The best gift Zhang Bao 2017.11.7

I've heard the saying, "The best gift parents can give their children is to love one another." ”

I have had the privilege of witnessing the truth of this famous quote for over 40 years. For as long as I can remember, parents have been like a team, or even like a partnership. They're not just partnerships, they're more like people.

Of course, they also have arguments, but we are under the impression that any differences of opinion will be dealt with and resolved. My parents were very poor when they first got married, but they worked hard and struggled for many years to build a very successful business. They each have their own strengths and weaknesses, but they can learn from each other's strengths and weaknesses in their work, so you can never see their shortcomings, only their synergy.

Dad is outgoing and good at interacting with people, and can quickly fall in love with others when he gets along with people. People know Dad. However, when they met their mom, they felt the same way. Although her mother is not shy at all, her role behind the scenes makes her more comfortable. She is meticulous and meticulous, arranging all kinds of affairs in an orderly manner, so that the business can run normally and orderly.

One of the biggest lessons our parents have taught us about love and marriage is how to talk about your spouse. Have you ever heard of husbands and wives saying mean things to their spouses when they talk to others? This is what people usually do. Of course, maybe they're joking, maybe they're not. But these words, whether positive or negative, can have an important impact.

But you'll never hear that from my parents. Dad always talks about Mom in the most generous and passionate words. It's the same with moms.

This lesson made such an impression on me. I still remember when I was 12 years old, we installed carpets in our home. The foreman is a typical drunkard who has a hard life, presumably belonging to Ralph Crumdon in the raccoon hut of the kind of honeymoon TV show. At lunchtime, my family bought pizza for the workers. Dad went to the boss to talk about the job. I listened to them in the corner.

The boss said, "It's an expensive job. Women really spend your money, don't they?

Dad replied, "Okay, I'll tell you." They were with you before you had money, so, will be happy to do anything for them after you have some money. ”

This is not the answer that the carpet installer wants to hear. He was looking for negative jokes about his wife, which came naturally to him.

And then he said, "But, my gosh, they're really going to run out of money, aren't they?"

As I thought, Dad replied, "Hey, when they're the reason for your success, you'll want them to do what they love." That's the greater joy of life. ”

There were two pushbacks, but the foreman said again, "They'll do what they can, huh?"

Dad replied, "She's the nicest woman I've ever met in my life." I'm willing to do anything to make her happy. ”

I try not to laugh.

I knew he wanted Dad to back down and say, "yes, I guess that's true." ”

But that's not going to happen...... It won't happen in a million years!

Eventually, the installer gave up, shook his head in confusion, and went back to work. Witnessing my dad in that moment taught me more about loving and respecting your wife than anything he ever told me about it.

Mom and dad are now retired and enjoy their lives together, just going out, reading, and visiting their children and grandchildren. They recently celebrated their forty-third wedding anniversary.

They are still holding hands, and they love each other more than ever. Over the years, whenever my mom reminded me that I should get married, I would say, "Mom, I still have a lot of time." She jokingly said I didn't have that much time.

My dad would look at me in that way he was full of wisdom and growing up on the city streets and say, "Hey, you're not too small anymore. If you marry someone else, that woman is half like your mother, and you will live a happy life. ”

I should have been lucky.