Secrets that should not be known Zhang Baotong 2017.1.10

People are always strangely curious about other people's secrets, but they do everything possible to hide their own secrets. Pen %Fun %Pavilion www.biquge.info Because some secrets will make you lose face, or even ruin your reputation and break up your wife. Therefore, once some secrets that should not be known are known to others, it will not only damage his own reputation and reputation, but also have a great impact on others.

People live in society, and there are always positive and negative images. The positive image is the side of his social life that he shows off and shows to others, while his negative image is the private and unknown side of him. In front of the public, he wants to portray himself as a well-behaved and responsible person, so that people feel that he is a positive, decent and moral public figure. However, being a decent and excellent person is very tiring, and you need to restrain yourself with various behavioral norms and moral requirements, and you need to quit and give up many temptations and desires that make people obsessed. However, how many people can resist this kind of confusion in the world? Not to mention anything else, who can resist only money and beautiful women?

As an ordinary person, murder and arson, theft and robbery are generally unlikely to happen, and most of the most common secrets are some emotional derailments or red apricots out of the wall. This kind of thing is very easy for everyone to happen, because people are emotional animals, with joys, sorrows, sorrows, seven emotions and six desires, and even romantic feelings and beautiful dreams. And it can be said that no man or woman can tolerate that his love life is always so dull and lifeless, without a little freshness and romance. However, how many emotions and love are there in our lives and in our love and marriage? Even if there are some periods of love, how many will be married, especially after many years of living in two people, how many couples can still maintain the residual warmth of love? Even if there are, there are very few. Therefore, extramarital affairs, extramarital affairs, extramarital cohabitation, keeping lovers and even **** are commonplace, and it is not surprising. However, such a thing will not only cause great damage to marriage and love. And it can also make a person lose his reputation and face. Therefore, many people will have extramarital affairs, extramarital affairs, extramarital cohabitation, foster lovers, or ***** but they cannot let others know. Once known, the consequences will be dire.

We have watched "Water Margin" and "Paganini", Wu Song killed his sisters-in-law Pan Jinlian and Ximenqing because he knew about Pan Jinlian and Ximenqing's adultery. And Paganini killed his mistress Amati because he found a young little white face hidden under the bed when he returned from his hometown. It can be seen how serious the consequences of extra-affair and extra-affair are. Of course, in today's society, there are endless incidents of men and women cheating on each other, and people will not deal with this kind of thing as extreme as Wu Song and Paganini, but even so, this kind of thing will cause irreparable pain and loss to both parties and families.

I used to have a neighbor in my family, a young couple in their early thirties, both working in the railway department, one was the foreman of the station section and the other was a nurse in the hospital. The man's parents were the leaders of the hospital, so they arranged for their daughter-in-law to be in the hospital. Later, when my parents retired, the hospital began to engage in competitive recruitment. The daughter-in-law was facing layoffs because she did not graduate from a nursing school and her professional level was not strong, but she was young and beautiful, and she soon got involved with a middle-aged leader in the hospital. Instead of being laid off, she was transferred to the logistics management department. The matter remained for several years without anyone else knowing. However, the man's mother was later informed. So, the man immediately divorced his daughter-in-law. However, because of their daughter, the two did not remarry after the divorce, until five years later, the two remarried under the persuasion of their daughter.

In the past, when I was in secondary school, I had a colleague's wife who worked in the passenger depot. The nature of the work in the passenger section is to spend half of the time on the bus and half at home. Therefore, there are many rumors about the ups and downs of men and women. Colleagues often hear some rumors about their wives, but they don't take it seriously because they don't have any specific evidence. However, once he was drinking with someone else, and someone leaked out about his wife's cohabitation with someone else before marriage. So, he returned home to extract a confession from his wife. My wife had no choice but to admit her mistakes before marriage. The people who are teachers are very face-conscious, and they can't allow their wives to sleep with others, so they divorced their wives. However, soon after the divorce, he felt regretful. However, my wife is already married to someone else.

When I was in college, there were two class cadres in our class, they were excellent in both studies and other aspects, the two of them could be said to be like-minded, flying like wings, and they were inseparable, and they were called golden boys and girls by their classmates, talented and beautiful. Seeing that they were about to graduate, the two were about to get a marriage certificate, but at this time, I don't know who found out that the male classmate had been married in the past. The male classmate fell in love with a rural girl when he went to the countryside and received a marriage certificate, but the wedding was not held, because the male classmate was quickly recruited into the city and divorced the rural girl. However, when the female classmate heard the news, she immediately broke up with the male classmate. Later, after graduating, both of them were divided into secondary schools in the city. The female student became the vice principal, and the male student became the director of the district education bureau, but their marriage was not ideal. Every time they meet each other at a class reunion, they are very stunned. The female classmate even told us more than once that it would be nice if she didn't know what happened to him at all!

Yes, if the neighbor didn't know about his wife's affair with the head of the company, they wouldn't have divorced because of it, and if the teacher didn't know about his wife's marital uncleanliness, he wouldn't have parted ways with her. If this female classmate didn't know that the male classmate who loved her had received a marriage certificate with someone else, maybe they would have been a family for a long time. However, there are many secrets that you should not know and that are completely out of your control. However, once you know these secrets, you should know what to do. The consequences vary depending on how it is handled. For example, I have some examples of this in my works "Divorce" and "The Coordinates of Corrective Love", in which a middle-aged woman found that her husband who was a professor had a long relationship with a young widowed female boss, but the husband refused to admit it. So, the woman took her husband to confront the landlady face to face, but when they walked to the landlady's luxurious villa, the woman suddenly changed her mind, she felt that she could not push her husband to someone else, so she took her husband's arm and took him to the ballroom.

A few years ago, when I traveled to the mountains of Shangluo, I met a rural woman. She told me the story of a long and secret cohabitation with another man. She said that she was twenty-five or sixteen years old at the time, and that she was a fairly good-looking person, and that she and her four-year-old son contracted a commissary outside a secondary school normal school. The school is dedicated to training primary school teachers for the region. A third-grade boy used to come to her shop, and they quickly became acquainted with each other. The boy used to hide in her small shop before the lights went out at night, and the two lived together until the next morning, sneaking back to the classroom for lessons. They lived together so often until the student graduated, because of the long-term cohabitation, the two had a relationship, and the boy insisted that she divorce her husband and marry her. However, she felt that the boy was several years younger than her, and that it was not easy to divorce in the countryside, so she did not agree. However, the boy kept chasing her. Once, the boy wrote her a sincere letter and included a photo in the letter. However, her husband received the letter. The husband called her back from outside and showed her the letter. She read the letter and knew that she could no longer hide the matter, so she said to her husband, "This is the case, if you think you can tolerate it, it should not be such a thing, and you are not allowed to mention it again, and if you think you can't tolerate it, we will divorce." Of course, my husband refused to divorce, and as soon as she got divorced, she might go to marry the student, and he, a peasant in the countryside, would he go to find such a daughter-in-law?

In the same way, I have a friend who is very familiar with him, who drives a lot and travels a lot, and who earns a lot of money. He had been living with a Ma Zi who was a divorced woman who had no proper occupation or income, and was completely dependent on my friend. Originally, the two had been living together, no one knew about it, and they were safe. However, the two have a deeper relationship after a long time. Ma Zi asked my friend to divorce his wife and marry her, but my friend just wanted to play with her and didn't want to marry her. Later, that Ma Zi actually called my friend's wife, told me about their cohabitation, and asked my friend's wife to divorce my friend. My friend's wife told my friend about it because she didn't have a good job and was old, so she wouldn't agree to the divorce. When my friend heard about this, he felt very sorry for his wife, and immediately called Ma Zi to break up.

Extramarital affairs and extramarital affairs are a deep secret to anyone. Once the east window incident occurs, the paper can't hold the fire, how to deal with it, it is worth thinking about. If you take this kind of thing very seriously, you will feel that the sky is falling and the earth is shaking, and if you take it lightly, then it is just a cheating affair between a man and a woman, and there is no need to chase it to the end, not to forgive, or to cry and wipe away tears, looking for death and life. And don't be like Shakespeare's Othello, when he hears that his wife is having an affair with another man, he believes it and strangles his wife to death in a fit of rage. Later, he found out that this was just a trap set by others for him, so he remorseed it and drew his sword to kill himself, causing a tragedy through the ages.

In fact, in daily life and work, each of us has our own secrets, and we also know some secrets of others. We must carefully preserve our own secrets and not divulge them. Because if these secrets are revealed, they will not only cause great harm to ourselves, but also to our families. And for other people's secrets, we don't just want to tell them out. In the past, when I was in secondary school and in the education committee, the relationship and personal relationship between some leaders and female teachers or female colleagues was almost an open secret. However, people are careful not to talk about these things. Because this kind of thing is a very sensitive secret, if you don't do it well, you will hurt others and endanger yourself. Moreover, some people let the leader know because they talked about the leader in private, and they quickly demoted him to another place.

In this way, many secrets belong to the privacy of the individual, like a lion in a cage. If this lion does not come out of the cage, it will not cause harm to others. But if it comes out of the cage, it's going to hurt.