of society and the coldness of the world, so he often uses some special ways to educate children, so that they can learn to be strong and shrewd before stepping into society. At the age of 23, Rockefeller Jr. stepped out of school and stepped into Standard Oil's New York headquarters at 26 Broadway, where he served as assistant to the president. Rockefeller Jr. had six children, the eldest being his daughter Babs, and the others were boys, from oldest to youngest, John, Nelson, Lawrence, Winthrop, and David. Like his father, John was a hard-working and responsible, but shy by nature, and became a "philanthropist" in his family, and in 1974, President Ford appointed him vice president of the United States, after successfully serving an astonishing four consecutive terms as governor of New York.

The Rockefeller family has lasted for six generations, and it is still developing strongly, far breaking the curse of "no more than three generations of rich", the secret of which is "education". The Chinese have a famous saying: Anything can be lost, only the books you have read will not be lost. Yes, there is Yan Ruyu in the book, and there is a golden house in the book. Studying and becoming an official was a wise move in all dynasties of China. Reading is a way for the poor to change their fate, and it is also a magic weapon for the rich to continue their wealth. Reading can make people know the world without going out, and reading can make people learn from the rise and fall of history. Scholars must behave in a standardized manner and behave elegantly, and scholars must not be arbitrary, domineering, and indulgent in immorality. Although the monarchs of all dynasties have sat in the world, it is the scholars who really govern the world. Therefore, self-cultivation and governing the country and leveling the world have become the eloquence of scholars.

In order to read, Su Qin hung the beams and pierced the bones, Kuang Heng chiseled the wall to steal the light, Jia Zhong sang the snow and flew the snow, and Yue Fei smelled the chicken and danced. In order to study, Meng's mother moved to her third place, and Zheng's painting was a godson. Whether it is Su Qin, Kuang Heng, Jia Zhong and Yue Fei, or the mother of Meng Ke and Ouyang Xiu, they all know that "reading makes the future, and knowledge changes destiny". Moreover, they have indeed achieved fame and become the pillars of the country through their own or their godsons.

Whether it is the child of a poor person or a rich family, whether it is seeking fame or keeping the family business, studying is the only way to go. There is an old Chinese saying that "it is better to teach a man to fish than to teach him to fish", and it is more important for parents to encourage their children to read and teach them a craft than to leave them a fortune. I know several middle-aged people who worked part-time jobs in the 80s or 90s and had hundreds of thousands or even millions of assets. However, after the world financial crisis, their factories collapsed, but instead of making money, they also took on a lot of debts. Therefore, I had to rely on hard work to make a living. In today's highly competitive society, employees can't do without culture, and bosses can't manage without knowledge, and these need to be read and educated. Let's take a look at Bill Gates, the president of Microsoft, Zuckerberg, the president of Facebook, the president of Hanergy, Li Hejun, and the founder of Alibaba, Jack Ma.

It can be seen that reading and studying can not only keep the family business, but also innovate and develop and expand the family business. Therefore, in addition to giving our children the material wealth that we can give, we must not forget to give them more important and valuable wealth, that is, to give them the education they deserve, to give them the spirit of entrepreneurship and hardship, and even to give them a craft or skill. (To be continued.) )