Both lost Zhang Baotong 2017.4.22

Last night I watched the movie "Fox Hunter", which is an American movie based on a true story. The story of the www.biquge.info is a wealthy John of the Dupont family, who sponsors a frustrated Olympic wrestling champion Mark, who is determined to win the next Olympic championship and bring glory to the United States. John funded Mark and invited Mark's brother David to be Mark's coach, and the two even referred to each other as father and son, but just because of a trivial matter, John and Mark turned against each other, so that John shot David and was sentenced to life imprisonment. And Mark has been down ever since. ended up losing both.

It just so happened that I had just finished writing the novel "The Fall of the Inca Empire". It is written that the twelfth king of the Inca Empire, Vayna Capac the Great, on his deathbed, violated the centuries-old rule that the throne must be inherited by a boy born to the king and his own sister, and gave the throne to Prince Huascal, the son born to his sister, and gave the province of Quito as a kingdom to Prince Atahualpa, the son of Princess Paria, the eldest daughter of the former King of Quito. The two brothers are in the same room because of power. As a result, the Inca king Huaskar was captured and killed. When Atahualpa, the king of Quito, led 80,000 elite soldiers, he was captured by 169 soldiers led by Pizarro, a Spanish pig officer, and Atahualpa offered to exchange a whole room of gold for his life. But the Spaniards killed him when they got their hands on the gold. It is not so much that the Inca Empire was destroyed by the Spaniards, but that the Tao was destroyed by themselves.

Both works reveal the tragic phenomenon of human beings who painfully hurt and destroy each other (presumably self-harm and destruction), that is, both lose. In fact, there are many well-known examples and lessons of this phenomenon in ancient and modern times, both in China and abroad. Such as "Romeo and Juliet" and "Hamlet", such as the power struggles and wars of Chinese dynasties.

The main reasons for the enmity and defeat between the two are interests and dignity. Paris, the prince of the ancient city of Troy in Asia Minor, fell in love with the Spartan beauty Helen and brought her back to Troy. Thus sparked the decade-long Trojan War. The whole of Troy was slaughtered by the Greeks. Othello strangled his wife to death in anger after hearing rumors that his wife Desdemona was having an affair with his lieutenant Cissio. When he learned the truth, he drew his sword in remorse and killed himself, and fell beside Desdemona. From the uprising in 1628 to the defeat in 1645, Li Zicheng fought a 17-year war with the Ming government, although the Ming government was slowly brought down, but he and his rebel army finally let the Qing army be destroyed.

There is an idiom story about losing both, saying that once upon a time there was a man named Bian Zhuangzi who saw two tigers about to bite a cow, and when Bian Zhuangzi saw it, he immediately drew his sword and rushed to fight with the tiger. Someone next to him advised him, "If two tigers compete for a cow, they will bite each other because of the grabbing of food, and the small one will definitely be bitten to death, and the big one will be injured because of it." At that point, if you go and assassinate the wounded tiger, you will be able to kill both tigers. Bian Zhuangzi listened to the man's words and stood from a distance to watch. After a while, the two tigers really fought. As a result, the little tiger was bitten to death, and the big tiger was seriously injured. At this time, Bian Zhuangzi swung his sword and rushed forward, killing the injured tiger.

During the Warring States Period, Han and Wei attacked each other and fought for more than a year, but still did not distinguish the winner. King Qin Hui planned to send troops to intervene, but he couldn't make up his mind for a while. At this time, Chen Zhen told this story to King Qin Hui, and King Qin Hui listened to Chen Zhen's opinion, and sure enough, Han and Wei were completely destroyed.

Throughout modern times and history, the pattern of power struggles often presents a situation of the Romance of the Three Kingdoms. The balance of power and interests is one and the other, checking and balancing each other, with the praying mantis catching cicadas and the yellow finch behind. Therefore, the result of the fight between the two is often the battle between the cranes and mussels, and the fisherman profits. The debater Su Dai borrowed a folk fable to illustrate that Zhao Yan's stalemate would bring disaster to both countries. He told King Huiwen that Yan and Zhao fought against each other and caused both sides to lose, and I am afraid that the powerful Qin State is waiting for the fishermen to profit. King Huiwen listened to Su Dai's advice and immediately stopped using troops against Yan. Even today's world pattern is like this, China, the United States, and Russia are in the triangle of romance, so no country dares to rashly use force against the other. This is because if two countries go to war, it will inevitably lead to the loss of both sides, and the third country will benefit from this.

Lose-lose situations do not occur only between countries or groups, but are more common in our daily lives. For example, in a unit, the director and the deputy director of the bureau pinch each other, and the result is that one is transferred and the other is dismissed; for example, the husband and wife resented each other and have discord, and the wife is angry and hacks her husband to death with an axe; for example, two good card friends start a knife because they have not said a word; for example, lovers suddenly turn their faces because of a small profit, and turn against each other for hatred; for example, brothers are fists and feet against each other because of the distribution of inheritance, and they do not share the sky; for example, neighbors are-for-tat because of a piece of land, and they do not give up an inch of land. It's no wonder that some people commented on "Fox Hunter" and said, "The story of the film is trying its best to dig out the true meaning of a chaotic life." Because this kind of chaos in life can cause family members, friends, teachers and students, and even family and intimate relationships between fathers and sons, husbands and wives and brothers to turn against each other in an instant, and even cause disasters and destruction like floods and earthquakes in an instant.

In fact, human beings already have a lot of ingenuity to solve problems, either by force or by intelligence. The role of force is to conquer and subdue, but the power of wisdom is to convince and persuade. Conquest and subjugation inevitably lead to resistance and revolt, and it is easy to lose both. Although human beings understand this definition and truth, willfulness and arrogance always tempt people to use power to conquer and oppress. Therefore, there have been all kinds of tragedies and disasters. For this reason, we can see that Iraq, Syria, Afghanistan and Libya have been plagued by power and hegemony for many years without quelling the chaos and catastrophe caused by power and hegemony.

In our daily lives, we can also use calmness and wisdom to deal with and avoid all kinds of resentment and hatred. Sometimes, we go toe-for-tat because of a small profit, but we don't know how many times the losses and disasters caused by doing so are many times greater than that small profit. Sometimes, because of arrogance and willfulness, we are impulsive, tearing our faces, and even using knives and guns, but we don't know how much dignity and face you will lose because of this.

If we always cherish the emotions of harmony and harmony in our hearts, and do not offend others or worry too much about others' offenses, we will avoid many risks and troubles. If you think about it, what we usually see when husband and wife are not in harmony and friends are enmity, in fact, it is because they didn't say a good word, or something was not satisfactory. If both sides can value peace, take a step back, and give way to each other, wouldn't it be calm and happy?

Harmony and peace give us not only peace and tranquility for a while, but also a good environment for continuity and stability. And this good environment can provide us with a lot of convenience and assurance, so that we can be calm and concentrate on doing whatever we want without interference. To be committed to this harmony and peace, we cannot force others to be consistent with us, we cannot force others to do what they do not want to do, and we cannot interfere with the will and freedom of others. Even if others are at fault, we should use reasoning and persuasion to help them understand and correct their mistakes, and we should not use coercion and coercion to force them, let alone use violence and force.

In a civilized society and an international environment, people or countries often have a mutual relationship, either to repay favor and to repay virtue with kindness, or to return violence for violence and revenge. It's like a person looking in the mirror, you smile in the mirror, the person in the mirror will smile at you, if you look at the person in the mirror, then the person in the mirror will also smile at you. Therefore, in order to avoid making enemies and losing both, we must treat people with kindness, be diligent in communication, resolve contradictions with sincerity and wisdom, and resolve contradictions, so as to achieve peace and harmony between each other.